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[MEK]

June Update and No LJ!

Sorry its been so long without an update. Denny and I went to Williamsburg last weekend for a little two nighter (Sunday and Monday night) and then we went away to a soccer tournament on Friday and Saturday. I wasn't home much last week. I am finally caught up on replies.

I wanted to do a quick update regarding the June trip. As you may recall, I asked my brother and SIL to let me know by Friday if they were going to Disney in June. My SIL called me late Friday and said they were going. She said she was flying with 3 of the boys and that LJ was driving with my brother. She said she would let me know the details on Saturday.

Saturday came and went with no details, but I knew I would see them both on Sunday.

Finally, as they were getting ready to leave on Sunday I point blank asked, "What are your travel arrangements".

Are you ready for this??????????????????????

That's when my SIL told me that she will be flying down with the three youngest boys, but LJ and my brother will be staying at home! Neither will fly and I guess my brother doesn't want to drive.

When I told my brother that I thought it was really a shame that he couldn't go on this vacation with his kids he basically went into a tirade about Disney and how its a place he never wants to visit. It's too commercail. It's tailored for materialistic people who think they need to go there, ect. ect. It's for people who think they owe themselves a vacation. Oh - and let's not forget about all the other places people can travel besides Disney. He reminded me of that, too. I can't even remember all the stupid rhetoric he threw at me because I tuned it out. At one point he did call me a liberal democrat? Huh? Huh? What the heck does that have to do with visiting Disney?

Well, needless to say, his opinionated view of a place he has neither visited or knows nothing about, did NOT go over well. I won't go into the details, but it wasn't pretty. It will probably be a while before my brother and I speak again.

So my SIL says she is booking her flights tomorrow. I told her I think she really needs to do this. I am certain my brother would like nothing better than to keep her home.

Anyway - I am posting this, but in a few days I will likely delete it it just because I don't want to trash my brother and his family. I am just very disappointed that this trip is turning into a near disaster.

And when did LJ, the coolest kid on earth, become afraid of flying???????

I plan to do a real update tomorrow. The American Adventure. Remember?

 

[dawnbu40]

Aww MaryEllen I'm so sorry It is so good of you and Denny to try and do this for your brother and his family and you do not deserve all the stress that came from your kind offer! I hope your sister-in-law follows through and takes the boys!

I have to say that I truly believe your brother and my brother would get along splendidly!

 

[Nermel9]

Ugh I'm sorry about what happened with your brother, that is really sad. It's also strange that he called you a liberal democrat, only democrats like Disney?

At least your SIL and 3 of the kids are going though, right? That should still be fun! I hope?

 

[Wicket's Mom]

ME, so sorry that your brother was so pigheaded! I've had problems with family so I do understand your stance in the matter. Sometimes all that you can do is back away for a good long while.

Ack, a four hour sales pitch! My DH absolutely will not attend one of those time share presentations.

I do know about treating someone & not getting a thank you. I never got one from my DIL & GDs for their WDW trip. DH does not me to do it again because of that reason. I'm a glutton for punishment as I'm considering a 2014 trip for the GDs.

 

[mickeystoontown]

Mary Ellen, I'm sorry to hear that what should have been a fun vacation planning experience turned into a fuss. It's very clear that your brother was simply lashing out because he was too scared to admit that he's afraid to fly to get to Disney. If he had really been thinking about what he was saying, he would have realized how silly his argument was.....just that....silly and needless. I hate that it ended the way it did. Hopefully, your SIL sticks to her guns and follows through with the plan and goes with you.

 

[Pinkocto]

I'm so sorry Even if you delete it thanks for sharing. I'm at a loss for words, I would be so hurt and probably start crying if I was you. Here you are trying to do something wonderful for your nephews and he acts so nasty.

 

[marDgreen88]

I'm sorry about all that! Hopefully he'll change his mind when his family tells him what an amazing trip they had.

 

[MEK]

Thanks Everyone! I will do individual replies tomorrow. I appreciate your support. It's just such a touchy subject right now and yet I saw this coming.

Oh well, I'll be back on track soon!!!!!

 

[tinacaplan]

When I told my brother that I thought it was really a shame that he couldn't go on this vacation with his kids he basically went into a tirade about Disney and how its a place he never wants to visit. It's too commercail. It's tailored for materialistic people who think they need to go there, ect. ect. It's for people who think they owe themselves a vacation. Oh - and let's not forget about all the other places people can travel besides Disney. He reminded me of that, too. I can't even remember all the stupid rhetoric he threw at me because I tuned it out. At one point he did call me a liberal democrat? Huh? Huh? What the heck does that have to do with visiting Disney?

