Why people are rude...

[Inigo]

"We're from Indiana where people know how to do a speedy check-in, you slow a$% southerners can just kiss my toe!" Then she turned and walked out. My boss told me later that those types of people are better off staying elsewhere.

We Hoosiers do know how to do some things quickly, but usually rudeness is not one of those things, as a rule. On behalf of the polite Hoosiers, I apologize for this idiot.

 

[Inigo]

I spend time with my juvenile probation clients talking about politeness, rudeness, and the reasons for proper behavior. It's an on-going process, but I hope some of them are learning something.

 

[jamimb]

I agree that people nowdays are more rude than in years past but I do try to give people the benefit of the doubt. Sometimes things that are viewed as being rude are just slight oversites or as others have mentioned "emergencies"(bathroom issues) I am going to have to disagree with most on here though and say that even if you say it politely I think correcting someone is just as rude as the original offense. I usually just try to ignore rude people and go about my day.

 

[GRUMPY PIRATE]

I guess I should clarify. If it's something like line jumping at an Amusement Park or a check out line, I will (and have) politely point out where the end of the line is. I don't consider that calling people out on rudeness, rather informing them. It's things like walking up to a complete stranger and yelling at them because they dared to wear a hat inside a casual dining restaurant (somebody on the DIS posted this exact situation.) That is rude.

The saying "you're welcome" thing to me is just as rude as the person not saying thank you. I'm a 20 something and *gasp* do hold open doors and other things like that. Many times people don't say thank you but I just shrug it off and go on with my life.

I guess I feel that way because I clearly remember somebody saying that to me once. I was 17 years old and a waitress at Denny's. I thought I was being polite to the man. I smiled, took his order, and told him that I would have it out as soon as possible. He screamed "You're Welcome" at me. I guess I was supposed to thank him for bestowing his order upon me. I have never heard of this, and cannot recall a time a waitress has thanked me for giving them my order. I actually thank the waitress after she takes my order! This guy ended up screaming me out in front of the entire restaurant because things apparently did not meet his exact standards. It was so bad that another person's table gave me a tip because they saw the whole thing. Whenever I hear people say "You're Welcome" like that, I think about that man and they are far more rude to me than the person who forgot to say thank you.

If you do something for others, do it without the expectation of being thanked. Then if you are it's like a treat!

hehehehehehe People like that show just how STOOPID they are!


NEVER people, NEVER give grief to someone who is going to bring you things you EAT and DRINK!!!!

THINK about it!!!

Thank them for just showing up to take your order!!!!!

 

[LaraK]

As someone who teaches employees how to be nice, I will say yes....our culture is becoming progressively ruder. Our morals are dropping.

If you want an example, look around. The clothing people wear now are just awful, they show a disrespect for themselves and others. Everyone things that they are the most important person in the world....ok, not everyone, but everyone I seem to interact with.

We have a child's toy (Brats) that celebrate poor behavior.

All in all, I realize that the only thing I can do is to continue to practice good manners and teach my children to do the same. I will admit to a temper and I have called people out on poor behavior, but I'm not really going to change them, just make myself feel better.

 

[GRUMPY PIRATE]

As someone who teaches employees how to be nice, I will say yes....our culture is becoming progressively ruder. Our morals are dropping.

If you want an example, look around. The clothing people wear now are just awful, they show a disrespect for themselves and others. Everyone things that they are the most important person in the world....ok, not everyone, but everyone I seem to interact with.

We have a child's toy (Brats) that celebrate poor behavior.

All in all, I realize that the only thing I can do is to continue to practice good manners and teach my children to do the same. I will admit to a temper and I have called people out on poor behavior, but I'm not really going to change them, just make myself feel better.

not really sure if that is anything new, I have seen the same pattern repeated over and over.