Would you ever trade in your engagement ring for a different one?

[bigbabyblues]

I did, and I don't regret it. I had a 1/2 carat marquise (that I picked out to start with) and traded it on a 1-carat round stone (also that I picked out). I've also had two different wraps, and four different wedding bands (all one marriage, lol), and I had the round solitaire reset in white gold a couple years after I got it. I do have my original wedding band, but I don't wear it.

DH didn't have a problem with it, he just shakes his head and laughs when I change my mind about the wedding bands. I probably won't trade the diamond I have now, I like it. I'm not attached to the rings, just the meaning behind them. DH also picked out a different wedding band a few years after we got married. He still has his original also, it's in my jewelry box.

 

[DisneySarah80]

If my DH wouldn't flip out, I'd like to just sell my diamond ring, and pay off some bills. He bought it before we had kids, or a house, or any bills really,and it was expencive. Now we have kids, a house and a bunch of bills, and I don't wear it anymore anyhow....

 

[LuLuO]

If my DH wouldn't flip out, I'd like to just sell my diamond ring, and pay off some bills. He bought it before we had kids, or a house, or any bills really,and it was expencive. Now we have kids, a house and a bunch of bills, and I don't wear it anymore anyhow....

You may as well keep it, because unfortunately you won't get even a fraction of what he paid for it.

 

[Wishing on a star]

I did.... And, I don't regret it either. Not at all... And, DH was happy to see, and for others to see, the slightly bigger, and more beautiful ring on my finger.

It's just an object....

I agree that for some reason, some woman just want 'that huge rock'...
And, I don't really go with that.
But, if the stone is tiny, the design and/or metal of the setting is just not as pleasing (things change!). I have no problem with that, at all.

I would be happy if DH replaced his wedding band.
He has a very nice, heavy, comfort-fit, wedding band.
But, it is very, very, plain.
And, gold instead of platinum.
Anyhow, DH was happy when we got my new ring.
We both like it SO much better!
But, for some reason (maybe $$$) he doesn't ever want to part with his wedding band!

 

[Sarah_Rose]

My mom "traded up" for their 20th anniversary. Her engagement ring didn't have one central diamond but many diamond "chips" that made up a sparkly cluster in the middle. It was what they could afford when they got engaged, but she rarely wore it because she was an RN and didn't want it getting in the way while working. For their 20th anniversary, my dad picked out a beautiful setting with a round diamond. Now that my mom is retired, she wears it all the time and loves it.

I can't imagine ever trading in my engagement ring, but my husband did put a lot of thought into it and I love it. He knew I wanted a lower profile (as in height-wise) ring so he picked out the setting and then was picking out the diamond to go with it. As the diamond increased in size, the setting would get higher to accomodate the larger stone.... so he chose to go with a smaller stone to keep the ring smaller. The people at the jewellery store were trying to convince him to go with a cheaper setting (he chose the Tiffany Lucida setting) so that he could "afford" a larger diamond, but he finally explained what he was trying to do and they came up with the perfect ring.

 

[1novascotian]

One of my best friends recently upgraded her engagement ring.

They get married next summer.

Before they got engaged she had told him what she was hoping for in a ring, he did not follow her advice and purchased a ring that the sales person even warned him would be difficult to find a band to match because it was an odd shape and nothing would sit flush to the ring.

After much research they found out that that the only way they would get a wedding band to fit with the ring would be to order a custom band.

I went with her to meet with a custom jeweller and we discovered that it would cost more have a custom wedding band made to fit with the ring that it would have been to buy the engagement ring/wedding band set that she originally wanted.

After some discussion between the two they decided it made more sense to purchase the other set, that she had originally wanted.

They have both warned my DBf that it would be best to just follow what I have pointed out as an example as a future ring for me, it will be easier in the long run.

 

[Eeyore98]

No way! I have no problem with those who do, but I never could. I am just way too sentimental! I am also not a big jewelry wearer, so I don't have the style/matching concerns that others might.

