Why do some women think they NEED a man?

[mudnuri]

A good friend of mine is seperated from her husband...she has actually gone from living in her mom's basement apartment to getting her own place with the 3 kids...

She moved to her parents in February of 2005, and since then she has been bouncing from man to man to man to man....

I don't think she's gone 2 weeks without that 'latest' man...they go together for about 5-6 weeks then some drama pops up and tada, new man.

We had a long talk about this tonight and I said i just dont get the constant MAN NEED...I left my X in April, and though I have a bunch of excellent guy friends, I dont find myself wanting or needing to settle down and get into a relationship with a man...

I'm perfectly content going out with a group of friends on the weekend (that i dont have my girls) and coming home "empty handed" as she calls it...she on the other hand is not...I'm not saying she's "hooking up" with all of these guys, but i must be missing something...

Some of the guys- her kids have met, and that to me is a HUGE NO-NO....my kids have no clue what I do when they are not with me, whether I'm hookin up or not....(which fyiw aint happening) and though they have met some of my guy friends- I've been friends with some since highschool, they have never met them under the pretense they were anything other than a friend...and when they've met them- it's been when we were out- say- at dunkin donuts, and one is in line or something similar to that....

I dunno maybe I'm "old fashioned"

Brandy

 

[Pop Daddy]

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

I agree. People need to find out who they are as a single person before they jump into another relationship. As you may know (since I just posted about it), my exbf and I just broke up today. He was my first real relationship since I separated from my ex-husband...3 1/2 years ago! I think I only dated 2 other guys since then...and both were very casual. Anyway, in that time, I realize that I know myself pretty well now. Your friend should slow things down a bit.

 

[Meezers]

Okay...first...DisneyAddicts avatar is scaring me.

Second....I agree...especially with children involved. It is hard but your friend is going to have to learn to be happy with herself before someone else can be happy with her. And until then she needs to keep her "private" life...well....private...trust me...there are just some things your kids are never ready for....no matter how old or mature they are!

I don't know her age...but I am pretty much sure at my age and IQ I am not going to have another long term relationship....I just have too much to lose...and don't know if I could find it again...does that make sense?

 

[lovemygoofy]

Brandy,

You must be talking about my mother and my MIL. They wouldn't have a life if it wasn't finding every loser around the country. I think at some point they are going to meet up in Missouri fighting over the last loser in America Some women just don't feel complete without a man in their in whatever capcity it is. They just don't feel fullfilled in anyway.

As a daughter of a single mom who saw the craziest men ever come in and out of my mom's life, I feel awful for those children. I know how confusing it gets.

 

[Charade]

You're friend sounds a bit extreme but honestly, I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting a partner to share lifes experiences with or NOT having one. Me, I prefer one but I don't bounce from woman to woman to woman.

 

[Laurajean1014]

Because they ran out of chocolate!

 

[mudnuri]

I agree. People need to find out who they are as a single person before they jump into another relationship. As you may know (since I just posted about it), my exbf and I just broke up today. He was my first real relationship since I separated from my ex-husband...3 1/2 years ago! I think I only dated 2 other guys since then...and both were very casual. Anyway, in that time, I realize that I know myself pretty well now. Your friend should slow things down a bit.

I agree, she needs to slow down....after the max of 3 weeks "alone" she starts to freak.........I'm like- hello hunny- thats why they make those stores with the limo tint black windows, and energizers...shesh!

Sorry to hear bout your troubles....but you seem to know what your doing...and want etc...

Brandy

 

[mudnuri]

Brandy,



As a daughter of a single mom who saw the craziest men ever come in and out of my mom's life, I feel awful for those children. I know how confusing it gets.

Thats what scares me the most- 2 of her kids are same age as my daughters...I always think in the back of my head "would this be something I'd want my daughters to do" etc... if you KWIM...

My mom and dad divorced when i was 3, and she had 2 serious relationships that i can remember....serious enough that they were 7-8 years apiece etc... the rest I cant tell ya about cause I dont know or remember them

Brandy

 

[Beauty]

Wow thats extreme. Me personally I need my DH just like he needs me. Neither would be complete without the other.

God forbid if anything every happened to one of us I'm sure the other would want a life partner. DH and I are each others "only" so I don't see either of us running from bed to bed. I see dating and getting to know someone before remarriage again but I would never want to spend my life alone.

 

[Mom2Angels]

I have a couple friends like this, always on the look out for a man and always telling me I need to find one! No thank you, if I'm going to be miserable, I can do that on my own, don't need any help!

Debbie