Thanks for the quick replies. I have spent way too much time reading and reading about the cruises and the activities available. I know my daughter will love more time with the characters and the Oceaneers club, but it makes me sad to think of her having a great time and me not getting to experience the look on her face. That is what makes WDW so much fun. I always thought this would be an easy decision.
I get this!
My kids spent time in the clubs but none if them cried about leaving, or begged to go to the club. We did a lot together.
Same with my kids. They were excited about the clubs the first couple of times they went, but after that, they were pretty selective and only asked to go when there were activities there that they were interested in, and when we asked them to go for times when we were at Palo or if there was something in the adults only club that we wanted to do. They get to be kids, and DH and I get to be adults, all the while we still get plenty of opportunities to be a family. I didn't have a problem with it either way. If they wanted to go to the clubs, great. If they wanted to do stuff together as a family, great! We spent our port days together as a family on excursions and enjoying the ports. When we were back on the ship, we all had opportunities to pick, choose, contribute, and discuss what we wanted to do. That was the beauty of being on a cruise...the kids got more opportunities to pick and choose what they wanted to do and didn't have stick with what is pre-planned with FP+ and ADRs like in the parks. They got to make decisions on THEIR vacation too. My kiddos aren't old enough for me to send them off to do an attraction by themselves in the parks, but I felt just fine with them checking themselves into the club, asking a CM to text me on the Wave phone that they made it there, and text me when they're ready to leave. Another thing they loved was, they got a break from each other and not have to be in each other's faces the entire time when they were in the clubs. Both of mine are in the age group for Oceaneer, and not really much older than OP's DD, but the clubs were big enough that they could spend time apart and do things that interested them individually rather than always having to do what the other person wanted. It's so important and so nice to spend time together, yet have some time to be apart and do things that interested each one of us individually. There were times when I woke up before everyone else, and I sneaked down to shop, then sit on deck to watch the ocean go by. I'd write a note for the family to text me when they wake up and are ready for breakfast and I'd meet them for breakfast. I got some quiet time for me to recharge, and I got to hang out with my family. It's like having my cake and eating it too. You can't beat that. It's a much more customized vacation than the parks...at least for my family with kids who aren't old enough to venture off in the parks yet, but old enough to want individual time.
My kids have never been clubs type of people, so they didn't "live" in the clubs whenever we were on board, but they were never bored, and hardly watched any TV either. In fact, they didn't get enough time to rest because there was just so much stuff to do! None of us ever went to bed before midnight because we were always busy doing stuff. In that sense it's kinda like the parks.
I don't see why you could not book a 1/2 WDW 1/2 cruise trip? Not sure how long you have but why not do a 3-4 day cruise then spend a couple of nights at WDW? That way if you are disappointed with the cruise you could still have park time to look forward to.
That's what we did. WDW is a known thing for us. We know we'll have a good time, and we know our way around the parks.
DCL was a huge unknown especially since we'd never cruised at all before. If you can swing a land/sea trip, it's a heck of a lot of fun and a great way to continue the magic when one portion is done. We had the time of our lives...utterly EXHAUSTED, but SO much fun. I still wouldn't give up WDW to cruise all together, but we had such a blast on the cruise and it's such a new adventure for us that we'd love to do it more. I still imagine myself yearning for WDW while sailing out of PC though since we're so close lol.