Will your family name die out?

[kaylajr]

Most likely my Maiden name will
of all 14 of my grandfathers grandchldren only 2 were boys
my brother and my one cousin

well my brother has one little girl and i very much DOUBT he will have any more kids
and my cousin has no plans to ever have any kids so
this may be the last generation

 

[AdventurerKat]

I don't get it. If you want to preserve your family name, pass it down to your children if you have them, regardless of their gender. It's not exactly unheard of...

Well, I am proof that it is not unheard of of, but its not conventional and alot of people are. And as I said, I got alot of grief for it from my DH's side of the family (except him). Some of his family members still insist on mailing packages to my sons with his last name on them even. I don't know why they would do this except out of spite.

 

[Nutsy]

good point............. my maiden name will................my Mum passed away back in October and I have a brother, but he never married, so yeah, once he goes that's the end of the line.

I keep at him to get married and have kids, but he's 50 now and not exactly interested, so guess that's it..............him and me....I married had 2 boys, he stayed single and the name dies out.

ETA.............my married name won't die out in a hurry.......hubby has a brother who has 2 boys and 2 girl Iall married with children of their own) and we have 2 boys. BIL has 3 grandsons from his 2 sons and our boys are only teenagers yet, so there is still hope for ours. But DH's family has always been dominated by boys.......his father was one of 3 boys, 2 of whom had children 5 boys and a girl, DH is one of 3 boys (only 2 still living. But there are lots of males right through the family.

 

[minkydog]

Yes, my maiden name will probably die with this generation. I only have one brother. He has only one son. We strongly suspect the son is gay. I will b highly surprised if he produces a child.

 

[slo]

My last name will end with my DH and I (unless one of my girls doesn't marry, then I guess it will die with them).

My FIL has a sister that is married, so she doesn't carry the name.
My DH is an only child
We have only girls

So, this is why our last name end with us.

 

[KelNottAt]

My maiden name is gone. Well, it still remains with Dad, but not for long. Sad. It's a great name: Nottingham.

When DH and I got engaged I asked him if he'd be willing to change to Nottingham. He declined. Oh well. So, I took his name.

I could have stayed with my maiden and/or given the kids my maiden. But, I wanted to keep things simple, so we all have DH's name.

 

[MUFFYCAT]

My married name will be gone after my DH. He has no brothers nor did his father and we have 2 DD.
My maiden name will continue with my brother.

 

[mickeyboat]

My maiden name shouldn't die out - assuming my brother has a boy some day. However, there are lots of cousins who can carry it on. DH's name will die out with us - at least with our branch. There are still lots of cousins to carry it on.

Denae

 

[VSL]

Here in Iceland there are no family names, so no, mine won´t die.

I'm curious - do explain!

Family name goes when I get married. However, there are plenty of other people in the world who have the same surname as me so it's not exactly dying out.

 

[Bob Slydell]

Mine won't, at least anytime soon. DW's maiden name will, though, most likely. Her older brother and her uncle are the last two remaining male family members. Her uncle adopted one child, a girl, and my BIL is nearing 40, single, with very little hope of getting married anytime soon, let along have a child.

 

[DisneyMomx7]

Yes my maiden name will die out. I had one brother and two male cousins. My brother died at age 45 (cancer) and only had one daughter. My one cousin had one daughter and one son, however his son has down's syndrome. My other cousin had three girls. I did give one of my son's my maiden name as his middle name but when my Mom goes it really will be the end of our name, so sad.

 

[kimisabella]

My maiden name will die out also - I have two sisters, and no male cousins, so, when my parents pass away, so will the name - it's very sad..

 

[klmall]

Unless our son marries and has many, many children our name will die out too! My husband is an only child and our son is an only child. He has a few, elderly distant relatives but almost none are males to carry on the name.

It's not a big deal to me but it would have been to my in-laws if they were still alive! I do feel a little bit sad for our son but he does have many cousins etc. on MY SIDE so he will always have some family to have around him after we're gone.

My father-in-law was one of 11 children, an unusually large family for Baltimore City in the early 1900s. One of his sisters was thought to have died when a streetcar ran off a bridge in the Baltimore Harbor and her body was piled onto the corpses on the street. Someone heard her moaning and rescued her. Sad to say, she later died of pneumonia. Everyone of the 11 children had only 1 or 2 children themselves so the family was destined to decline it seems!

My mother-in-law's family lost a business to the Great Baltimore fire of 1904 which we have a picture of in our house.

My maiden name is going strong!

What an interesting topic!

 

[SleepyMom]

After reading all the responses I guess I am the different one here I usually am

Family names have never meant much to me, mostly because I grew up in a house with 3 different last names in it (step-dad, mom and 1 step-brother with one name, another step-brother with a second last name and DB and I with a 3rd last name).

My maiden name that the one DB has will probably go on for awhile, he has two boys. One step-brother changed his name after having kids, so his name is no longer the same as his children and 3rd DB will likely never marry or have kids.

On DH's side though it was a bit of a sore spot. Late MIL often commented on how the family name would only go on because of the one grandson (also known as the "golden boy"). She gave me grief because our DS passed away and we used a "family" name for him (he's named after DH) and so we wasted the name

 

[4nana]

My maiden name unfortunately has only 2 grandsons to carry on our name.

As for DH's name, our 3 DD's kept their maiden name as middle name when marrying, but our DS is the only one to actually carry on our family name and luckily he and DIL are expecting a little boy!!!

 

[4nana]

[My maiden name unfortunately has only 2 grandsons to carry on our name.

As for DH's name, our 3 DD's kept their maiden name as middle name when marrying, but our DS is the only one to actually carry on our family name and luckily he and DIL are expecting a little boy!!!

Here in Iceland there are no family names, so no, mine won´t die.

Is it true they take the father's first name and add 'son' or 'daughter'?

 

[4nana]

Sorry, double post.

 

[ReggieB]

I think you a right 4nana about Icelanic naming.

I kept my maiden name, my Dad died about 3 years before I married. I just couldn't give his name up. I don't think my in-laws really understand, I think they feel I am being difficult. They are always putting my DH's surname on my mail, which is kind of annoying as if it gets held at the Post Office it's a bit a wrangle to pick up, as I don't have ID in that name!

 

[Blondie]

We'll be around for a while!

We had two sons, as did my husband's brother, so his family name will be around. My brother also had two sons, so our family name is safe for a while.

 

[RadioNate]

Mine will. I was an only child with 2 female cousins. I took DHs name. So unless one of my cousins keeps her name and using it for a child it is done. One cousin swears she isn't having kids and the other is 32 and unmarried so we don't have that much longer to see if it'll be passed down.

Mine was an 11 letter Polish name so we haven't used it as a middle name.