Why didn't someone warn me it was gonna really hurt

[HOGFAN]

I guess I am lucky . DD is attending college locally and will still live with us her first year. She is moving out after that but will still be in town.

 

[Am_I_There_Yet]

I understand! My DD20 left two years ago, to live in a dorm, so that she could go to school in our own CITY! She comes homes still, but it's still strange.

Then, she calls me two days ago, to tell me that she's transferring to Texas Tech, which is about 700 miles away. Now all the teasing I've done about her moving out and living 40 miles away is coming back to haunt me.

We're really close and it's going to hurt to see her leave. Then, my other DD is right behind her. I do have a seven year old step-daughter, but she's only here 6 days a month and I'm starting to feel the empty nest syndrome sneaking up on me.

 

[ksjayhawks]

The minute we pulled out of the parking lot after leaving dd at college, I started to cry and cried the whole way home--my poor dh! I cried for weeks, sometimes the silliest things would set me off. I taught school and kept kleenex by my side--told the kids I was apt to strat crying at any time, so be forewarned. They were great--comforted me. It does get better.

 

[SDFgirl]

Awww! Hang in there. I'm not a parent, but I remember when my parents dropped me off at college! I was so lonely and forlorn, and my mom also said she cried all the way home...

But - things get easier, after awhile it won't hurt so badly. Pretty soon, you may actually enjoying your new-found freedom.

Keep your chin up and do something just for you - a yummy dessert or pedicure or something.

Take care!!

 

[Trish5768]

What College is your son going to, and how far is he from you?

He's going to Lock Haven University, its about 3 hours from home.

Thank you, everyone for your kind words.

 

[smilingmouse]

's to you! I wiah you all the best!

 

[ClarabelleCowFan]

I cry like a baby when I drop DD12 off at camp for a week! I can only imagine what it will be like when she goes off to college...

 

[Feralpeg]

I totally understand. We are in the process of deciding where DD will go to school. She is leaning heavily toward Florida State in Tallahassee. I want her to go where she wants. She wants to live in the dorm and experience college life. In my head, I know that she has to grow up, but my heart breaks at the thought of her going away. For the past seventeen years, it has been just the two of us. We do so much together.

I know I am going to miss her so much. I know that it is probably unreasonable, but I'm afraid for her. I've always been just minutes away should anything go wrong. Now, I'll be hours away.

Why can't they just stay our babies forever?

 

[Lynn CC]

I know exactly how you feel! Our only DS started college this fall, I had to wear DARK sunglasses throughout the whole dropoff (even during the evening hours) the students must have thought I was looney! I have to say it was the hardest thing DH and I have EVER done. It's an awful feeling.
He's been home for Winter Break, and we take him back tomorrow to start his Spring Semester. It's been great having him home. Here we go again!
I have no advice, It's still hard for me

 

[Saphire]

My second son just went back a few hours ago, he is a sophmore at college. I told him before he left that it was such a pleasure to have him home these past few weeks, that he is such a joy to be with, that I will miss him so very much. Then after he left I had a good cry. It doesn't get easier. There is nothing like a mother's love, and sometimes it hurts.

 

[lucyanna girl]

Oh, I'm so sorry. I went thru this when my other children left home for school. I swear when my baby DD 14 leaves I'm going too.

 

[Michie]

While I was sad to see mine leave, I was at the same time glad to see them move on to a next step in their lives.

 

[minnie56]

I really feel for you.
My DD is in her 3rd year and my 'baby' DD just left this past September. The first time around I had a terrible time of it for ages it seems. This last time was hard too, but perhaps not as hard because she is only 45 minutes away and I see her more often. I can only tell you that I thought my heart would break and even now after they come home for the holidays and such, when they leave, my heart aches all over again!

It is so hard as much as we know it's what we have prepared them to do. Life just isn't the same ever again really..it's all part of leaving for good but it gets a little easier in time. Hang in there and know that many a Mum have and do share that little empty space in your heart

 

[froglady]

DD leaves this Friday to drive back to PA. Today we went to buy pots and pans, etc as she won't be coming home after graduation in May, and will need them for her first apartment, if she gets the job she is looking at in DC.

She's spent the last week boxing up all of her things so I can store them until she gets settled, then send them to her. Knowing that she probably won't be back except as a "visitor" for the rest of my life has been difficult for me, to say the least.

 

[Trish5768]

Knowing that she probably won't be back except as a "visitor" for the rest of my life has been difficult for me, to say the least.

I'm sure it has. 's to you.

 

[Tiggeroo]

I understand. I have a 21yo dd who is a jr in college. My twin sons started this year. It really hit me hard because I went from a houseful of kids to nothing. I was pretty bad.
And yet, now everybody is still home from break. Believe it or not, i'm looking forward to them going back and having a peaceful house back.

 

[DVC Jen]

OK someone pass the tissues. Just reading this thread is making me cry.

 

[Dan Murphy]

's Trish. And everybody.

 

[Snowysmom]

It is a really hard thing to do. My older DS is a junior in college and I still cry every fall and end up soaking his sleeve as I hug him good bye. It is a little easier in January but I still get teary eyed. Now when younger DS goes to college in a little over a year, I will be a basket case. That will be hard! Pixie dust for all who have to go through this!

 

[rockin_rep]

Ooh, i totally know what you all mean. Our DD's break ends today too and it hurts so much to know its over -- spring break seems soo far away...

Any of you have kids that are nervous about returning to college, even after a seemingly *successful* first semester? Thats the situation here and i just don't get it... any experiences with your DD's that you can share?