Would you have expected your DH to help out in this situation?

[Freyja]

Of course he should have helped out. Can´t even see why that should be up for debate. No way I would have let DH get away with being such an a**.

 

[A4Disney]

My friend just left my house -- she is fit to be tied. She was supposed to get pictures taken of her three kids for Easter today. After church, she got them all bathed and dressed. Her Dh didn't really help out, and never does. He just complained the kids were making so much noise. She ran out of the house, not realizing she left her wallet at home (she had taken money out to give to her DH, because he had no cash on him).

She called her DH and asked him to come please come to the mall with her wallet. He refused, saying he had other plans (to work on "his" room in their basement). She asked him to please help out, as it was only a 20 minute drive to the mall, but she would miss her appointment if she drove home and had to go back. He still refused, then blamed her for making him feel like a non-DIS approved word.

So, she left the mall (after checking with the picture place to make sure they couldn't take a check with her work id) and came here. I had to lend her a few dollars for gas, so she could actually get home. Her low fuel alert went off about 5 miles from here. Home is still 15 miles away from here.

Part of me thinks its her fault for being such a space cadet (no fuel, forgotten wallet), but I know if she had called ME and I had no real plans today, I would have gone to the mall and let her borrow money for pictures. I kind of think her husband should have helped out.

What do you think?

Her dh sounds like the such a self centered jerk..I couldn't be married to someone like that!

 

[A4Disney]

My dh wouldn't have been able to bring me my wallet because he would have been with me. He also would have been helping me get the kids ready to go. Sounds like your friends dh is a huge jerk.

Exactly!Same here..

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I would never be married to someone like that, for real. He rarely helps with the kids and can't be bothered to help out by bringing her wallet? Not someone I'd be interested in sharing my life with.

Same here. Boggles my mind, really.

 

[kpm76]

OMG, what a complete jerk!! Even if your friend was scatterbrained, she got 3 small kids ready for pictures all by herself....she had every right to be!!! I agree with some other posters, I think her DH should have been with her....I can't even imagine taking 3 kids to get their pictures taken by myself....kudos to her

 

[Stitchfans]

When I hear stories like that guy I am even more thankful for my DH. Sure he can annoy me sometimes but I know if I need him for anything he will be there for me.

 

[Kimickey]

My soon to be ex DH had butt*** moments like this. That's why he will be my ex in less than a month. Dang I can't wait

 

[paslea_pooh]

My dh wouldn't have been able to bring me my wallet because he would have been with me. He also would have been helping me get the kids ready to go. Sounds like your friends dh is a huge jerk.

Mine too , My dh would be at the mall with me trying to get our kids to smile pretty. She called him b/c she Needed him, that was not the time for a lesson on organization.... he could have had that conversation with her later in a loving manner.

 

[Nancyg56]

That is just sad. This was not just about his wife. This was how he feels about his entire family. How will his children feel when they can understand that they are not the sun in their dads world?

 

[cwnhokie]

My dh wouldn't have been able to bring me my wallet because he would have been with me. He also would have been helping me get the kids ready to go. Sounds like your friends dh is a huge jerk.

Ditto
And he would have his wallet, because I would have left my wallet and the coupon at home.

 

[SillyMe]

My question is "Why do women have children with men like this?" I mean why would you want to contribute that type of gene to the pool?

How can you possibly know that he will end up being that kind of father?

I agree with the single mother living with a ghost comment.

 

[Taylor]

I have done this for my wife in the past, and would do it in the future.

This guy sounds like a real self centered jerk....

 

[Eeyore'sthebest]

How can you possibly know that he will end up being that kind of father?

I agree with the single mother living with a ghost comment.

I agree. My sister's soon to be ex went from a loving DH to a complete self-centered jerk when he realized that it was no longer all about him.

And my DH would have been at the mall with me, complaining about how late the photo studio is running, but still there with us.

 

[hentob]

How can you possibly know that he will end up being that kind of father?

Because I betcha a million bucks he was that kind of boyfriend and that kind of husband before the kids came along

I am 100% confident that my husband would never, ever treat me like that. I would bet my life on it. I can count on him for ANYTHING and vice versa. Always. Why would anybody marry someone that would show them less than 100% love and respect?

Her husband is beyond a jerk.

 

[ducklite]

How can you possibly know that he will end up being that kind of father?

I agree with the single mother living with a ghost comment.

Ok, I'll rephrase. Why would a woman have a second child with a man like this? Although I'd have to think the writing would be on the wall before she got pregnant...

Anne

 

[DebIreland]

I think this is very sad. It's not just about a forgotten wallet and a moron who wouldn't bring that wallet to his wife and children, it's about the frustration that she must have felt. I can just imagine it, having been there, trying to get three children ready for an important event - getting the clothes out, running baths, washing hair, packing bags, getting lunch out of the way, trying to keep the children clean, trying to be punctual etc. etc. and then to get there and realise you have no money and their Dad could save the day but won't (I haven't thankfully been in *that* situation), oh, that's enough to make my head explode. Poor woman. She needs a lot of TLC. Here's some second-hand hugs for her and those little kiddies who got all dressed up and probably looked adorable and won't have their cute photos at the end of the day

 

[Eeyore'sthebest]

Ok, I'll rephrase. Why would a woman have a second child with a man like this? Although I'd have to think the writing would be on the wall before she got pregnant...

Anne

Okay, now I agree Anne. My niece is an only child. Dsister was too tired being a single parent (while married) to want a second!

 

[Stacerita]

What a jerk.

 

[paigevz]

My dh would've grumbled, but he would've brought it. Actually, he would've combed the boys' hair and gone with. He never thinks I do their hair right.

What an idiot. And the whole "teach her a lesson because she's scatterbrained"...........well, of course. 3 kids and no help. Of course she's scatterbrained..........that's why she was out of gas too.

What's bad about this is she's a single mom with none of the single mom "perks"........which is not having an unruly, "extra" child as old as you are!

 

[THE HAT]

stories like these just make me love my dh even more.
dh would have helped me get everyone ready, gone with us, and if we had forgotten something he would have fig a way to get it taken care of, and still make out appt.
i never take him for granted, and i do know that i am very lucky to have the marriage and parenting partnership i do have.
i am sorry for this women, and the children especially, as they are the true innocent victims.