Why do some divorced women never date again?

[TammyAlphabet]

I have two friends that have been divorced. One for almost 10 years. Not one date or love interest in all that time. Another for two years. Nada. Zip. Neither one is a raving beauty but there are plenty of less attractive women who date up a storm. What gives?

 

[Serena]

So far the men that have asked me out were married.

Other than that, I don't get out much, but I'm working on that.

 

[btass]

Some women just don't want to deal with men anymore.

You haven't said if the women you know have kids. Some of the women with kids don't want boyfriends to come and go around their kids.

There could be a lot of reasons for them not dating and most likely the two that you know have completely different reasons.

And here is a naughty one for you: Maybe they don't date but they do something else that they don't tell anyone about. Nudge Nudge, Wink Wink!

 

[TDC Nala]

I've never been divorced (or married) but I quit dating some years ago. It was more trouble than I thought it was worth. Too much effort for a lot of rejection.

 

[MAKmom]

I know a woman who is so cute but does not have any interest in dating. I think her heart was broken 12 years ago. Some people are very happy single. I do not think I would bother if anything happened to DH. I have the Dis what more do I need

 

[Pop Daddy]

they become lesbians

 

[disneymama73]

This is my second marriage. If I were to divorce again, I don't know if I would ever remarry. Probably not. I can't say I would never date though. Although I would be extremely cautious with my girls...

Maybe your friends don't want to get hurt again.

 

[disneymama73]

they become lesbians

I'm so glad I wasn't drinking anything just now.

 

[birdiesunshine]

Depending on what kind of marriage they were in the first time, they might just be a lot happier on their own. Some women would much rather be alone than live an unhappy life with someone else.

 

[SillyMe]

So far the men that have asked me out were married.

Other than that, I don't get out much, but I'm working on that.

Oooh, that always ticks me off.

For me, it's hard to meet single men. Where do you meet them? Certainly not a bar. I live in a small town, so there aren't many options to begin with.

 

[Serena]

they become lesbians

Not a chance in that.

 

[Caradana]

Heck, I know plenty of twentysomething women who don't date. They just don't put out the vibe, somehow, to men.

 

[disneymama73]

Depending on what kind of marriage they were in the first time, they might just be a lot happier on their own. Some women would much rather be alone than live an unhappy life with someone else.

I think you're right. I have a friend who is newly divorced, and she is like a new person. So happy! She is planning a 3 week trip to Australia all by herself. Her not-so-DH was very verbally abusive, and I think she's happy to just be on her own now.

 

[SillyMe]

Depending on what kind of marriage they were in the first time, they might just be a lot happier on their own. Some women would much rather be alone than live an unhappy life with someone else.

Absolutely!!!

 

[Serena]

Oooh, that always ticks me off.

For me, it's hard to meet single men. Where do you meet them? Certainly not a bar. I live in a small town, so there aren't many options to begin with.

It just makes me not trust men in general. But I am trying hard not to be that way.
Where to meet them? I don't have a clue. Maybe at the grocery store.

"I'm sorry, I thought those were my buns." ??

 

[Fortuosity]

Possibly for religious reasons.

 

[SillyMe]

It just makes me not trust men in general. But I am trying hard not to be that way.
Where to meet them? I don't have a clue. Maybe at the grocery store.

"I'm sorry, I thought those were my buns." ??

Are those buns fresh? Can I squeeze them?

 

[Serena]

 

[sweet angel]

Okay, here's me checking in on this:

I'm just out of a longterm relationship. I'd like to get out there and date -- actually have gone on one date. My problems are:

1. I really like being alone and not reporting to anyone.
2. I have a really LOW tolerance for BS and games.
3. Everyone my age looks SO OLD....

Sure, I'd like someone to hang out with and go places with, but I'm not sure it's worth the hassle that goes along with finding that person.

 

[pearlieq]

Maybe they're just not interested. Dating and relationships are such a crapshoot.

If for some reason I wasn't with my DH anymore, I can't quite picture myself investing too much energy in dating. It's possible to have a full and happy life on your own!