Would you give your kids the Master Bedroom?

[Conservative Hippie]

I would consider it if I was going to put three or more in one bedroom. But I really love my ginormous bathroom!

When we were kids my mom (single mom) always had the master, my two brothers had the next biggest, and I had the smallest.

 

[Piecey]

Hm. I knew my parents were strange.

After high school, I went to a local chapter of WVU-- and worked two jobs. I came and went at crazy hours and we never really got along. Their solution was that I take their master bedroom, downstairs, with it's own door outside, more room, it's own bathroom and they'd throw in the fridge by the pool, etc. if I stayed at the local college instead of going to a more expensive school. Also, because their room was in the basement and so the temperature was crazy hard to control and my room was upstairs, much easier to control!

I ended up declining because it was too weird to me. I moved out a few months later anyway.

 

[JessicaR]

Nope can't think of a single reason why I would give my bedroom up for the kids. Especially for kids that just felt entitled to it, no way!

 

[pooh4evr]

Not here -as for the 15 yr old in the original post I wonder what she would have done if her stuff was packed up and moved to the new house in a regular bedroom when she was at school! Got to be kidding me!! Each girl in their own room in their own bed!! The baby 16 months us even in her own twin bed now and sleeps so much better than she did in her crib!!

 

[yeartolate]

It would depend on the home. If the communal areas were smallish, I might be tempted to have a kids room that was larger so there was more room for grownup company.

I would never say never. But alot of the homes in my area are relativly small, the difference between a master and a basic bedroom is probably less than 50 50 square feet.

 

[disneymom3]

Let me add....I wouldn't do it because my child had so many toys or because my child demanded it. If a child of mine demanded it, he/she would be laughed at.

Yeah, like hysterical doubled over laughter that would make me fall down I was laughing so hard. DD almost 12 is definitely thinking lately that she is due more than what we think she is due but I sure don't fall for it!

 

[MELSMICE]

I wouldn't, but my DD's all have their own rooms & they are all a good size. Our house is much different than the one I grew up in.

Growing up there were 4 kids in my family, 3 girls & 1 boy. We lived in a small 3 bedroom ranch. None of the rooms were large. I am the oldest, my brother 10 years younger (youngest). When I was about 13 my parents moved us 3 girls into the master bedroom & they moved into a smaller room until we were grown & started moving out of the house. My brother had his own room, after sharing with my youngest sister for about 3 or 4 years.

The room was not big & even though it was considered the "master" it was still small for 3 of us. So, honestly, I think it depends on the reason you would be doing it I guess. I certainly wouldn't do it "just because" or because a child of mine just wanted it.

 

[SandraVB79]

In Belgium, we don't really know the concept of "master bedroom" (although that concept is coming into the new built houses) and we also don't have walk-in closets or so.

The house I grew up in has 4 bedrooms, they are all just as big, and 2 bathrooms. The bathrooms can be accessed from the hallway, and two bedrooms have direct each access to a bathroom.

My parents have the bedroom that is connected with the bathroom on the second floor, my oldest brother had the bedroom next to them and shared the bathroom with them.

My youngest brother had the bedroom connected to the bathroom on teh third floor, I had the room next to him and we shared a bathroom. While there is a door from his room to the bathroom, this door is blocked by bookshelves etc. He'd rather use that "wall" and go through the hall to get to the bathroom.

 

[NHdisneylover]

For the reasons stated in the OP--no way in Hades

There are vaild reasos for it as others have posted. In my own case, in college my parents moved into a new (for them) home. Even though I was only home in the summer and over the holidays I had the master in that house. The two bedrooms were on opposite ends of the house and my parents liked the way the light came into the smaller room better, so they claimed that as their room.

 

[dzorn]

In the scenario that was described by the OP, I feel sorry for those children. They will not be prepared for life.

(I picked this quote because I do not see the two situations as the same. Nothing personal)

Where in the first case does it say the child demanded the master bedroom? I think the two situation are completely different. When I read the OP I did not think the 5 year old demanded it, it was for the parents convience. The teen I would have left at the old house.

Right now DH and I have the smallest room. Not much room for more than our bed, two dressers and a small book shelf. That's all we need. If we're in there with lights out I do not need much space. (OK sometimes we leave the lights on)

I would rather have DD's stuff remain in their room than having them drag it into the living room to play. That keeps the house cleaner and brings less stress to me than having a bigger room for myself and DH.

I would never give a child a certain room because they demanded it. It is strictly my choice on what works the best.

BTW none of our room have a bathroom attached as we have only one so that has no bearing on what room they would have.

