Why do people post such things? Really?

[Mouse House Mama]

I have to say that many times I sit here with my jaw hanging open. Why would anyone post stuff like but not limited to- how can I be "intimate" on vacation while the kids are in the room, my child is too fat, skinny, stupid, etc. My kid has no friends, doesn't wash, got her period etc. You get the idea? Doesn't anyone have a friend in real life anymore that they can talk to? If my Mom (or Dad) ever posted such stuff about me on a public internet I would never talk to them again! I get wanting opinions but you can google anything and get an answer. Why post such private stuff? Does anyone ever think about how these children would feel if they knew?
Am I the only one who thinks this?

 

[Magic Mom]

I have to say that many times I sit here with my jaw hanging open. Why would anyone post stuff like but not limited to- how can I be "intimate" on vacation while the kids are in the room, my child is too fat, skinny, stupid, etc. My kid has no friends, doesn't wash, got her period etc. You get the idea? Doesn't anyone have a friend in real life anymore that they can talk to? If my Mom (or Dad) ever posted such stuff about me on a public internet I would never talk to them again! I get wanting opinions but you can google anything and get an answer. Why post such private stuff? Does anyone ever think about how these children would feel if they knew?
Am I the only one who thinks this?

Nope

 

[DisneyFan32WI]

There are definitely a few posts that I think are too personal from time to time. I still can't remove the visual of the couple making their permanent souvenir while the other kids slept in the next bed 2 feet away.
That is just TMI for me to handle.

 

[acmmommymouse]

I so agree with OP and feel the same way about peoples Facebook pages too...Will never understand!!!!

 

[happygirl]

I can't speak for everyone, I sometimes find it easier to vent to strangers then my real life friends.

 

[DisneyNutMary]

I agree with the OP, sometimes people take way too much liberty with the anonymity of these boards, and bring up things they probably would not, even with their closest "real-life" friends.
Unless I find the topic pertinent to my life, like the thyroid thrread or child going to college thread for example, then I try to stay away. More often than not, some type of debate breaks out, and feelings get hurt and things go downhill.

I guess to each their own. AAs long as someone is willing to offer advice, then oddball questions will continue to be the norm around here.

 

[sunnyday123]

There are definitely a few posts that I think are too personal from time to time. I still can't remove the visual of the couple making their permanent souvenir while the other kids slept in the next bed 2 feet away.
That is just TMI for me to handle.

While I agree that sometimes that it's easier to ask a bunch of strangers, I cringe when I see a picture of the child they're giving extremely personal information about in the sig line, or have blog set up with all their information, or it's just a crazy over the top question.


Makes me feel super normal sometimes though.

 

[gator75]

I also agree. there are times that i think that the posts should be removed suprised really that they aren't. Do ireally want to read the first thing in the morning over my bowl of cherrios about your daughters peiord or how you and your spouse made you child? not really.

 

[luvmy3]

I also agree. there are times that i think that the posts should be removed suprised really that they aren't. Do ireally want to read the first thing in the morning over my bowl of cherrios about your daughters peiord or how you and your spouse made you child? not really.

Then don't open the thread


I don't have a problem with people posting that stuff, I don't know who they are or who they are talking about so it doesn't make any difference to me what people want to share with a bunch of strangers.

 

[klacey1]

There are definitely a few posts that I think are too personal from time to time. I still can't remove the visual of the couple making their permanent souvenir while the other kids slept in the next bed 2 feet away.
That is just TMI for me to handle.

I agree. That thread sickened me. . .
USUALLY, I don't mind. It must be easier for people to vent to strangers-- if you vent to a friend/family member, you run the risk of someone else finding out. The anonymity of the internet cuts this risk way down. Some threads go way, way far, though.

 

[brockash]

From a person who as a kid thought my mom shared too much of my business with others...I'd much rather have had her ask personal questions,vent ect. on a forum where the ppl. don't know me or she in real life, then her ask/tell them to ppl. I personally knew. If ppl. need help/have questions, I'd rather they ask somewhere then never get help/vent ect. (I think it's healthier,) so I don't really see a problem with ppl. asking it on a somewhat anonymous board Sometimes the things ppl. post are a little personal, but if it makes me uncomfortable then I just skip it.

 

[wdwmom2]

The majority of questions here can probably be handled by Google, I agree. Some people would just like the opinions of others who may have had the same problem or have been in the same situation.

Personally, the DIS is better than any magazine that I could pay for! You do get some good advice, and some great entertainment!

 

[monkeyboy]

how can I be "intimate" on vacation while the kids are in the room

How did I miss that one?????

 

[Carly_Roach]

Then don't open the thread


I don't have a problem with people posting that stuff, I don't know who they are or who they are talking about so it doesn't make any difference to me what people want to share with a bunch of strangers.

I agree. When I'm eating breakfast or lunch here I'm always grateful for people who warn me what the topic is going to be in their thread title. People are typically pretty good about that. I'm also grateful for the 'preview' feature that pops up when I roll over the thread. I can decide whether or not to open it.

