Would you have a problem with this fundraiser?

[BuckNaked]

I think that, that is probably the most insensitive thing I have ever read.

Sorry if you find the truth to be insensitive, but it is what it is. What the OP is doing is wonderful for that one child. But it is no more noble than the people that donate $30,000 to help save many children.

 

[Beth76]

http://thyroid.about.com/library/weekly/aa050199.htm

yes infertility can be a disease, maybe not life threatening, but still a disease non the less

Very first line......

Undiagnosed and untreated thyroid disease can be a cause for infertility.

Infertility can be a symptom of an illness. It in itself is not an illness.

ETA: OP, I'm sorry about what this thread has turned into. I really do wish you all the best on your journey to bring your daughter home.

 

[kdibattista]

ETA: OP, I'm sorry about what this thread has turned into. I really do wish you all the best on your journey to bring your daughter home.

Me too ... thanks

 

[poohandwendy]

Infertility is not a disease, it is often the final result of disease...but it is not an illness nor is it a disease. (not sure why that even matters, though)

 

[poohandwendy]

I really do wish you all the best on your journey to bring your daughter home.

Me too.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

ETA: OP, I'm sorry about what this thread has turned into. I really do wish you all the best on your journey to bring your daughter home.

ditto

 

[huey duey & luey]

Infertility is not a disease, it is often the final result of disease...but it is not an illness nor is it a disease. (not sure why that even matters, though)

Blindness can be the result of diabetes, do you not treat it?

 

[BuckNaked]

Blindness can be the result of diabetes, do you not treat it?

What does that have to do with anything? Adoption is not a treatment for infertility.

 

[huey duey & luey]

Sorry if you find the truth to be insensitive, but it is what it is. What the OP is doing is wonderful for that one child. But it is no more noble than the people that donate $30,000 to help save many children.

so the next time you buy yourself a cup of coffee, think about how that dollar could feed a starving child for a day

 

[poohandwendy]

I just have one question regarding the main issue brought up by the OP. You asked if anyone here would be offended by the idea of this type of fundraiser. Many people have said yes, they would.

I am just wondering if you would be offended if any of your close family and friends decided not to participate? I ask because I think there is a very strong possibility for hurt feelings and damaged relationships when money is involved. I think that is what would be what I would find offensive. Because I would feel that I was being forced into an obligation and that I would be looked down upon if I did not participate.

(FWIW, I would privately give friends or family members money if I felt they were in need, without asking. no matter what the reason. I think the asking is what puts people in an uncomfortable position)

 

[huey duey & luey]

What does that have to do with anything? Adoption is not a treatment for infertility.

No, it is not a cure, but it is definitely a treatment

 

[BuckNaked]

so the next time you buy yourself a cup of coffee, think about how that dollar could feed a starving child for a day

Another meaningless analogy, seeing as I have yet to spend $30,000 for a cup of coffee.

To clarify yet again, I don't care how much people spend on their adoptions, nor do I care whether or not people choose to donate to help children. I'm just saying that to act like anyone spending thousands of dollars to adopt a child is somehow performing a more selfless and noble act than those that donate a similar amount to help many children is ridiculous, IMO.

 

[BuckNaked]

No, it is not a cure, but it is definitely a treatment

No, because a treatment would work towards trying to cure the infertility. Adoption doesn't cure infertility.

 

[poohandwendy]

Blindness can be the result of diabetes, do you not treat it?

Yes, you treat it, because it is debilitating. I am not sure how any of this has to do with the OP.

 

[huey duey & luey]

Another meaningless analogy, seeing as I have yet to spend $30,000 for a cup of coffee.

To clarify yet again, I don't care how much people spend on their adoptions, nor do I care whether or not people choose to donate to help children. I'm just saying that to act like anyone spending thousands of dollars to adopt a child is somehow performing a more selfless and noble act than those that donate a similar amount to help many children is ridiculous, IMO.

Ok seeming as this is a disney realted website, I am assuming you enjoy taking trips to disney. This does cost thousand of dollars, just think of all the children that could be helped with that money

 

[Sandy22]

If you know where they can adopt w/o a wait, please post the agency or pm the name and I will pass it on to them.

There are agencies all over the US that are in desperate need of parents to adopt AA infants. They should have no problem with agencies in Georgia, Utah, Illinois, Michigan and Buffalo. Just google adoption and the state or city to get the list of agencies. A lot of the agencies will list their available "situations" - I just took a quick look at a few sites and there are available, drug free, AA babies due in the next month.

Maybe there's something in their homestudy or profile that's a problem?

 

[BuckNaked]

Yes, you treat it, because it is debilitating.

Exactly.

I am not sure how any of this has to do with the OP.

It doesn't.

 

[BuckNaked]

Ok seeming as this is a disney realted website, I am assuming you enjoy taking trips to disney. This does cost thousand of dollars, just think of all the children that could be helped with that money

You're right, they could be. And what is your point? As I've said twice already, I don't care how much the OP (or anyone else, for that matter) spends on their adoption. But let's hold off on the canonization, shall we? Unless of course you're ready to bestow it on those that spend the same amount and help many more people...

 

[huey duey & luey]

No, because a treatment would work towards trying to cure the infertility. Adoption doesn't cure infertility.

the end result of a treatment does not always mean a cure
very often it is making the current situation more bearable

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

No, it is not a cure, but it is definitely a treatment

Prescribed by whom?



Would you hold fundraisers to finance fertility treatments or IVF? Those are treatments.

Adoption is a solution. Not a treatment.

Noone has disputed that is was not a solution to the problem of not being able to conceive and carry a child to term.