Would you be insulted? Guest list issue...

[JJClemson]

I just found out yesterday that 4 of my cosuins cannot come to the wedding Ok that was mean, but these are cousins I really don't talk to.

DF and I have 4 mutual friends who were old teammates of ours in college. They know we're getting married in Disney and were very understanding, albeit disappointed, when they found out they weren't invited. Now that we have the extra room, we want to invite them. Would you be insulted being invited to a destination wedding w/ less than 3 months until the wedding? They'll know they were on the "b-list".

Also, we don't have room for them to bring a date. None of them have boyfriends/ girlfriends, but they're all good friends so we'd assume they'd share a hotel room anyway.

Do you think we should invite them

Thanks

 

[purplegirl247]

I think it's up the individual people and how sensitive they are, but I don't see a problem with inviting them. They should understand that you had to invite family first, but now you can open it up to others that are close to you. If none of your friends are dating anyone seriously, they probably wouldn't want to bring anyone on a destination wedding anyway. And like you said, *they're* all good friends, so it isn't like you're asking them to show up to an event where they won't know anyone.

Of course, I don't know these people personally, but if I were in your shoes, I think I'd go for it! We weren't able to invite any friends (only family), since we're having an intimate, and our friends are so disappointed, I'm sure they would jump at the chance at being able to share our special day. Good luck!

 

[princessdisneybelle]

I agree. I would go ahead. If they are close friends I'm sure they would be thrilled.

 

[PirateBride08]

I wouldn't be insulted. I would be so excited, especially if it were a Disney wedding. If you explain to them that you really wanted them to come but had to invite all family first I think they would be ok with it. I had a friend of mine say that they were honored that I even thought of them.

Good Luck! I hope they are able to come and share your special day!

 

[DisneyFairy19]

I say GO for it... I think they would be thrilled that they are invited...

 

[JJClemson]

Ok good, I'm glad no one thinks this is rude and insulting

So do you think we should call them tonight and explain the situation and then send the invite? I just don't know proper etiquette for this. I wouldn't just send the invitation without explaining, right

 

[myprincessgirlisa]

I agree with the above posts....Id ask them!!

I would be so excited that you had room & you could have saved $$ & left it alone, but you chose to include me/us!!!

Id go for it

 

[princessdisneybelle]

Ok good, I'm glad no one thinks this is rude and insulting

So do you think we should call them tonight and explain the situation and then send the invite? I just don't know proper etiquette for this. I wouldn't just send the invitation without explaining, right

I would call and explain. Then send a invite.

 

[disprincessatheart]

I think a personal invite - ie: phone call - first to explain the situation would be the best thing. The way you explained it on here was perfect. That way they'd understand taht they're really wanted and not just fill ins.

 

[JJClemson]

Thanks so much everyone for the advice

We're going to call everyone tonight and explain the situation. I am so excited, we were totally not expecting room for these friends. I so hope they are able to join us Now if I only had room for my DIS friends

 

[Maggimus]

Thanks so much everyone for the advice

We're going to call everyone tonight and explain the situation. I am so excited, we were totally not expecting room for these friends. I so hope they are able to join us Now if I only had room for my DIS friends

im glad you are inviting them. They will more than likely understand-- i would. Sometimes things are limited in terms of money and availability and i would just deeply express your hope that they will attend. Im sure it will be hard to go spare of the moment like this but i bet they will surely appreciate it!

 

[aprincess72]

I say go for it!

DF and I had similiar issues since we are doing an intimate and can only have 18 guests. We had to go with family first of course so instead of invites we personally called those we were inviting and explained the situation. Once we knew what family members would attend we then called our friends. We gave first option to our one married with kids friend and asked if he would like to bring the family or if not come with DFs other college buddies. This really worked out well for us and not one negative word has been uttered. I believe that those who truly love you will be understanding or make whatever concession needed to be there with you!

 

[Laurafoster]

Id say go for it too!! Im sure they would be really excited!!

 

[BettyBoop.IOA]

If they are good friends they will understand. And personally, if I was on the "B-list" of someone who was getting married at DW, I would still be thrilled to come see a Wedding at disney world!

 

[mcco5543]

Also a way to make them feel really good would be to mention how "your so excited becuaes the 4 people that cancelled were "obligatory" invites and how you'd really RATHER have them their and it would mean so much if they could go.

 

[heatherlynn444]

sometimes a B list is necissary and there is no way around it. there are people you WAHt to invite, and then people you are OBLIGATED to invite first. we did the same thing, we couldn't go over 250 ppl or we would ave had to pay a LOT more per perosn for the ones that went over, so we sent out some invites, awited to get some reply cards to get a feel for how much room we would have...then sent out more invites. some didnt get sent out till about 3-4 weeks beforehand (granted it was not a disney wedding far away) but people wer still thrilled to be invited anyway. most people will understand. hope they can come Jen!