Why do people think they can criticize your vacation choices?

[crisi]

I find it doesn't really matter what I share, people feel that they have a right to comment on it, judge it, and tell me how they'd do it differently. So I only share things that are up for that sort of discussion. If I don't feel like having a conversation about my vacation destination, I don't mention it. And it doesn't matter if its Disney (isn't that for kids) or London with my daughter (why didn't you take your son) or Hawaii (Kauai is the only island worth visiting - when we were going to Hawaii and Maui). Haters hate.

 

[Dean]

It's never just Disney for this group of people. While one can often avoid part of the issue by simply not letting them know what's going on, they always have something to complain about in other areas as well. To me this is more of a boundaries issue, as many have posted here, than a Disney one. Unless one (the blood relative) sets crystal clear boundaries, it'll always be something. Even then some will cont to be an issue and simply avoiding them as much as possible is the only way out.

 

[Kebby]

We hear the same thing. I think it's similar to the fact that people believe it's okay to comment on how many kids we have (4). "Are they all yours?" "Are yall done yet?" "Trying for a basketball team?" "Do you know what causes that yet?"

My motto is live and let live. We have 4 kids and we're extremely happy and lucky to have them. We also like to take them to WDW for vacation as often as life allows! People can get over it!

haha- we are the same. Four kids also, and people make all these comments and more. We also vacation more than most of our friends and they all constantly wonder "how can you afford that" " how can you take four kids with you all the time". And yet, when I give advice about how to make Disney more affordable they don't take it.

 

[Holly Quinlan]

I don't bring it up anymore unless someone asks me about it first

 

[butsy113]

I don't bring it up anymore unless someone asks me about it first

This is what I do also. Unfortunately, it's the aunt that always makes the snide comments who asks. I don't even ask her about her yearly vacations, to the same vacation house, on the same beach, during the same time of year!

At least we switch up resorts and seasons

 

[RebelSoul]

I also never understood why people think it's okay to make comments..."you're going there AGAIN", yet like others mentioned, these same people go to the same vacation home, beach, campsite, etc...year after year. I've come to accept most people are just jealous. I just ignore as I have fun my 2 - 3 weeks at WDW every year.

 

[DeeCee735]

have been listening to people say to me "Disney AGAIN???? Aren't you sick of it?" for years already. In which I respond, "how many times have you been back to Aruba (or where ever)? Aren't YOU sick of it?" Where's the difference?

I have come to believe that those who complain and make negative comments when they hear me planning are just jealous that they aren't invited, or don't have the opportunities it affords us, and don't have kids that grew up loving their family vacations so much that they now do it as adults with friends or still with us, because we still love it, still use it and always will. Sure we trade out every once in a while, but the fact that we can pop into our home resort in the World for 2 or 3 nights, or a week or more, whenever we want makes for the chance to invite family and friends often. So those who love it, they can't wait to be invited back. And those who pass the negative comments, are probably even more grumpy because they DON'T get invited back! LOL!

I no longer invest any energy in defending what I like to do. Why should I? I don't question what they do and I certainly don't expect them to explain why they do what they do, I just stay clear and happily continue to make our plans, whistling while I work to the next vacation :O)

 

[ReneeQ]

Always remember this -
Disney World - for those that get it, no explanation is necessary. For those that don't, no explanation will do. And count your blessings you are in the "those that get it" group.

 

[darkwing818]

Always remember this -
Disney World - for those that get it, no explanation is necessary. For those that don't, no explanation will do. And count your blessings you are in the "those that get it" group.

So True... We also find this to be true for Disney Cruises as well...

 

[zavandor]

Why do people who like to do nothing but lay on a beach think that WDW is a waste of time?

This!
I hate a "sea, sun and sand" vacation, I get bored of it after half an hour. However I never make a comment about it, people like it? Good for them.
When I get surprised comments when I say that I go to WDW (single with no children), I also add that I have a timeshare there. This makes them mad! I learnt to not care about other people comments loooong time ago.