Well, needless to say, his opinionated view of a place he has neither visited or knows nothing about, did NOT go over well. I won't go into the details, but it wasn't pretty. It will probably be a while before my brother and I speak again.

So sorry. I know that you were simply trying to share one of your favorite places with people you love. UGH. And frankly, while I hate and will not touch the issue of politics and/or religion on this site, I have to say this: one of the things I love the most about Disneyworld is that it brings together a truly diverse group of people who wouldn't be together under many other circumstances. Disney reminds us all of the things that we have in common and the things that make each and every last one of us human.

I should memorize that for the next time someone asks me why I love Disneyworld so much.

Again, I'm sorry...but I suppose at least your know now and can go forward with your plans.

So my SIL says she is booking her flights tomorrow. I told her I think she really needs to do this. I am certain my brother would like nothing better than to keep her home.

Anyway - I am posting this, but in a few days I will likely delete it it just because I don't want to trash my brother and his family. I am just very disappointed that this trip is turning into a near disaster.

And when did LJ, the coolest kid on earth, become afraid of flying???????

I plan to do a real update tomorrow. The American Adventure. Remember? [/QUOTE]

 

[Stringbean&Wingnut]

I'm so sorry for what you're going through I know you were really just trying to do something nice and wonderful for the family, how unfortunate and upsetting for it to come to a situation like this.

 

[2xcited2sleep]

Ugh. Sorry it turned into a hassle. I'm especially sorry to hear that LJ who loved it so much last time now doesn't want to go because he's afraid.

Well, no matter who goes, you know you're going to have a great time!

 

[teekathepony]

Oh Mary Ellen, I'm so sorry to hear about what you are going through. It's unfortunate when people harshly judge a place they've never been. You know and we all know that you were just trying to be nice and do something good for your family. I'm sorry it's not working out. I know you'll have a great trip once you can put this behind you a bit.

 

[Charleston Princess]

I am so sorry, Mary Ellen! It's a shame that trying to do something nice for your family has turned into what it has...

I can't help but ask how a person can be a liberal democrat AND materialistic? Those two don't seem to go together.

 

[glennbo123]

I'm sorry to read about your troubles in trying to orchestrate a nice vacation for your extended family. What's the saying? "No good deed goes unpunished"? Well, hang in there. It's funny how so many people who've never been to Disney have it all figured out.

 

[Captain_Oblivious]

I'm sorry, Mary Ellen. Family drama is just not fun at all. I hope you can still enjoy the trip and smooth things over someday.

 

[DisMomAmy]

Sorry this is turning into a nightmare! We have cut back on the amount of time we spend with family on our Florida trips over the years... they used to come to Disney with us, then we decided to just go see them first, then this year we decided to skip seeing them all together! I got a text from my SIL asking our dates... I figured they might be trying to come to Disney while we are there and got a little excited. Then she told me she wanted to know how she could get cheap tickets for when her son & granddaughter come to visit the week before us. She's texting me yesterday to find out about cheap tickets starting tomorrow! Oy! Family!

 

[Mndisneygirl]

I'm sorry that you are having to deal with such nasty drama! My brother doesn't "get" the Disney love either, but he knows better than to throw mud. He'd be eating it!
BTW - I'm pretty far from a liberal democrat, (and I have seen plenty of them that actually are materialistic), and I am a touch materialistic, but we Disney lovers come from all corners, don't we?
Try not to feel bad, we're here to listen and we'll try not to hold it against your brother, but we will defend our fellow DISers!!!

I hope that things improve and somehow they will enjoy the trip.

 

[jenjolt]

Ughhh what a nightmare! I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this!! All you wanted to do was take your family on a special vacation!!! I'm sure your SIL and her boys will still have a great time with you guys!!

 

[MEK]

Aww MaryEllen I'm so sorry It is so good of you and Denny to try and do this for your brother and his family and you do not deserve all the stress that came from your kind offer! I hope your sister-in-law follows through and takes the boys!

Thanks Dawn. I appreciate your good thoughts! I am still waiting to hear from my SIL.

I have to say that I truly believe your brother and my brother would get along splendidly!

Uh Oh! That doesn't sound good!

Ugh I'm sorry about what happened with your brother, that is really sad. It's also strange that he called you a liberal democrat, only democrats like Disney?

