Why do some people feel the need to be nasty?

[C.Ann]

While I'm trying to take in everything that's been said, and make sense of it, I take offense at the idea that by asking why others are being unnecessarily nasty, that I, myself am the nasty one.

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I don't think you're being nasty at all - and it's a question that has come up QUITE frequently lately.. Believe me, you're not the only one who has been questioning the "bad moods" around here the past few months..

 

[luvflorida]

DISing is for fun and learning about others thoughts on different topics. Not all have to be supportive and full of pixie dust but they should be respectful. "Nasty" isn't necessary!!

My thoughts exactly! I've posted this before, but I really hate to see posters making fun of others or mocking others. There is absolutely nothing wrong with disagreeing with people, but it should be done without belittling anyone.

 

[grimley1968]

I've been active on the DIS for about a year now. I agree with some others that the nastiness on here seems to occur in cycles. In a similar way to how I can sense that "that time of month" is near with my wife and that we both need our space, I've started to notice this cyclical nature of DIS nastiness. I think it's on the rise right now, after a bit of a lull in the nastiness recently. I've seen some posters post questions in Theme Parks, or just their experiences, recently, and they've been attacked, or had their motives questioned, etc. for innocent questions or experiences. When this happens I try to curb my posting a little bit, more to a "just the facts, ma'am" sort of style. But I usually have to take some hits by other posters where they quote me and then attack my opinions, before I realize the nastiness is cresting. Or I'll try to jump in to defend an OP who I feel is being piled upon, and get attacked for that. Someday I'll hopefully learn to spot this cycle earlier and just not give opinions for a week or two.

To quote CCR, "I see a bad moon rising."

 

[Stacey2grls]

I have noticed this trend too. Maybe it is a fad or something, but there seem to be a number of repeat offenders that like to I sometimes wonder why so many people are so full of piss and vinegar.

 

[MouseWorshipin]

Patti, there is one particular poster here (who's on his third or fourth post-banning username) who seems to enjoy more than anything to stir the pot or pick at women and their experiences/opinions.

He (and there are others like him) reminds me of the loser in high school who'd try to be provocative just for a bit of attention--whether it be positive or negative, but now they can do it anonymously behind a computer screen. Such behavior tends to come across more as a pathetic attempt to be noticed rather than anything else.

Please don't take this as me bashing you, because that isn't my intention.

I got along OK with that poster. So did other women. I don't think he was going after women specifically. I'm sure you have your reasons to not like him, I'm not trying argue that you should have or anything like that...but there are some of us who kinda miss him.

I guess I have no point. Not the first time!

 

[MouseWorshipin]

I have wondered what people think of me, but maybe it's better that I don't know.

I think you are a boring housewife. Least...that's what I hear...

 

[Free4Life11]

I wonder if there is a secret DIS slam book somewhere....

 

[sajetto]

grinningghost I really don't recall you ever being nasty or mean so I wouldn't worry about it. There's no sense in letting the opinions of one or two people get to you. I would only take is seriously if you've got a pile of people hinting that you were trying to

 

[MAKmom]

Keli, I almost wish that there was a way that people could start a thread asking what others think of them and then people could post anonymously. I suppose a poll could sort of do that, but I'd have to be smart enough to do a poll (yeah, right).

Of course that would turn nasty and wouldn't really get the desired results, but I have wondered what people think of me, but maybe it's better that I don't know. I know that I have friends and know that probably most people don't know who I am, so I should leave it at that.

True that we do see one side of posters and sometimes we get an image in our heads and it's tough to break that image. The good thing about my very poor memory is that I don't tend to hold grudges since I usually forget when someone has done something to make me mad, unless it's really something that's pissed me off.

Don't ever play the tell me what you really think game. My Mom & her friends got me with that game.


I don't remember who post what most of the time. Unless you have a great signature...pictures really help.

 

[poohluvrs]

. I always try to be respectful and kind, and hopefully have a sense of humor too.

So, if I'm the mean one, then I really am confused.

Patti, you are one of the nicest DIS'ers ever!

 

[Buckalew11]

I still trying to figure out who was disrespectful to women. I can't figure out who that was. ????? Maybe my mouse buddy will let me in on that...

Patti, I know you aren't seeking these responses but, I think you are very nice!!

 

[MouseWorshipin]

I still trying to figure out who was disrespectful to women. I can't figure out who that was. ????? Maybe my mouse buddy will let me in on that...

Patti, I know you aren't seeking these responses but, I think you are very nice!!

Done.

 

[luvmydogs]

Please don't take this as me bashing you, because that isn't my intention.

I got along OK with that poster. So did other women. I don't think he was going after women specifically. I'm sure you have your reasons to not like him, I'm not trying argue that you should have or anything like that...but there are some of us who kinda miss him.

I guess I have no point. Not the first time!

We're not talking about Sylvester, if that's who you mean. It's someone else--honestly.

 

[VAgal76]

I think you've all made some great points. Some people merely do live to bring others down. It's deeply rooted in them almost like a disease and they can't stop. Can they be changed? I like to think so.

Can't we all just get along?

If someone is having a bad day and it tends to interfere with the good fun of others and quite possibly themselves maybe they should take a break from the boards to avoid any potential disasters.

 

[Buckalew11]

We're not talking about Sylvester, if that's who you mean. It's someone else--honestly.

Well, I was thinking that if it was Sylvester that even though we disagreed that he was never nasty about it to me, anyway. OK, so I still sit here wondering...

 

[HonestAbe]

Why do you have to go and post something like this?

WHY WHY WHY? It's just WRONG!

 

[Dan Murphy]

.....OK, so I still sit here wondering...

 

[Buckalew11]

 

[jimmalru80]

Why?? It's what they live for. (NOT me).

 

[poohluvrs]

Holy Superposter Batman - Dan Murphy, could you have any more posts - over 56,000

One very wrinkled & carpal tunneled day, that could be me