Would you let your 14-year-old child...

[Lil_Tink]

This is the only possible way I would agree!

Under normal conditions there is no way, I would however plan something so your not home that night, maybe an overnight trip someplace. This way it's easier to explain to friends and you won't appear to be so overprotective.

I don't feel you are being overprotective at all, if we don't protect our children who will? There is no such thing as an overprotective parent, especially in today's world!

(also with my school) we had a co-ed sleep over at a hotel..It was only boys in a room or girls in a room.. we could hang out until 12am with supervision...(until security came cause we were having a boy vs girl dance off -teacher included-) but then girls had to go to their room and boys to theirs

 

[jgmklmhem]

After reading this and agreeing that my answer would be NO....I was trying to find examples from my youth of similar things.

-Choir Tour most nights were with host families or hotels that the adults kept close watch on...but some nights were on other church gym floors. Girls and guys and adults all in the same place seperated just into sections. The rule was though if you were caught corssing whatever line for any reason other than a big emergency you were going to be on the next flight home at your parents' expense.

-Lock Ins I don't know about you guys but whenever our church had a lock in type thing it was an all nighter and no one slept at all including the adults so there were never any problems

-Beach week Since I lived in a beach town normally a week before graduation when most of us were not in school anyways someone had a beach house rented. I remember spending the night one night with a co-ed group and my parents didn't care. Nothing went on (sexually at all) and again no one slept that I remember.

Maybe I grew up in a different universe but none of my friends were having sex in high-school. None of my bigger group were having sex in high-school. I don't remember it ever coming up at parties or other events. Making out sure but sex nope. Maybe it was the setting being "the best and brightest" (we were the "smart" kids bussed into another school for a special program). No one got pregnant. Drugs and alcohol were around but sex just was not an issue. It also isn't that I was oblivious. A big group of us gets together most Christmas Eve's and a few years back this topic came up and pretty much everyone agreed with what I said above. We didn't have any great sex ed at school....a 1 week thing in one class that was very basic. Don't get me wrong we were horny as hell ( well I was). Sex just wasn't an issue. This was only 10 years ago too. I also don't think it was a self righteous type thing either because although I was church active many of my friends were not. Again maybe we were in a different universe.

 

[ericamanda01]

Not in a million years would I allow my child to attend a party like this.

 

[Mermaid02]

No Way!

 

[janice1234]

my 14 year old son would not even ask. no way!!!!!!

 

[cruisnfamily]

apparently you've not heard of the current fad.

Lipstick parties...some teens are much bolder than you can imagine...

OK, do tell

 

[The Princess]

No Way!!!!

 

[Darcy]

Yes, as long as i got the sleeping bag next to her.

 

[Darcy]

Yes, as long as i got the sleeping bad next to her

 

[bengalbelle]

I remember taking band trips in high school, and hearing about kids who would get together in one of the hotel rooms --- and yes, couples would do it in the same room, on the same bed even.

That was nearly 20 years ago - God knows what they would do in front of each other nowadays.

A couple had sex in the back of the bus (after dark) on our way to Washington DC for a school trip (this was 15 years ago). If they want to have sex, they will find a place.

I can think of some rare instances where I might consider allowing my child to do this but in this case I would have to say NO WAY!!

 

[3gr8kids]

There are too many parents these days who care more about being their child's "friend" than their child's "parent." I don't know if it's parents with low self-esteem that would just die if their child didn't always like them or what, but there are quite a few that will do anything the kid wants just to make them happy.

ITA. There is absolutely NO WAY I would let my DD go to a boy/girl slumber party.

~ Karla

 

[disneymom3]

apparently you've not heard of the current fad.

Lipstick parties...some teens are much bolder than you can imagine...

This is EXACTLY what I was thinking! I have heard them referred to as "rainbow parties" but I am sure they are the same thing.

Heck, my DD wanted to have some friends of hers who are boys at her slumber party when she turned 8 and I said no. 8 year old boys--at least these ones think kissing girls is icky and they still couldn't come.

 

[Disney1fan2002]

I remember taking band trips in high school, and hearing about kids who would get together in one of the hotel rooms --- and yes, couples would do it in the same room, on the same bed even.

That was nearly 20 years ago - God knows what they would do in front of each other nowadays.

OK, forgive me, but I can't resist this:

This post should of started with, "one time, at band camp...."

I am so sorry! I couldn't resist~

 

[Sparx]

I am a teen, and no way would I go, or if I were a mom, no way would my children go. that just isn't gonna happen.

 

[Sparx]

This is EXACTLY what I was thinking! I have heard them referred to as "rainbow parties" but I am sure they are the same thing.

They are.

 

[sweet angel]

Thanks for all the "NO!" replies!

Little more info. The people down the street have 3 kids -- a girl 14, a boy 12 or so, and a toddler. My DS is friends with the girl (not so much the boy). It's not a party for a reason (i.e., birthday, grad, etc.) -- just kind of "we want to hang out and just sleep there". I tend to doubt that my DS would venture into anything more than kissing (but you never know), but I don't think it's necessary for him to sleep there.

If they were going away on vacation (and I knew the parents), it might be different. But they're not and I don't, so no.

 

[KristiKelly]

It would be a definite no in this house as well.

Lipstick & rainbow parties??? Can someone fill me in??

 

[Toby'sFriend]

Lipstick & rainbow parties??? Can someone fill me in??

there is a thread here somewhere -- would you let your daughter read this book?

From what I gather, girls put on various colors of lipstick and then ...
let's just say Oral Sex is big amongst the younger teen crowd these days.

 

[bengalbelle]

there is a thread here somewhere -- would you let your daughter read this book?

From what I gather, girls put on various colors of lipstick and then ...
let's just say Oral Sex is big amongst the younger teen crowd these days.

I believe that thread went *poof*

 

[Beauty]

We had quite a few of these parties when I was younger. It was always our little group from church spending the night at a friend's who lived waaay out in the country (by a Haunted House but thats another thread). Anyway I would say we had parties from 14-16 or so and the only thing that ever went on was very mild kissing. That, however was 16 years ago and things are VERY VERY different.

My son and his very VERY distant cousin are best friends. J.C. is 13, Holley is 12 and even their closeness bothers me because since the are cousins (even though its like 10th cousins) they think its okay to hug and hold hands and play in each others hair. I'm not ready for this.....LOL! DS is the same way with his other best friend who is a girl and not even a year older, but since she is ONE grade higher than him its okay to hug on her because thats his SISTER.

Nope, unless it was a church oriented thing, AT THE CHURCH, CHAPERONED BY THE YOUTH MINISTERS then I wouldn't let my son go. Teenagers SCARE me now days!