Denise in MI

 

[Disney Doll]

My parents would have laughed themselves silly if I had ever said I would not have moved unless I got the master bedroom.

Don't have kids. Wouldn't give them the master bedroom if I did have them.

 

[FoundMyPrince]

My children can have a master bedroom when they pay the mortgage.

 

[sha_lyn]

I wouldn't in case no 2, but have in a similar situation to no 1
We bought our 2 bedroom 1 bath "fixer-upper" 10 yrs ago. DS was 8, and DD 3 months. The master bedroom did not have a seperate bathroom. the 2 bedrooms were on one side of the house near the bathroom and on the "quiet" side of the house.
DS had a lot more "stuff". Too much to fit in the smaller bedroom or in the diningroom. So DS got the master bedroom, DD the smaller bedroom, DH and I converted the diningroom into a bedroom.
5 yrs ago we added onto the house. DH and I now have a master bedroom and bathroom. Ds remained in the old master bedroom until he moved out last yr. DD is in a new bedroom that islarger than her old one. It's about the same size as DS's old room and just slightly smaller than ours. Her old bedroom is now our office/classroom.

 

[pansmermaidzlagoon]

absolutely not in the cases given by OP and not in our case. I can see it for practical space issues.

DD could use a bigger room, but that doesn't warrent giving her a big bedroom/sitting room area with a big master bath. I have considered giving her the spare bedroom as a desk/study and chill area. Her room is so small. She could really use a space for a homework desk and that kind of thing. Right now her play/toy room is in the upstairs laundry room - which is a converted fourth bedroom - but not sure that would be a good room for study/homework down the road. I am thinking of using that for both of us for arts and crafts when she out grows the toys.

 

[MrsPete]

The only scenario I could see giving children the master suite would be if perhaps they were going to have to share a bedroom anyway and there were more of them than parents, like three or more children of one gender.

But a single child getting the master room? Oh, no no no no.

I was going to say this same thing. If I had several kids who were going to share, I'd consider giving them the bigger room . . . but that isn't the case in our house.

I'll also throw this out: If my child needed a wheelchair or some other medical equipment that might necessitate extra space, I would give the child the larger bedroom . . . but, again, that isn't the case in our house.

I have a couple friends who have a house with two-masters, and in each case the oldest child has A master, but now THE master bedroom.

Thinking back to my own childhood, we had a small apartment on the side of our house; I had the bedroom and my oldest brother had the living room in the apartment. I had a "real" bedroom and a large closet, but he had more space, a fireplace and an exterior door. The younger children were all in the "real house". This allowed all five of us to have our own room. Gee, we don't sound like kids who grew up in poverty, do we? It wasn't a nice house, but it was big!

 

[RLccweems]

I wouldn't. If I'd asked my parents for it they would have laughed themselves silly.

And yet yesterday I spoke to what is now the second person I know who has let their child have the master bedroom.

Case #1: Parents build a beautiful new custom home about five years ago. They told me that now they have moved all of their stuff into a smaller room and given their 5-year-old the master because he "just has so many toys".

Case#2: A family that said their teenage daughter "would not move" unless she was given the master bedroom. She was given it! (Sorry if that wasn't clear. I mean they sold their house to buy another one in the country and their daughter refused to move unless they let her have the master bedroom of the new house).

What do you think? Would you do it? Have you done it? What is the reason?

No way....who's in charge at the house? The parents or the child?

 

[freckles and boo]

We have two very large bedrooms on the second floor. Currently my husband and I are in the larger of the two and the girls (ages 6 and 8) share the other one. The third bedroom in our house is on the main level and is currently a playroom. We hadn't planned to put the girls in their own rooms for a few more years but things don't always go as planned. Our younger daughter is autistic and some of her behaviors are really starting to upset her sister - she chatters on and on at bedtime, she makes a lot of messes, and she gets into her sister's things. When we separate them they will both be upstairs and my little "mess machine" will get the big room with the vast majority of the toys. We will move downstairs to what is currently the playroom because we don't want either of them downstairs on the main level by themselves. They don't run the house but the circumstances are such that this will be the best solution for all of us.

 

[Sonya]

I got it when I was a teen, for a few years. My parents moved their bedroom downstairs (with its own shower and bathroom) and I got their old master upstairs that had no shower, just a toilet and sink. Their house was built in the 50s, when all rooms were small. My old bedroom wasn't much bigger than the master! The spare bedroom became my mom's sewing room.

Now my DS5 thinks that we need to move things around, he needs to be in the master bedroom with me and his dad can move into his room. He also said he would marry me. So would that be OK?