Why does someone always have to rain on your parade?

[LauraAnn630]

I agree that you deserve a vacation! I saw a report on tv that said people need to take vacations, its healthy! The bills will always be there!
My parents wish they would of did more with us when we were kids! We alwasy treat our family to something with our tax returns!

Live Like You Were Dying!!

When you are in your bed dying, you will not say to yourself...I wish Id paid more bills faster, I wished Id saved more money. You will wish for more time with your family, having fun!! You will never regret going to Disney World with your family.

 

[cbrfan]

LOL! Neither it's my ex's boyfriends mother who I am very close with. She actually is like a second mother (sometimes more like a mother/grandmother than my own). BUt at that moment I felt like saying "maybe if your son paid for his child like he was supposed to, we would have bills" but I was very good. Just had positive Disney thoughts and found my happy place, LOL!

You have the patience of a saint! I'd have looked her straight in the eye and said it right out loud!!

 

[MrsPete]

Are YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND feeling okay about spending the money on this vacation? If you are, then no one else's opinion should make you feel bad. Plan carefully, then be confident in your decisions.

 

[simzac]

I figure when I die I will still be in debt up to my you know what. So until then, I am going to enjoy life the best way I can, and that means a yearly trip to Disney, no matter what it costs, and no matter what anyone else thinks about it. So there.

 

[tzuhouse]

So, I wonder, with that way of thinking, does your DH have fond memories of childhood or did they not do anything really special because there are always bills. We are using our income tax refund, also. That's the only way we can go. But childhood should be a time of incredible magic. Real life teaches us way too quickly, these days. I told my DH, even if they boys don't remember specific things from the trip, I want them to have a feeling in their hearts when they think about the trip, that just grows and grows. I want there to be an incredible sense of joy felt there. I want to finally feel a childhood joy that I wasn't given, as a child. I want my DH to feel some magic. To me, the time we will have as a family, learning and enjoying and feeling it together is worth more than any amount of money we are spending. I think my MIL thinks it's foolish, but she is also aware that it really doesn't matter what she says, we'll do it anyway. She is also aware of the childhood I had and that I will do whatever it takes for my children to grow up with wonderful childhood memories.

Have a magical trip and ignore the people that just don't get it.

Mary

 

[kpossible]

There are some family members that just should not be told about vacations. They make you feel guilty for some reason or another or try to invite themselves along. There are very few family members we tell. People should just say, " I'm so happy for you. I hope you have a good time." That is it.

 

[dowchick]

My MIL tried to guilt us when we took our honeymoon to Disney. She kept telling us there were more important things than a honeymoon for a newly married couple. LOL I really laugh at that now becauae we really did need to start married life away, just the two of us. After we came back she continued with "if you had that money you spent than you could do......". Except they were all things she thought we should do, not that we were interested in.

We took our 6 yo this past May and she tried that guilt stuff again. DH told her that he wanted to have family memories with his child since he didn't have any from his childhood. She has since backed off.

Bottom line is it's your money and your vacation, Don't let people push their money issues, and it is their issue, on you. Enjoy your vacation!

Abby

 

[DisneyMomOfThree]

My mother told me I was wasting my time and $ by taking my DS not quite 3yrs old that he would not remember it. DS now 6 still talks about WDW and some of the rides. So there!

 

[meandtheguys2]

It sounds as though your grandma is just concerned about you and your well-being in the future. Maybe this bothers you so much, because in a way you know she is right. Everyone would like to be able to take a vacation whenever they want, but that doesn't mean it is the best thing to do.

LauraAnn, you may not be saying "I wish I'd saved more money", but if your family is paying off your debts, they may be. Or if they have been paying for your stay in a retirement facility or nursing home. Or for a full-time sitter.

 

[elastigirlfan]

My husband and I got married early so we didn't have any money because we were still in college. We've struggled financially throughout the years and we never went on vacation because of the lack of money and we always felt guilty going away because we thought we should use any money we had for bills and impt. stuff like that. Well, three years ago, I said to my husband that it had been long enough (11 years) and we were going to take a vacation because we deserved one and I didn't think it was "healthy" , for lack of a better word, to never take one. I convinced him to take a trip to WDW and I'm sooo glad we did. We needed that week of "magic" to get away from the daily grind and money worries, etc... Well, this year we will be going on our 3rd trip to Disney. We have been hooked since the 1st trip. I love planning the trip and my girls enjoy planning it with me and looking over all the guide books. We pay cash for all of our trips and we don't charge any of it. We either use extra money we weren't expecting, tax money, etc.. To make it more cost efficient we camp down there which really cuts our cost. Things are looking better for us financially now but I'm soo glad we took these last two trips. They have meant so much to my whole family and we have sooo many good memories at Disney. In all of this I'm just trying to say that you shouldn't feel guilty - trust me I know how you feel. We all deserve a break and need a vacation. So, have a great time and leave all your worries behind for the time you are there. I hope you have a great time!!

Alyssa

 

[CLEO Z]

As long as you are making ends meet, paying bills on time, and stashing some away in savings, I say tell Granny to butt out, carrying a manageable debt isn't a reason to forgo a vacation.

On the other hand, if you've got not paid on time bills/collection accounts/judgements/huge credit card debts and are barely keeping your heads above water, then maybe you might want to pay attention to Granny.

Anne

Ditto! And you should really listen to Anne bc she is obviously doing something right: have you checked out the pic of her vacation home????? My regular home doesn't look that great! I say we all get financial advice from her! Enjoy your vaca home Anne, I bet you and yours have worked hard for it.

 

[TSirgey]

My husband and I have been married 9 years this May. In that time, we have went on one major vacation to WDW last year. We never used to make vacation a priority because I had a hard time spending the money. After we realized how much fun it was to plan and anticipate a trip, we made an agreement to always make vacations a priority. We are going to WDW again in a few weeks and maybe a cruise next year for our 10 year anniversary! We had such an amazing time at WDW last year with our dd, that she still talks about it in detail. Those memories are priceless!!

 

[marriedmarylander]

I know what you mean. I told MIL we were going to WDW. All she kept ranting about was how Disneyland (she meant Disneyworld) was so commercialized and wasn't worth the money.