Would you be upset by this...(update on page 6)

[Sgt Mickey]

We have to be careful to not over-react when kids are "just being kids". When my son (now 17) was in kindergarten he and his classmate got suspended. They were hitting each other and giggling and finally started hitting each other in the privates. That is what got them sent home. (Both these boys were very good students and had never been in trouble) I remember the principal saying "We won't put this in their permanent record as sexual assault this time." WTH? Are you kidding me with this? The boys didn't even know what they had done! Crazy!

I agree. I may have orginally giggledBUT I ttoally understand about kids who are really shy and etc BUT that dosen't mean it should be blown out of proportion. She was probabley trying to be funny

 

[LaraK]

OK....spoke with the asst. principal this morning.

Sure enough, this is why she was calling. She asked if my son had said anything and I told her what I posted earlier that he said happened. She said that he was pretty accurate in what he told us last night, with a couple of additions.

The teacher left half day yesterday and they had a substitute (red flag number one). My son has severe constipation as a result of his diet and medications; so when he's gotta go, HE'S GOTTA GO! The little girl said that he forgot to turn the go sign to a stop sign and she went in by accident. Then she was upset I guess because my son was taking a long time (see above constipation comment). She "took his picture". I guess she also had the door swung wide open and the teacher saw it...it also means that the whole class must have seen my son (which DOES bother me more than I was bothered yesterday...kids tease). The substitute put the girl immediately on yellow. I guess the little girl flipped out and was super upset so they called the assistant principal over to help calm HER down. The asst. principal heard what happened and personally checked to make sure the camera (which belongs to another little boy in the class) was fake. She showed my son the camera and tried to reassure him it was fake (for when he told us what happened).

I ended up talking to her for a very long time. She was great and I'd never spoken to her before. I told her that we had spoken to my son the night before. I told her that I wanted her to know that my husband and I understand that kids will be kids and we wanted her to reassure the little girl's parents that we are NOT super upset and we are NOT going to turn this into some hugely big deal. The fact that she knows it was wrong is enough. The assistant principal was very appreciative and said that she was a little surprised at how well we were all taking it because most of "her parents" would be freaking out. She said she'd react like we were and she really was glad that we could look at the situation with perspective.

It does not sound like the girl got suspended, but they definitely addressed the issue. I am totally satisfied with the way it was handled.

 

[luvsJack]

Wonderful! Sounds like it was handled just right without a lot of hoopla and added extra trauma for the kids.

Good job, Mom! and good job to your school's principal too! some would have went off the deep end on something like this.

 

[Rora]

Sounds like it was handled perfectly by everyone involved! Glad things worked out!

 

[FireDancer]

Wow, a school that looks at the facts of a situation and applies reason and logic instead of a lazy "no tolerance" policy. Sounds like a good school run by intelligent people.

 

[princessmom29]

Wow, a school that looks at the facts of a situation and applies reason and logic instead of a lazy "no tolerance" policy. Sounds like a good school run by intelligent people.

Exactly.

To all of the parents that siad that if this was a boy doing this to a girl it woudl be handled differently I say, not in any school that has its ducks in a row, or in any school that doesn't want to get sued for discrimination. Punishments MUST be the same regardless of the sex of offender or victim, otherwise it is a discriminitory practice. I seriously doubt any school would treat boys and girls that differently, if not becuase they realize it is wrong (nad they SHOULD get that) then at least so that they are protected from lawsuit.

 

[Missy1961]

Sounds like it worked out fine.

 

[hrh_disney_queen]

OK....spoke with the asst. principal this morning.

Sure enough, this is why she was calling. She asked if my son had said anything and I told her what I posted earlier that he said happened. She said that he was pretty accurate in what he told us last night, with a couple of additions.

The teacher left half day yesterday and they had a substitute (red flag number one). My son has severe constipation as a result of his diet and medications; so when he's gotta go, HE'S GOTTA GO! The little girl said that he forgot to turn the go sign to a stop sign and she went in by accident. Then she was upset I guess because my son was taking a long time (see above constipation comment). She "took his picture". I guess she also had the door swung wide open and the teacher saw it...it also means that the whole class must have seen my son (which DOES bother me more than I was bothered yesterday...kids tease). The substitute put the girl immediately on yellow. I guess the little girl flipped out and was super upset so they called the assistant principal over to help calm HER down. The asst. principal heard what happened and personally checked to make sure the camera (which belongs to another little boy in the class) was fake. She showed my son the camera and tried to reassure him it was fake (for when he told us what happened).

I ended up talking to her for a very long time. She was great and I'd never spoken to her before. I told her that we had spoken to my son the night before. I told her that I wanted her to know that my husband and I understand that kids will be kids and we wanted her to reassure the little girl's parents that we are NOT super upset and we are NOT going to turn this into some hugely big deal. The fact that she knows it was wrong is enough. The assistant principal was very appreciative and said that she was a little surprised at how well we were all taking it because most of "her parents" would be freaking out. She said she'd react like we were and she really was glad that we could look at the situation with perspective.

It does not sound like the girl got suspended, but they definitely addressed the issue. I am totally satisfied with the way it was handled.

Doncha just love it when common sense prevails?!

 

[wdwfan16]

Sounds like it was handled perfectly by everyone involved! Glad things worked out!

I agree.

 

[EllenFrasier]

Glad the situation was resolved to your satisfaction. Perhaps the school should review the bathroom situation though. Maybe have the teacher flip the "occupied" sign over so nobody walks in on someone again? Or get one of those bathroom doors that changes the sign to "occupied" automatically when the door is latched?