I'm also pretty sure my DH would feel hurt. For a while we had the idea that I would wear the engagement ring only until the wedding, and then we would both just wear our (matching) wedding bands. That didn't even last the first year before he admitted that he would like it if I wore both.

 

[diznygirl]

I couldn't either. Again, like Eeyore98, I have no problem with others doing it but I couldn't do it myself. My engagement ring has history and what I think is a sweet story.

My wedding band was another thing - got that upgraded at 5 years. I had to have a custom band made to fit my engagement ring and it turned out horrible! I lived with it until we could afford another. The one I have now is sooooo much nicer and I'm really happy with the "set" that I currently have. No need for any further changes as far as I'm concerned.

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

No way! I have no problem with those who do, but I never could. I am just way too sentimental! I am also not a big jewelry wearer, so I don't have the style/matching concerns that others might.

I'm also pretty sure my DH would feel hurt. For a while we had the idea that I would wear the engagement ring only until the wedding, and then we would both just wear our (matching) wedding bands. That didn't even last the first year before he admitted that he would like it if I wore both.

I couldn't either. Again, like Eeyore98, I have no problem with others doing it but I couldn't do it myself. My engagement ring has history and what I think is a sweet story.

My wedding band was another thing - got that upgraded at 5 years. I had to have a custom band made to fit my engagement ring and it turned out horrible! I lived with it until we could afford another. The one I have now is sooooo much nicer and I'm really happy with the "set" that I currently have. No need for any further changes as far as I'm concerned.

Same here. I can absolutely see examples, as in diznygirl's situation, where I might want to replace it though.

My DH worked for a jewelry company and gave me a necklace (rope chain) when we got married. A while later, I was visiting him at work and someone said "Here, give me that necklace"...I thought he was going to clean it. Instead, he gave me a new one, exact same style. I was taken aback and didn't say anything, but I was in tears later! I made my DH get my other one back.

 

[Pea-n-Me]

Yes, I have, twice. Once I changed the setting and then I upgraded the stone, as we were able. (Engaged at 20 without the proverbial pot to pee in or window to throw it out. )

If I'm going to wear something on my finger for a lifetime, I'd like to like it.

 

[Kae]

I had mine reset. When my grandmother past My dad & uncle have a ll the diamonds split between the grandkids. then my dad took us to a jewelerMy little sister & I had our wedding rings reset kept our main stones & added my grandmothers diamonds to them & new settings. my older sister got a big stone so she gat a right for her right hand. I love it now. I still have some diamonds left so I would like another ring made with my dads wedding band used for the gold.

My old sister got married when she was 16 so for their 20th my BIL gave her a new ring & for their 30th he added more diamonds to it.

Kae

 

[tinatark]

I've upgraded mine several times.

Got married at 19, .25 carat pear diamond solitare with a plain gold band on either side of it.

After my youngest son was born, around 9 years after we got married hubby gave me a round stone with a marquise on each side of. The band was bendy, it was impossible to match a band to, so

That round stone went on a wide gold band with the marquise stones on each side. Stuck with that until our 15th wedding anniversary when my hubby gave me my *last* (as in, final!) wedding ring. It's a 2 carat radiant cut solitare with another carat of diamonds in the setting. Beautiful, and I love it!

I still have the other 2 sets, too - won't ever get rid of them!

 

[CurlyGirl]

No way I'd change! It was my Mom's ring!

 

[mhsjax]

I would never replace my engagement ring. I did not he was going to ask me to marry him and did not expect him to. He went out, without me knowing, and picked out the ring he wanted me to have. I am sure he considered which one I might like, but ultimately it was his decision since I never wore jewelry and jewelry was never a topic of discussion....ever. I love my ring. It is about 1/3 carat, which these days is considered extremely small and probably was back then too, but it was a huge expense for him at the time. Honestly, the size of the diamond and simplicity of the ring is what makes it so important to me. It reminds me of how things were when we started out. If something happened and the ring was stolen or lost, I would not want to replace it.