 

[ILoveMyDVC]

I love my FIL dearly - he is truly the father I wish I had but I have to say that I am not looking forward to telling him that we are going AGAIN this year AND that his other son (my BIL) is joining us. My FIL stayed at AK on our points once on a stopover - he had a great time but was shell shocked at the cost of food

 

[ILoveMyDVC]

This!
I hate a "sea, sun and sand" vacation, I get bored of it after half an hour. However I never make a comment about it, people like it? Good for them.
When I get surprised comments when I say that I go to WDW (single with no children), I also add that I have a timeshare there. This makes them mad! I learnt to not care about other people comments loooong time ago.

Ugh BEACH - we live 16 miles from the beach - folks from NYC and CT flock to "our" beaches - it's just another day of sunblock, freezing water and sand to me

 

[dallastxcpa]

haha- we are the same. Four kids also, and people make all these comments and more. We also vacation more than most of our friends and they all constantly wonder "how can you afford that" " how can you take four kids with you all the time". And yet, when I give advice about how to make Disney more affordable they don't take it.

Don't feel bad, it is just the opposite when you have an only child.... when are you going to have another kid, won't your kid be a brat, not learn to share..... blah blah blah. You need to take a friend for your child on vacation. Fortunately, my daughter is grown now and those questions stopped a few years back. I am happy to say she is a well adjusted young lady who loves her Disney vacations still.

 

[nabi]

I'll confess, I said once that I didn't understand my inlaws going to Disney with cousins....then I went, now I know.

 

[anna08]

DH's coworkers actually made fun of our love of Disney at a roast in front of a huge crowd. I hate to say it, but I now harbor so much resentment toward those that did it that I really don't want them in my house again. I wish I was better at not taking it personally.

 

[SweetieinVT]

haha- we are the same. Four kids also, and people make all these comments and more. We also vacation more than most of our friends and they all constantly wonder "how can you afford that" " how can you take four kids with you all the time". And yet, when I give advice about how to make Disney more affordable they don't take it.

LOL. If I had a nickel for every time I got a stupid comment about how many kids I have (4 as well), I'd be retired by now. I'll be happy to take your advice on making it more affordable.

 

[eliza61]

We don't talk about our trips with anyone, really. I just don't see the point of doing so.

Really? I find that so sad. LOL, now I'm probably the "loud mouth broad" in my family so If you ask me about my vacation and then proceed to rip apart my choice, better get ready because baby, me and you are going to dance.
So I don't mind answering why we love the world and I have no problems ripping a new one to rude folks who think they can comment on how I spend my money.

Now generally the folks I've run into a very pleasant. once in a while some one will ask me why we go back to Disney annually but that's about it. It could be that I live in Philly and here people go to the Jersey shore, every year so going to the same place over and over is not a foreign concept.

My pastor at church once told me "don't let anyone steal your joy". I take that to heart.

 

[Cormoran]

I don't think going to the same vacation destination annually is a foreign concept for anyone. I'm always teased by my family for my love of Disney. Ironically, my brother always goes skiing on vacation, but my parents don't think that's peculiar. I've gotten to the point that I try not to let it bother me. I do my Disney dreaming on the boards and with my partner.

Whenever my mother starts in about why I don't visit other places, I tell her that Disney is my happy place and it's my vacation not hers!

 

[DenLo]

I am always amazed how people think doing a vacation at a Disney resort is only for children. We rarely discuss our Disney vacations without the other person mentioning it first. I even quit writing our annual Christmas letter because some years it was only about Disney and not having any kids to brag about and being retired what other what other news is there to write about--our health? Even I think that is boring. LOL

Thank goodness for these forums.

 

[Luv2trav]

I think it comes down to most people view Disney World as a once in a lifetime experience and can't imagine going every year.

I have the opposite problem. We have too many people who want to travel with us all the time. We are going in 3 weeks with just DH and DS's and I am looking forward to our trip just being US... The last several trips have involved In Laws, Parents or close friends. Don't get me wrong I love taking them but when we want to go alone it's almost like a guilt trip they put on us.

I have stopped telling people at work because I feel they think it's financially too expensive and I don't want to feel as if I am bragging or flashing around that we can do this. They have no idea that our trip in 3 weeks is only costing us airfare and food because we are DVC with AP's. I know those things are not free and we paid for them awhile ago and it has allowed us another cheaper vacation.