Would this be a stupid idea?

[phorsenuf]

My DS is coming home on leave in December before deploying to Afghanistan (i've mentioned this before). He wants to take a vacation with the whole family to Disney as he has missed out on the last 4 trips.
Truthfully we are completely Disney'd out but I think its still something we should do.

My DH is opposed to it. He really does not want to go back and would rather sleep with a porcupine! LOL

The boys said they would rather go to Disney with their brother than get Christmas presents.

So, anyway, here's my idea. Instead of bringing the subject back up to DH (since I know he'll instictanly<sp?> say no) I thought I would write him a letter about why I think this is an important trip. I will tell him that I do not want an answer or not even discuss it for at least one week. I will tell him I want him to think it over very carefully before we make any decisions.

What do you think? Hokey?

 

[4greatboys]

Maybe the letter would be a good idea. You can just list all the reasons why this would be a good trip to take. Your circumstances around going are anything but normal and I dont know why you dh just says no.
If it were my ds we would be going and my dh could just stay home if he didnt want to go.
Good Luck!

 

[SleepyMom]

I think it is worth a try! Also, I think the not talking about it for a week is a very good idea, giving you both time to absorb it all. Hopefully he will see how important this is for your son and the rest of the family to do this together. Let us know.

 

[experiment626mom]

I think it's a great idea. It gives you the opportunity to state your case without being interrupted and gives your husband the chance to see how important this is to the whole family that this be done.

 

[phorsenuf]

I think it is worth a try! Also, I think the not talking about it for a week is a very good idea, giving you both time to absorb it all. Hopefully he will see how important this is for your son and the rest of the family to do this together. Let us know.

Thats my thought. Instead of a quick answer and a possible ensuing argument, he could take the time to mull it over and come up with any logistic questions.

4greatboys, I would probably would go without him and he did elude to that, but that defeats the family thing in my opinion....

 

[AllyandJack]

I think a letter is a great idea. This way, you can edit and change things. If it's a face to face conversation, you can't say, "Wait....erase that....this it better....."

I've been Disney'd out.....during my wedding/honeymoon, we were there for 26 days! But, we still had fun, even though we said things like, "I can't stomach The Haunted Mansion anymore....." and "If Minnie Mouse sneaks up on me one more time, a beat down will ensue...."

Good luck.

 

[noseybuddy]

If my son was being deployed to Afghanistan and wanted to go to Disney with his family before he left, I don't care how much my DH didn't want to go, he would be going. They only reason that I would not go is if the money wasn't available, other than that there would be no discussion. Off to Disney we would go.

 

[4greatboys]

4greatboys, I would probably would go without him and he did elude to that, but that defeats the family thing in my opinion....

I know I hope he does change his mind.