Wow, for some reason that rubs me the wrong way, "the one he wanted you to have? Sorry but if I am wearing it, it would be the one that I wanted to have. I guess if you don't love or wear jewelry it is different. And before anyone gets all uptight, it isn't about size, I don't even care about diamonds, they are worthless. I like what I like, and I won't wear something I don't like. This is why I have already told my son, never buy the ring without her approval, it costs way too much money for something that you really crazy about. And yep, I have and will again trade mine in, if we are able. It is jewelry, not a person, the ring didn't ask me to marry it, my HD did and he has no problem with me getting what I like.

 

[spacemountainmom]

I'm too sentimental. I would not change mine for anything.

We were young and poor when we got married. Dh had a budget and told me I could have a bigger diamond and a plain wedding band or a smaller diamond and a more elaborate wedding band. I chose a 1/3 carat round solitare for my engagement ring and a 1/4 carat channel set diamond band for my wedding band. I did have them soldered together.

My MIL was just a pill about it. She kept telling me to choose something smaller. I refused since I would be wearing it for the rest of my life. She kept insisting that I could upgrade later. I asked her if I should upgrade from her son later too. DH told her to back off, that it was our decision and not hers.

I am very happy with my set. I think it is timeless. My dh did give me another channel set band for our 6th anniversary that I wear with the wedding set. He has purchased many other pieces of jewelry for me over the years and I love them all.

 

[penn19]

Already have once, and would absolutely do so again. My first one was a chip. Actually a chip of a gem stone with smaller chips of diamonds and it was cheap but all we could afford. Still have that one but dh bought me a new ring for our anniversary. It doesn't really have any sentimental value so to trade it up is no biggie.

 

[OceanAnnie]

I'm too sentimental. I would not change mine for anything.

We were young and poor when we got married. Dh had a budget and told me I could have a bigger diamond and a plain wedding band or a smaller diamond and a more elaborate wedding band. I chose a 1/3 carat round solitare for my engagement ring and a 1/4 carat channel set diamond band for my wedding band. I did have them soldered together.

My MIL was just a pill about it. She kept telling me to choose something smaller. I refused since I would be wearing it for the rest of my life. She kept insisting that I could upgrade later. I asked her if I should upgrade from her son later too. DH told her to back off, that it was our decision and not hers.

I am very happy with my set. I think it is timeless. My dh did give me another channel set band for our 6th anniversary that I wear with the wedding set. He has purchased many other pieces of jewelry for me over the years and I love them all.

Me too.

 

[Pumbaa_]

My sentiment is tied to the man I married, not the ring. And I have upgraded twice and would not hesitate to again What I liked at 17 and what I like now have changed leaps and bounds. Keeping my starter husband but not my starter ring

 

[ilovejack02]

I love my diamond , 3/4 pear shape diamond, very sparkly and decent size. At ten years he took my diamond and had it placed on a diamond and ruby band , with the matching wedding band . I love it and have asked for the matching band for other size. I get lots of compliments. Maybe one day I will get a bigger diamond, but I will use same bands and I will NOT trade in my original diamond. It would be lovely as a pendent, .. and then heck of course I would need the pear shaped studs to match . ; ) HMMMMM .. is it to close to Christmas to ask Santa.

 

[Ember]

It's an interesting discussion. I love my rings, but I also picked them out. Around the time we were discussing getting engaged, a lot of friends were also getting engaged. While many of my friends loved the sentiment behind their engagement rings, they didn't like the style of the ring. (Which I think is different than thinking the stone is too small.)

We had an honest discussion about it, and agreed that this was just silly. I would never expect DH to wear a sweater he didn't like just because I picked it out and he didn't want to hurt my feelings... The point of a gift is to delight the recipient, not the giver. To that end, DH decided he would rather that I genuinely love my ring than quietly not really like it to save his ego. So we went shopping together, which was really a lot of fun!

Now, DH was the one in our relationship who replaced his ring. He had a plain band for a few years. Then I got him a 2000+ year old Roman signet ring (after months of research!) for an anniversary. He is adamant that this is his "real" ring.