Why does my boyfriend hate disney so much?

[Jack-Jack]

I don't love snooker.

I loathe snooker. I would always get snookered. I never won a single game I played.

 

[raysnkaysmom]

I know I know! Disney is not for everyone but I just do not understand why my boyfriend has to make fun of me for loving Disney! I have tried to explain it to him but he is not really interested and most of the time i just ignore it. I mean its no big deal he can't love everything about me! And he has interests that I do not much care for either. I just hate it that when My friend comes over and we are talking about it that he sits there and makes fun of us. That is why My friend Steph and I our leaving are men to go on a girls only vacation to Disneyland soon. Our Boyfriends are best friends and have the same opinion on Disney so they are not invited! Does anyone else have this problem?

Yeah..I don't get it...
My boyfriend doesn't get my fascination with all things Disney either...
We just had a little boy, and I am on the disboards, getting so excited for our first trip in October with him and the little one.. and I was talking about getting him his first Mickey Ears with his name stitched on them.. My BF was like "OMG, you're getting him Mickey Ears??!?!"
I told him, if we didn't..he'd be the only kid WITHOUT them at Disney.. LOL

He'll get over it

 

[Tuffcookie]

OP, Even if he does not care for Disney (not everyone does), he SHOULD be respectful of your feelings. This is a big red flag to me that says "immature".

TC

 

[PaulaSB12]

OP, Even if he does not care for Disney (not everyone does), he SHOULD be respectful of your feelings. This is a big red flag to me that says "immature".

TC

Here is what the op wrote


Originally Posted by TinkerPanda28
Well lol I think dumping him would be a little extreme. considering I make fun of him for his obsession with the car game Magic the Gathering

She is taking the mikey out of what he likes, it is just as immature, why isn't she being respectful of his feelings or is this another one of these one way only rules?

 

[wishspirit]

My boyfriend has never been to Disney, so he can't really understand where i'm comming from. People seem to think its just any old theme park, but it really isn't. But hes willing to come with me, and try it out. If i go off on a rant, he rolls his eyes a little and tells me its going over his head, but he never makes fun of me.

I found a great way to get around it is to plan our own disney trip for 2010 (when we graduate) and hes starting getting into it, we are also planning to do Disneyland Paris sometime soon.

I find my 'friends' are the worst at being mean about it, they can get quite vicious. I tell them that i don't make fun of what they love, please show me the same respect. Just because its 'disney' people seem to think they have a licence to make fun, but they dont.

Say to him 'when you say things like that to me, it makes me upset, i don't disrespect your likes, please don't disrespect mine'

 

[Robinrs]

Out of pure curiosity, how did you stumble upon these boards if you don't like Disney?

I found it while doing a search on Universal because the DIS does have a Universal board. I later became a mod for the Universal boards. I started checking out the other boards and pretty much stuck with the CB. I also moderated the Orlando and Budget Boards.

I did try, I actually went to DIS meetings MANY times and stayed onsite and the whole nine yards. It's just not my thing.

Saying that, I do understand it's appeal. Lots of people associate it with good feelings, especially from their childhood. I was the grand old age of 44 when I first went. No fuzzy feelings, no great memories. But I do understand and mostly RESPECT those who love it. I would never put anyone down for loving something pure and fun. It speaks volumes about them!

 

[TinkerPanda28]

Back on topic. I would ignore his remarks; he probably just likes the rise he gets out of you. Also be careful about what you say about his hobbies; you might have offended him without knowing. Next time you make fun of his game, take notice of what you said; would you have been offended if someone had said the same thing to you? My personal feeling is if you can't take it in, don't dish it out.

It is true that I make fun of his obsession with Magic the gathering but I am not doing it in the way you think and that is my fault for not explaining. I have a huge thing for nerds... I think they are adorable and I think his love the magic the gathering is sooooo cute!... When i tell him this he shakes his head and his favorite line to say it " what am i going to do with you? But there are times when he starts picking on me for my love of Disney or Romance novels and I will say to him "yeah, well, my love for Disney is no better than your love for Magic the Gathering".

That is how i make fun of him and I apologize for not explaining further. lol i was tired that night.

I would advise you to keep a close eye on those passive aggressive type behaviors that people do and then blame you for getting upset because they were "only kidding".

Someone who loves you doesn't mock you, and doesn't, in effect, call you stupid.

"You have to be stupid in order to love Disney"...you love Disney therefore you are stupid.

I had a boyfriend who did this. It took me a long time to figure it out. I was much younger then. He'd say something mean, I'd get upset and then he'd get upset at me getting upset beacuse he was "only kidding".

He was kidding, there were times when I didn't find it funny. He still did it. After a while, it was mean.

My boyfriend just has strange opinions on things i think becuase he never had a lot of female influence in his life. I will fallow your advice thought but I plan on making him understand more as to why i love the things that I do.

Yeah, uh, no offense, but when you like "Magic the gathering", you kind of lose your right to make fun of anyone.