I never expected it would have gotten this bad and I totally don't get the Democrat comment. It makes no sense. It sort of came out of left field.

At least your SIL and 3 of the kids are going though, right? That should still be fun! I hope?

When I get a copy of their flight confirmations I will believe they are going.

ME, so sorry that your brother was so pigheaded! I've had problems with family so I do understand your stance in the matter. Sometimes all that you can do is back away for a good long while.

I agree with the backing away comment. I knew my brother didn't want to go but I just feel so horrible that he was so negative towards my favorite vacation spot.

Ack, a four hour sales pitch! My DH absolutely will not attend one of those time share presentations.

If it was just up to me I would not have attended the timeshare presentation, but Denny wanted to do it so I figured "why not?" We actually had a great time in Williamsburg but we still didn't buy the colonial williamsburg ticket because so much of our day was spent in the presentation.

I do know about treating someone & not getting a thank you. I never got one from my DIL & GDs for their WDW trip. DH does not me to do it again because of that reason. I'm a glutton for punishment as I'm considering a 2014 trip for the GDs.

I definitely think it is common courtesy to say"thank you", especially for a trip of that magnitude. When I took Brian's friend two years in a row he wrote me a thank you both time. When I took my friends in 2010, no thank you. I was pretty upset about that but I got over it.

Mary Ellen, I'm sorry to hear that what should have been a fun vacation planning experience turned into a fuss. It's very clear that your brother was simply lashing out because he was too scared to admit that he's afraid to fly to get to Disney. If he had really been thinking about what he was saying, he would have realized how silly his argument was.....just that....silly and needless. I hate that it ended the way it did. Hopefully, your SIL sticks to her guns and follows through with the plan and goes with you.

I really agree with you. I thought the same thing. It's easier for him to say how stupid a vacation destination is then to face his fears. It's just so frustrating because I think his opinion will affect my SIL with her planning. Oh well, all I can do is wait to see how it all falls out.

Thanks for your insight!

I'm so sorry Even if you delete it thanks for sharing. I'm at a loss for words, I would be so hurt and probably start crying if I was you. Here you are trying to do something wonderful for your nephews and he acts so nasty.

My brother is normally a very nice guy and he really helped me out when I was going through a rough time several years ago, but he is clearly dealing with something now. I am hurt that he would vehemently attack a place he knows I like so much.

I'm sorry about all that! Hopefully he'll change his mind when his family tells him what an amazing trip they had.

I just wish he could change his mind before the trip because I honestly believe he would enjoy so many aspects of the trip. It's just a shame.

So sorry. I know that you were simply trying to share one of your favorite places with people you love. UGH. And frankly, while I hate and will not touch the issue of politics and/or religion on this site, I have to say this: one of the things I love the most about Disneyworld is that it brings together a truly diverse group of people who wouldn't be together under many other circumstances. Disney reminds us all of the things that we have in common and the things that make each and every last one of us human.

Well said and so true! That's one of the things I loved about Disney from my first trip. I was treated special there and I am just an average joe-schmo. I feel like Disney is the great equalizer. And there are those that "get it" and totally understand Walt's vision and those we don't. But those who get it know how great a Disney vacation can be.

I should memorize that for the next time someone asks me why I love Disneyworld so much.

You should. It's a great explanation.

Again, I'm sorry...but I suppose at least your know now and can go forward with your plans.

I am really trying to move forward, but this is really bothering me and I actually don't even feel like DISing right now.

I'm so sorry for what you're going through I know you were really just trying to do something nice and wonderful for the family, how unfortunate and upsetting for it to come to a situation like this.

Thanks! I really was trying to invite them to share in a great vacation experience, but it really didn't turn out that way. total bummer!

Ugh. Sorry it turned into a hassle. I'm especially sorry to hear that LJ who loved it so much last time now doesn't want to go because he's afraid.

I think the complete turn around in LJ has definitely added to my discontent. I will always remember what a great time that kid had and I can't believe he isn't dying to go back. He was my little ride buddy. Sitting beside him while everything was "awesome" was so great.

Well, no matter who goes, you know you're going to have a great time!

I intend to make the very best out of this trip. It will be nice to finally have a nice long trip after so many short ones!

 

[HockeyMomR]

Mary Ellen so sorry to hear about your additional trip planning issues. I truly hope your SIL does fly down and let at least 3 of the kids enjoy Disney.

Rebecca