Why would you choose not to be an organ donor?

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I was watching a show that talked about organ donation and I wondered, why does anyone choose NOT to donate after they have passed? I'm truly curious, not trying to flame any choice anyone makes, but it doesn't make sense to me.

I can manage being cut open if it means helping many others. When I'm dead, I'm done with my body so I think it should be used to save other people.
 
I think a lot of this decision is based on religous beliefs (right, wrong or indifferent). I would donate a kidney or bone marrow today if I needed to, without question. I would love to donate blood but I cannot because of a long standing prejudice to men who sleep with men. When I'm dead, feel free to take anything that could help someone else, I'm going to be cremated anyway.
 
Here is an interesting article... I'm sure the things that are mentioned probably have a lot to do with someone's reluctance to be a donor.

(http://mayoclinic.com/health/organ-donation/FL00077)


Myth No. 1. If I agree to donate my organs, my doctor or the emergency room staff won't work as hard to save my life. They'll remove my organs as soon as possible to save somebody else.
Reality. When you go to the hospital for treatment, doctors focus on saving your life — not somebody else's. You'll be seen by a doctor whose specialty most closely matches your particular emergency. The doctor in charge of your care has nothing to do with transplantation.

Myth No. 2. Maybe I won't really be dead when they sign my death certificate. It'll be too late for me if they've taken my organs for transplantation. I might have otherwise recovered.
Reality. Although it's a popular topic in the tabloids, in reality, people don't start to wiggle a toe after they're declared dead. In fact, people who have agreed to organ donation are given more tests to determine that they are truly dead than are those who haven't agreed to organ donation.

Myth No. 3. Organ donation is against my religion.
Reality. Organ donation is consistent with the beliefs of most religions. This includes Catholicism, Protestantism, Islam and most branches of Judaism. If you're unsure of or uncomfortable with your faith's position on donation, ask a member of your clergy. Another option is to check the federal Web site OrganDonor.gov, which provides religious views on organ donation and transplantation by denomination.

Myth No. 4. I'm under age 18. I'm too young to make this decision.
Reality. That's true, in a legal sense. But your parents can authorize this decision. You can express to your parents your wish to donate, and your parents can give their consent knowing that it's what you wanted. Children, too, are in need of organ transplants, and they usually need organs smaller than those an adult can provide.

Myth No. 5. I want my loved one to have an open-casket funeral. That can't happen if his or her organs or tissues have been donated.
Reality. Organ and tissue donation doesn't interfere with having an open-casket funeral. The donor's body is clothed for burial, so there are no visible signs of organ or tissue donation. For eye donation, an artificial eye is inserted, the lids are closed, and no one can tell any difference. For bone donation, a rod is inserted where bone is removed. With skin donation, a very thin layer of skin similar to a sunburn peel is taken from the donor's back. Because the donor is clothed and lying on his or her back in the casket, no one can see any difference.

Myth No. 6. I'm too old to donate. Nobody would want my organs.
Reality. There's no defined cutoff age for donating organs. Organs have been successfully transplanted from donors in their 70s and 80s. The decision to use your organs is based on strict medical criteria, not age. Don't disqualify yourself prematurely. Let the doctors decide at your time of death whether your organs and tissues are suitable for transplantation.

Myth No. 7. I'm not in the greatest health, and my eyesight is poor. Nobody would want my organs or tissues.
Reality. Very few medical conditions automatically disqualify you from donating organs. The decision to use an organ is based on strict medical criteria. It may turn out that certain organs are not suitable for transplantation, but other organs and tissues may be fine. Don't disqualify yourself prematurely. Only medical professionals at the time of your death can determine whether your organs are suitable for transplantation.

Myth No. 8. I would like to donate one of my kidneys now, rather than wait until my death. But I hear you can't do that unless you're a close family member of someone in need.
Reality. While that used to be the case, it isn't any longer. Whether it's a distant family member, friend or complete stranger you want to help, you can donate a kidney through certain transplant centers.

If you decide to become a living donor, you will undergo extensive questioning to ensure that you are aware of the risks and make sure you're giving away your kidney out of pure goodwill and not in return for financial gain. You will also undergo testing to determine that your kidneys are in good shape and that you can live a healthy life with just one kidney.

You can also donate blood or bone marrow during your lifetime. Contact your local chapter of the American Red Cross for details on where you can donate or sign up.


Myth No. 9. Rich, famous and powerful people always seem to move to the front of the line when they need a donor organ. There's no way to ensure that my organs will go to those who've waited the longest or are the neediest.
Reality. The rich and famous aren't given priority when it comes to allocating organs. It may seem that way because of the amount of publicity generated when celebrities receive a transplant, but they are treated no differently from anyone else. In fact, the United Network for Organ Sharing (UNOS), the organization responsible for maintaining the national organ transplant network, subjects all celebrity transplants to an internal audit to make sure the organ allocation was appropriate.

Myth No. 10. My family will be charged if I donate my organs.
Reality. The organ donor's family is never charged for donating. The family is charged for the cost of all final efforts to save your life, and those costs are sometimes misinterpreted as costs related to organ donation. Costs for organ removal go to the transplant recipient.
 
I was in line at the DMV years ago. At the time they offered a discount on your renewal if you signed up as an organ donor. I pointed this out to a woman in line with me but she said she was too old and they wouldn't want her organs. She wasn't that old. I told her even if her internal organs weren't good, she had lovely skin and they could use it for skin grafts for burn victims. She was not pleased :lmao:.