Making fun of you for liking Disney?

Yeah..I don't get it...
My boyfriend doesn't get my fascination with all things Disney either...
We just had a little boy, and I am on the disboards, getting so excited for our first trip in October with him and the little one.. and I was talking about getting him his first Mickey Ears with his name stitched on them.. My BF was like "OMG, you're getting him Mickey Ears??!?!"
I told him, if we didn't..he'd be the only kid WITHOUT them at Disney.. LOL

He'll get over it

Thats right stick up for your children becuase these are the memories that will last them a life time!

My boyfriend has never been to Disney, so he can't really understand where i'm comming from. People seem to think its just any old theme park, but it really isn't. But hes willing to come with me, and try it out. If i go off on a rant, he rolls his eyes a little and tells me its going over his head, but he never makes fun of me.

I found a great way to get around it is to plan our own disney trip for 2010 (when we graduate) and hes starting getting into it, we are also planning to do Disneyland Paris sometime soon.

I find my 'friends' are the worst at being mean about it, they can get quite vicious. I tell them that i don't make fun of what they love, please show me the same respect. Just because its 'disney' people seem to think they have a licence to make fun, but they dont.

Say to him 'when you say things like that to me, it makes me upset, i don't disrespect your likes, please don't disrespect mine'

THANK YOU!!!!

 

[Pumbaa_]

Good luck. Just watch those red flags. If he is not respectful of you and/or your interests, that's huge. And will get worse as time goes on. Work on it and see if there is a change. If not, this is indicative of his level of respect for YOU and should be a deal breaker.

 

[N.Bailey]

Sounds very immature to me. He doesn't hate it as much as I'm sure he likes your REACTION to his sillyness. If you ignore him I'm sure he'll stop.

I am NOT a Disney fan at all and I've been on these boards for 11 years. Never, not once, would I put someone down for loving Disney. It's very LOVE-ABLE! I stay here because I love the essence of people who DO love Disney. It's something I totally understand and appreciate.

I may have posters mixed up, but didn't you used to be a mod on the Universal boards? I loved going there at one time and reading the posts. I've not been there in ages cause it just doesn't feel the same as it once did.

 

[N.Bailey]

I found it while doing a search on Universal because the DIS does have a Universal board. I later became a mod for the Universal boards. I started checking out the other boards and pretty much stuck with the CB. I also moderated the Orlando and Budget Boards.

I did try, I actually went to DIS meetings MANY times and stayed onsite and the whole nine yards. It's just not my thing.

Saying that, I do understand it's appeal. Lots of people associate it with good feelings, especially from their childhood. I was the grand old age of 44 when I first went. No fuzzy feelings, no great memories. But I do understand and mostly RESPECT those who love it. I would never put anyone down for loving something pure and fun. It speaks volumes about them!

Okay, I thought you were a mod there. You didn't have the current pic (avatar) back then, so I knew I could be be mistaken, but I didn't think I was. You did a fantastic job over there, as did Barry.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Yeah, uh, no offense, but when you like "Magic the gathering", you kind of lose your right to make fun of anyone.
Making fun of you for liking Disney?

I was thinking the same thing!!!!
Seriously though- my dh does not share my love of certain things but he would never make fun of me for it. I don't expect him to like everything I do. You can justify it however you want but if he thinks it's cute to be so obnoxious as to make fun of you because you enjoy something then I would get my sneakers on and run far away. IMO this is the tip of the iceberg.

 

[FHS_chick_2005]

I think he is being a bit belligerent and you should leave him... like.. now...


call him now and do it!

 

[shortbun]

Let's see... because he takes pleasure in upsetting you?

Yeah, don't marry him....just keep him around until someone better shows up. His immaturity is showing but he may never lose it. Beware.

 

[wishspirit]

I love romance novels too! Im really big into historical romance, but my boyfriend doesnt mind cause i go all gushy and lovey dovey after i read them, which he likes!

Th biggest problem is, i am standing firm on a Disney Honeymoon, its something i have always wanted and i have told him from the beginning. He is still sceptical, but i will bring him around. I have told him we can do 2 weeks, one at his location, one at Disney, but i won't consider it my honeymoon if we don't go there.

He is yet to be convinced!

 

[sanapunk]

Get out before you get too attached! LOL, I honestly couldn't date someone who didn't like Disney. Luckily when I went to my DBF's house for the first time, the first things I noticed was a disney bar of soap on his computer monitor, and a mickey shaped stop sign on his bedroom door! At the time I didn't know he was even into Disney, so that was actually a huge sigh of relief on my part, that I knew he wouldn't make fun of my disney obsession.

We now live together in an apartment that is entirely disney themed! You may not be as Disney "nuts" as I am, but if it's a big part of your life, and he's MAKING FUN OF IT, it's not a good sign of the future.

Like I have a friend who wants to become a cop, and is going to school full time for criminal justice. Her BF is constantly making fun of her for bettering herself. The making fun of you for disney thing might not be a big deal now, but when it moves on to more important things, like a career choice, it will be a bigger deal.

