Would you let your 14-year-old child...

[tiki23]

Absolutely not!

I have two teen boys and a 12 yr old daughter, and for the last couple of years we have had "girls weekend" and "boys weekend." My daughter cannot have one of her friends over to spend the night when one of the boys has someone sleeping over, and vice-versa.

My boys know to be on their best behavior when it is "girls weekend" and my daughter hides in her room on "boys weekend" because she thinks her brothers' friends are geeks.

 

[nemo1987]

NO WAY!! I am almost 18 and even at that age, I would have known better than to ever ask my mom who would have said no. I spent the night many times at friends' house, but it was always just the girls. One friend had a little brother that bothered us, but that was the only boy around ever and he got back what he gave us.. toothpaste on his pillow and face along with feathers on his face afterwards.... heheheh we were evil!
**Sarah**

 

[Disney1fan2002]

no, I've never allowed my son to do the Boy/Girl sleepovers. My life has more than enough stress in it thank-you.

When our church does youth group sleepovers -- the Pastor comes and gets the boys at around 11pm and takes them to his house, which is right next door, to sleep.

Of course, I guess they could always sneak out.

Now you guys have me all worried about that.

Now, being Catholic, even this sounds disturbing to me!

 

[daughter_of_amid_chaos]

I went to a coed slumber party in 8th grade over on Martha's Vineyard..so i was a boat ride away from my parents. All of my best friends were there. The parents made sure we didnt get in any trouble by locking the girls in the guest cottage at curfew and setting the alarm with laser beams so the guys couldnt go below the second floor of the house.

 

[JoeThaNo1Stunna]

I was 14 only 7 summers ago, and I say NO WAY. You will absolutely regret it if you this happen.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Absolutely not!

ETA: The only mixed gender event that I did was prom-night...it was at my friends parents house--and the goal was to stay up all night....all girls and one guy who we invited to join our group. Totally plutonic and well behaved and the mix was 17-18 yo's....though I think my friend was 16...she was a junior and it was a jr/sr prom. Her parents allowed the all nighter--but we had to be at her home between midnight and 5am. Then it was to the beach for the sunrise .

 

[daisy_77]

I would not let my 14 y.o. attend a mixed slumber party. I guess I am just old-fashioned

 

[MUFFYCAT]

I would say no, However they don't do that in my neighborhood anyway.

 

[DisneyLovingMama]

Now, being Catholic, even this sounds disturbing to me!

Glad I'm not the only one who thought that. I'm also Catholic.

 

[Laurajean1014]

No way. I went to one when I was 14 or 15. People were having sex everywhere. But not me.

There were also about 5 people in one room for a long time......

Experimenting with kisses and stuff, fine. But this, no way.

 

[sk!mom]

No WAY!!!!!!!

 

[BrerLizzie]

Not a mom, but nope, no way.

My little cousin is 14 and so is a good freind. They've both told me middle school horror stories and the girl says she wants me to 'protect' her next year from the boys.

I believe they had two pregnancies this year. I also was told by a teacher at the school that they've had people getting cought having sex or giving oral in the bathrooms. That never happend 3 years ago.

 

[Aidensmom]

Is it me? Can someone please tell me if I am going crazy?

WHAT THE HELL IS GOING WRONG WITH SOCIETY????

There are too many parents these days who care more about being their child's "friend" than their child's "parent." I don't know if it's parents with low self-esteem that would just die if their child didn't always like them or what, but there are quite a few that will do anything the kid wants just to make them happy.

That said, there is NO WAY I would let my son go to a mixed-gender slumber party!

 

[Toby'sFriend]

ow, being Catholic, even this sounds disturbing to me!

well that is a shame.

But in our case, our Pastor also has his wife of 20-some years in the house to supervise.

 

[Lynn CC]

I went to a coed slumber party in 8th grade over on Martha's Vineyard..so i was a boat ride away from my parents. All of my best friends were there. The parents made sure we didnt get in any trouble by locking the girls in the guest cottage at curfew and setting the alarm with laser beams so the guys couldnt go below the second floor of the house.

This is the only possible way I would agree!

Under normal conditions there is no way, I would however plan something so your not home that night, maybe an overnight trip someplace. This way it's easier to explain to friends and you won't appear to be so overprotective.

I don't feel you are being overprotective at all, if we don't protect our children who will? There is no such thing as an overprotective parent, especially in today's world!

 

[Lil_Tink]

I'd have to ask the parents IF THEY WERE CRAZY!?!? Mixed slumber parties at the age of 14?? Uh, NO!!!!

There are 14 year old's having babies all over the place.... won't be my kid if I can help it... JMHO here!

It depends on what it is.. I have been to one..But it was girls in one room, boys in the other and parents inbetween (it was for school to) and I am somewhat or was somewhat a tom boy so the guys where my friends not like that way like wanting to have babies.. Do you trust your daughter..Thats the main thing

 

[MICKEY88]

And it would take a very bold couple to attempt something in a room with 15 of their friends all together and parents going in and out, nobody really sleeping. If they wanted to have sex there are much easier places for them to do it.

apparently you've not heard of the current fad.

Lipstick parties...some teens are much bolder than you can imagine...

 

[Lil_Tink]

Yeah.. I agree a unsupporvised sleep over for me (im 14) would be a know.. The other day I went to one of these (plenty of adults and such supporvision) and I still felt a little uncomforatble as there was 16 boys and 4 girls.. But I used to be best friends with a guy so I did sleep over at his house (with his sister and suppervision) and we were just friends so it worked out..But I'd say no to unsuppervised.. I mean what if the parents dont care and all the teens are in the back yard..

 

[va32h]

And it would take a very bold couple to attempt something in a room with 15 of their friends all together and parents going in and out, nobody really sleeping. If they wanted to have sex there are much easier places for them to do it.

I remember taking band trips in high school, and hearing about kids who would get together in one of the hotel rooms --- and yes, couples would do it in the same room, on the same bed even.

That was nearly 20 years ago - God knows what they would do in front of each other nowadays.

 

[Lil_Tink]

no, I've never allowed my son to do the Boy/Girl sleepovers. My life has more than enough stress in it thank-you.

When our church does youth group sleepovers -- the Pastor comes and gets the boys at around 11pm and takes them to his house, which is right next door, to sleep.

Of course, I guess they could always sneak out.

Now you guys have me all worried about that.

Hehehehe.. Our church pastor took us girls and we went to play a trick on the guys..But it failed.. we planned on going there at 5 am (with the responsible adults) and knocking on the doors going "WAKE UP"