Would like your thoughts, pronto, please

[krcit]

I would go. When my dad died a few of my friends from elementary school came to the wake. It meant so much to me and I still remember them being there 20 years later.

 

[TeresaNJ]

Justine, I think we went to the same viewing. Was it at McGuinness in Woodbury? Anyway, my husband and I did go, and my friend, the deceased's mother, was so touched that I took the time and went, that she turned to my husband, whom she has never met, and said to him regarding me, "this is my best friend". OMG, I felt like crying. We hugged and hugged. I didn't realize how much I missed talking to her. Thanks to all who encouraged me to go.

 

[JustineMarie]

Yes, it was at McGuiness. So sad. I feel so bad for her family.

I am glad that you went! Maybe you can start to rebuild your relationship If ever a time that she would need a friend, now would be it.

 

[krcit]

I'm so glad that you went!

 

[Luv Bunnies]

Definitely go! I have some old best friends from high school that I simply drifted away from. If something happened to them, I would want to go and pay my respects to them and their families. Just because we haven't been in touch recently doesn't mean they weren't once a big part of my life.

I've found that people generally appreciate hearing from old friends during major events in their lives. I hadn't seen my old next door neighbor and friend for years when her dad died. I got her address and sent her a card saying I was sorry for her loss and that I had lots of good memories of her dad and mom (who had died years earlier). I never heard back from her until a few years later when we ended up working for the same school district. She sent me an e-mail saying how much she appreciated my card and how much it meant to her. Another high school friend lost her mom a few years ago. I did the same thing. I sent her a card telling her how much I admired her mom and things I remember about her. No response until a few months ago when I found her on Facebook. The first thing she said was how much she appreciated that card from a few years ago.

In my opinion, it's always good to reconnect with people whenever you can. It's not gawking. It's being warm and respectful.

 

[LuvCuteBoys]

I think it's more likely that you'll regret NOT going than you will regret going.

 

[mlittig]

I would also recommend that you go as I am sure it would mean so much to her that you did

 

[MickeyCrazedMom]

We just had my BIL's funeral on Thursday. My DH and I were overwhelmed by the people who came to pay their respects. People that we had not seen in 20 years or more. Not to gawk, but because they remembered DH's big brother and knew how hard it must be for the family. It made a really horrible day a little bit easier to get through.

 

[TeresaNJ]

I went. See above post.