i think, at that age, little ones still need to see the police as being their friends. They need to feel comfortable approaching a police officer if they need help.
A 6 yr old would be scared to death in this situation. The big, bad police officer has taken her away from her parent, and transported her to jail. All alone, scared, helpless.
I would imagine being scared to death every time she sees a police officer is what will "stick with" someone this young,not so much "stealing is wrong". Definitely not what i would want to teach my dds at that age.
Marching her back into the store, asking to speak to a manager, and making her return the item and apologize would have been sufficient, imho.
Uh, no. The mother handled the crime - because yes, even at six years old, shoplifting is a crime - in the most effective way she determined.roliepolieoliefan said:You take it as you want, I take it as I want. People define it differently. LIKE I SAID PREVIOUSLY, I felt she passed the buck because she didn't want to face punishment for her own child and passed it on for the cop to do it.
That's your child. You have no idea of the personalities involved in the actual event.If you put a kid in a policecar and threaten to put them in jail if they steal again, the kid will be scared of that person. I'm speaking of my 6 yo, because I know she would.
Sarcasm not required.But of course in your eyes thats wrong, because according to your definitions what I say is completely absurd and your opinions are gospel.
I'm guessing the mother and daughter in this case will never end up in juvenile court. Proactive = good.Sanchez said:From parental standpoint, I fail to see how involving the police fosters trust and respect. Go sit in juvenile court for a day and see the number of parents who would rather bring in the police to discipline their child because they cannot or will not.
I think this is a waste of the cop's time.
Last night, ds6 hit his sister - pretty hard! Therefore, I called 911 and had him arrested for asault and battery. I'm guessing he's not going to do that again!Next time she takes away his toy, I'm betting he comes to me first before resorting to violence.
A couple of points - According to the account, the child had not even removed the item from the store. So, is this shoplifting if the item is still on the premises? Second, there is such a thing as age of criminal responsibility. It's a lot higher than six years of age. Six year olds don't have the concept of right and wrong down completely. As a previous poster mentioned, they don't know how money works. So how come when Mom takes something from the store, that's OK, but not when I do it?
The Mom's nuts IMO.
Uh, no. The mother handled the crime - because yes, even at six years old, shoplifting is a crime - in the most effective way she determined.
**Again your opinion, IMOP, she could have handled it herself and not wasted the cops time.**
That's your child. You have no idea of the personalities involved in the actual event.
Sarcasm not required.
**Thats right my child and about 10 other families in my area who have 6 yo's. At the party I was at last night, I told them the story. ALL were appalled and all parents of 6 yo's. No I have no idea of the personalities but neither do you. And I like sarcasm, thx! Just returning the favor from the previous posts I was quoting.**
I'm guessing the mother and daughter in this case will never end up in juvenile court. Proactive = good.
I shoplifted at age 5. Got caught by a store clerk as well and returned the item. Then walked out of the store, re-shoplifted the item and went on my way. I knew it was wrong.
My mom sent me to the store to get some items with a finite amount of cash. I knew I did not have enough money for the candy and I took it anyway.
While the likelihood of me having any legal consequence was extremely low--a child of that age should feasibly have the concept down that when mom takes something from the store, she gave the clerk something and thus had permission to take said item from store.
And aside from me re-shoplifting the item, it was the last time I ever stole anything. But I totally knew it was wrong.
(No idea why my mom sent me to the grocery store at age 5 for an errand. I showed up on my Big Wheel.![]()
Could. More likely. the kid will grow up to (a) never again shoplift and (b) with a complete awareness that the police are our friends BUT when you do something against the law those same police uphold the law.roliepolieoliefan said:Again you have no idea of this. As I stated the kid could grow up and be scared to death of cops and dislike them. No idea.
Can you believe it? I don't know the PP, but I'm the oldest child in a large, closely-spaced, single car family. I was going to the store for my mom, alone, by six or seven... and (horrors) using the shortcut behind businesses on one side and the railroad tracks on the other side, and not visible from the road.cheermom1 said:your mom sent you to the store to buy things when you were 5 ????