To those who would be sickened or appalled by what's posted in the threads here, may I suggest that now is the time to work on your will power. Don't go down paths that you know will sicken or appall you. Choose not to engage yourself in that which you find disgusting. I'll paraphrase to you what I quote frequently to parents:

You prepare yourself for the world, not the world for yourself.​

It's not up to everyone else to learn how to behave in a manner that won't squick you out because sometimes, somewhere, somehow, some way, EVERY SINGLE ONE OF US behaves in a manner that squicks SOMEONE out. If we had to apply ourselves to a laundry list of the things that squick people out, we'd all be frozen in place, afraid to move, afraid to talk, because something we said or did squicked someone out.

This is America. I enjoy my freedom and I'm thankful for it. If something I say or do squicks you out, then stop watching me say or do it. It's your choice.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I have to say that many times I sit here with my jaw hanging open. Why would anyone post stuff like but not limited to- how can I be "intimate" on vacation while the kids are in the room, my child is too fat, skinny, stupid, etc. My kid has no friends, doesn't wash, got her period etc. You get the idea? Doesn't anyone have a friend in real life anymore that they can talk to? If my Mom (or Dad) ever posted such stuff about me on a public internet I would never talk to them again! I get wanting opinions but you can google anything and get an answer. Why post such private stuff? Does anyone ever think about how these children would feel if they knew?
Am I the only one who thinks this?

While I agree that the topics are a little "different", I realize that this is a discussion board.

 

[DisneyFan32WI]

What the heck is a squick?

 

[ldymcbth]

I think sometimes if you need advice on an embarrassing topic, it's easier to ask strangers than to call your neighbor.

That said, it's easy to think of the internet as this great anonymous source, when really it's not -particularly if you link your sig to personal pictures, information, etc.

And it's also good to remember that while you are asking the anonymous masses for advice, you have little to no idea if those masses are decent people or if they have their heads up their rumps, etc.

 

[Carly_Roach]

What the heck is a squinck?

From the Urban Dictionary:

1. squick
1. Noun. The physical sense of repulsion upon encountering a concept or situation one finds disgusting.
2. Noun. A situation or concept which engenders this reaction.
3. Verb, transitive. To cause someone to have this reaction.
4. Verb, intransitive. To experience this reaction.

The concept of the "squick" differs from the concept of "disgust" in that "squick" refers purely to the physical sensation of repulsion, and does not imply a moral component.

Stating that something is "disgusting" implies a judgement that it is bad or wrong. Stating that something "squicks you" is merely an observation of your reaction to it, but does not imply a judgement that such a thing is universally wrong.

The statement "kiddie porn squicks me" and "kiddie porn disgusts me" may both be true. In my case, the second sentence is true, and I assume that the first is also true, but, having never encountered it, I have no way of knowing for sure.

In general, distinguishing between "squick" and "disgust" is an important part of living in a tolerant society.

It is my contention that most anti-gay attitudes, for instance, are the result of people finding that gay sex squicks them -- and, because they don't know about the concept of the "squick", they assume that gay sex DISGUSTS them, which implies that there is something morally objectionable about it.

 

[NikitaZee]

I agree. When I'm eating breakfast or lunch here I'm always grateful for people who warn me what the topic is going to be in their thread title. People are typically pretty good about that. I'm also grateful for the 'preview' feature that pops up when I roll over the thread. I can decide whether or not to open it.

To those who would be sickened or appalled by what's posted in the threads here, may I suggest that now is the time to work on your will power. Don't go down paths that you know will sicken or appall you. Choose not to engage yourself in that which you find disgusting. I'll paraphrase to you what I quote frequently to parents:

You prepare yourself for the world, not the world for yourself.​

It's not up to everyone else to learn how to behave in a manner that won't squick you out because sometimes, somewhere, somehow, some way, EVERY SINGLE ONE OF US behaves in a manner that squicks SOMEONE out. If we had to apply ourselves to a laundry list of the things that squick people out, we'd all be frozen in place, afraid to move, afraid to talk, because something we said or did squicked someone out.

This is America. I enjoy my freedom and I'm thankful for it. If something I say or do squicks you out, then stop watching me say or do it. It's your choice.

BRAVO! Yeah, there have been a couple of thread topics that have personally grossed me out, but I skip over them. What bugs me are the people who have to jump in and let the OP know that - in their opinion - the topic contains TMI. Just don't open it! Don't just step in to chide - what is TMI for you may be very entertaining to me, and vice versa.

 

[DisneyFan32WI]

Sometimes you simply can't skip over them because the TMI part doesn't rear its ugly head until halfway through the post.
For example, the thread on the Disney For Families board right now about the pregnancy. My first thought after reading the beginning was CONGRATS, AWESOME, FINALLY! Then the part about the other kids being in the next bed during it just hit you like a train....didn't see it coming and there is no stopping it.
Other threads, yes, by the title you can tell whether or not it should be opened. Ex: periods