 

[Kath2003]

I love romance novels too! Im really big into historical romance, but my boyfriend doesnt mind cause i go all gushy and lovey dovey after i read them, which he likes!

Th biggest problem is, i am standing firm on a Disney Honeymoon, its something i have always wanted and i have told him from the beginning. He is still sceptical, but i will bring him around. I have told him we can do 2 weeks, one at his location, one at Disney, but i won't consider it my honeymoon if we don't go there.

He is yet to be convinced!

I hate to mention it but it would be his honeymoon too. I wouldn't drag my boyfriend somewhere he didn't want to go on any occasion, let alone a once-in-a-lifetime. You can go to Disney with him any time, so perhaps if you stopped dictating to him where he must spend his honeymoon he might be a little bit more open to suggestion

 

[LoraJ]

When I was first dating DH, he was against going to Disney. Somehow I finally convinced him to go and he had a great time. We've been back there two times since. We go on two vacations a year, I picked the first one this year as a cruise and said he could chose where we go on our next trip. He chose Disney. LOL!

 

[kylara]

Is it that he doesn't like Disney or that he doesn't like DisneyWorld...and if it is WDW, has he ever been.

Honestly, my BF isn't a big Disney fan...he doesn't see anything special about Mickey or about Disney movies. He also didn't see anything special about WDW until we went last October....now that has changed.

I led up to the trip by showing him things I knew he would like..such as restaurant menus and the hotels. And I brought WDW up around friends I knew also liked the resorts and parks. Then I showed him the planning DVD. After a while, he realized that Disneyworld was very different from your average Six Flags type park.

While he will probably never be a big fan of other Disney stuff, he does like the parks and does want to go back.

 

[TinkerPanda28]

I love romance novels too! Im really big into historical romance, but my boyfriend doesnt mind cause i go all gushy and lovey dovey after i read them, which he likes!

Th biggest problem is, i am standing firm on a Disney Honeymoon, its something i have always wanted and i have told him from the beginning. He is still sceptical, but i will bring him around. I have told him we can do 2 weeks, one at his location, one at Disney, but i won't consider it my honeymoon if we don't go there.

He is yet to be convinced!

I love them too! My favorite Authors are Christine Feehan and Maggie Shayne.

I duno about the honeymoon thing... I would never force my new hubby off to some place he would not want to go. I want him to be all lovey dovey with me not angry.

Get out before you get too attached! LOL, I honestly couldn't date someone who didn't like Disney. Luckily when I went to my DBF's house for the first time, the first things I noticed was a disney bar of soap on his computer monitor, and a mickey shaped stop sign on his bedroom door! At the time I didn't know he was even into Disney, so that was actually a huge sigh of relief on my part, that I knew he wouldn't make fun of my disney obsession.

We now live together in an apartment that is entirely disney themed! You may not be as Disney "nuts" as I am, but if it's a big part of your life, and he's MAKING FUN OF IT, it's not a good sign of the future.

Like I have a friend who wants to become a cop, and is going to school full time for criminal justice. Her BF is constantly making fun of her for bettering herself. The making fun of you for disney thing might not be a big deal now, but when it moves on to more important things, like a career choice, it will be a bigger deal.

Not all of us can be so lucky, sweetie.

Is it that he doesn't like Disney or that he doesn't like DisneyWorld...and if it is WDW, has he ever been.

Honestly, my BF isn't a big Disney fan...he doesn't see anything special about Mickey or about Disney movies. He also didn't see anything special about WDW until we went last October....now that has changed.

I led up to the trip by showing him things I knew he would like..such as restaurant menus and the hotels. And I brought WDW up around friends I knew also liked the resorts and parks. Then I showed him the planning DVD. After a while, he realized that Disneyworld was very different from your average Six Flags type park.

While he will probably never be a big fan of other Disney stuff, he does like the parks and does want to go back.

I myself have never been to WDW only DL. and No he has never been there and io believe that is part of the problem. i might plan a trip for just him and I... who knows. there is a funny thing about that though. when I was talking about all the things you can win during the year of a million dreams he eas very interesting in becoming a honory imaginer.

 

[PaulaSB12]

I love romance novels too! Im really big into historical romance, but my boyfriend doesnt mind cause i go all gushy and lovey dovey after i read them, which he likes!

Th biggest problem is, i am standing firm on a Disney Honeymoon, its something i have always wanted and i have told him from the beginning. He is still sceptical, but i will bring him around. I have told him we can do 2 weeks, one at his location, one at Disney, but i won't consider it my honeymoon if we don't go there.

He is yet to be convinced!

I like romances but you can always tell when they are written by an american auther, the regency books written by them always have the hero and heroine always marry in the heros home something that only became legal in my lifetime.

As for standing firm on a disney honeymoon is it a honeymoon for 1 or 2? Doesn't he have any say in it? If not it doesn't say much for the survivorbility of such a relationship.