I'm signed up on my driver's license even though they don't give a discount on my renewal any longer. :thumbsup2
 

I have no problem being an organ donor, but DH won't do it, or at least he won't sign the back of his driver's license. He thinks they are going to take his organs before he is really "gone". I am thinking that he would do it at that time though, as long as someone was there to agree to it. He doesn't trust doctors. Funny thing is, I am an RN!
 
We were asked if we would donate my Dad's eyes, or some part of them anyway. I said yes, but my sister said no way. She said she didn't want anyone cutting him up. My Mom agreed with my sister.

The thing that really confused me was when it was time to decide on an autopsy. I told the hospital no because my sister didn't want my Dad's body cut up. My Mom agreed with that. Then of course my sister got all mad that there was no autopsy. :confused: The man died of cancer, so why she felt the need for an autopsy is beyond my understanding.

My belief is that if someone can use an organ, then by all means let them take it. What a precious gift to leave after you are gone.
 
I logged many years in a Neuro ICU and cared for many patients that eventually had the terrible outcome of being diagnosed as brain dead. Mistrust of the medical system/community is the underlying reason that family members/next of kin refuse organ donation. I can tell you the most common reasons we heard for denying the request of organ donation were 1) if they consent to organ donation then the doctors won't do as much as they can to save the life and 2) many minority families felt that minority donors were simply the source for organs for rich, privileged white people.

There has been much effort over many years to educate the community about the reality of organ donation. Unfortunately it is a subject that many people don't want to electively think about and discuss proactively with their family members..
 
There are so many reasons people don't want to donate organs. Mostly it comes down to fear. Fear of being "cut up." Fear of being "killed for the organs." Fear of general ickiness. Both DH & I plan to donate our organs--we're going to be cremated anyway, might as well save the stuff that can help someone else. We have tried to talk to our kids DS23 and DD16 but they don't want to hear anything about it. Both of them got very upset when we mentioned that we wanted to be cremated so who knows what will happen when that time comes. Hopefully, with time and maturity they will come around. They're awfully young and probably just don't want to think about parents dying.
 
Sadly, after contracting Hep A years ago, I am no longer eligible to donate my organs.
 
My Dad died of cancer last year, a kind that was spread throughout his whole body. He was a donor, and they were able to use his eyes. The donor people sent us a letter that my mom still carries around that told us 2 people received sight who had previously been blind. Even though my Dad was a donor they still ask the living relatives if they can take the organs. I feel that if any of my parts that are useful to someone else should be used. I don't see it as being cut up, or having the person I love cut up. I see it as one more opportunity to help someone else, a trait I learned from my Dad.
 
My opinion changed after being with both my Mom and Dad when they passed....holding their hand, talking to them before during and after was very comforting. I'm not sure how I will feel about sending a loved one off to the operating room if it comes to that. We did donate my Dad's eyes and something with bone after he had already died.
 
No one is too old to do something. My grandmother and great aunt died in their late 80's/early 90's, and they donated their bodies to science.

Why keep something that can save another?
 
I'm not and the only reason I can give you is fear. I am terrified of dying and don't even like to think about it. To me, that's just acknowledging that someday I won't be here, and I prefer the stick-your-head-in-the-sand method.

I do think it's a wonderful thing and would love to do it.
 
I'm an organ donor but dh isn't. It's a hot topic discussion at our house and one we've decided to agree to disagree.....or kill each other. In which case I will have his organs donated :thumbsup2 I'm not really sure what his deal is....he's changed his arguement over the years. I choose to think he just has a fear of dying in general and avoids thinking about it at all costs.
 
When my dh died, I did not donate his organs - and he was an M.D. and relatively young. His body was riddled with cancer and he had suffered severely for months. Every major organ was affected. Neither I nor he would want someone to receive the cancer cells along with a transplant.
 
I can't donate because I need some...LOL Actually, I am on the kidney transplant list, but I am a donor because my other organs could help someone.
 
When my dh died, I did not donate his organs - and he was an M.D. and relatively young. His body was riddled with cancer and he had suffered severely for months. Every major organ was affected. Neither I nor he would want someone to receive the cancer cells along with a transplant.

Sadly, this is the situation my DH will be in. He doesn't have cancer but he has sarcoidosis, an autoimmune disease that causes excess scar tissue to form in various organs, but primarily the lungs. DH has it in his lungs, heart, brain, joints and skin. It has completely debilitated him and he will eventually die from this. He would never in a million years want to visit this disease on someone else. I have tried to suggest that he donate his body to science, because I think his case would be very interesting *most people don't even get all that sick with sarcoidosis.* But he is definitely NOT in favor of that. Too bad too. There is no cure for sarcoidosis and the causes are sketchy. Just think of the information that could be gained...
 
I have informed my family that I would like to be an organ donor. I was with my best friends family when her sister was declared brain dead and they made the decision to donate her organs.It was such a selfless thing for them to do and I was lucky to be a part of it.
 
I don't mind being an organ donor, but donating to science is a bit weird to me... I don't think I could do that.
 
DFiance is an organ donor, I'm not. I'm just completely freaked out by thoughts of death and my body being cut up. I wish I didn't have this fear as I think organ donation is a great thing. Both my grandma and dad have benefited from eye donors. They'd be totally blind without them. I think one day I'll change my mind about this, or at least, I hope so.

Oddly enough I'm perfectly fine and happy to donate a kidney, bone marrow, blood, other things. I don't get it either. :laughing:
 





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