WHY did you have kids?

[GoofItUp]

DH and I have no children, and we were wondering.....WHY do people have children? I just thought it would be interesting to find out WHY some of you had children.

Please note, we are not anti-children. In fact, we are still thinking of having children, but can't really think of a good reason to do it just yet.

 

[Ragmop]

It was a moment of insanity.

 

[oogieboogie]

Same as ragmop and I couldn't stand DH's whining!

 

[onecoolmama]

I love kids and since I married one, I figure what the heck let's have some more.

Seriously, I have wanted to be a SAHM my whole life. I wanted to give to people something I could never have. DH wanted kids too, so it was just a question of getting married. We did and 4 months later we were pregnant. (I had been with him 7 years before we got married!

 

[Pembo]

I thought it would be so fun! Never imagined how much work it actually would be. But it is fun!

 

[jkovick]

GoofItUp-- DH & I have no children either and aren't sure if we will. It is an interesting question and I look forward to what everyone here has to say.

 

[gallaj0]

Why do people wake up early to see the sun rise? Why do people pay to see paintings of places they'll never go? Why do people sing, even if they are no good?

It's because it's something they feel a need to experience, because they have the feeling that by experiencing it, maybe it will change them, and hopefully for the better.

Some people have kids because their religion tells them to, or because of some half brained notion of "carrying on the family name", but in the end, it's in the genes, although I think people are starting to overcome those kinds of urges.

Me, I had kids so I could watch cartoons, play, and see kids movies with being looked at funny.

 

[Jolie C]

We wanted to bring someone else into our family and share our lives with them.

 

[MAC3]

For me it was an overwhelming urge I had when my friend placed her newborn son in my arms. I just new I had to have one. That's exactly what I had 1.

I think it's more of a desire that you have to want one more than a choice. For me anyway.

Lisa

 

[stinkerbelle]

So - I think i'm getting entirely too much sleep and I have way too much free time on my hands.

A kid would take of that - right?



Don't have kids...yet...but we've only been married 8 months...we wanted to be married at least a year first...

plus - I need SOMEONE to go on Winnie the Pooh with me and not have them roll their eyes at me!

 

[geffric]

Originally posted by gallaj0


Me, I had kids so I could watch cartoons, play, and see kids movies without being looked at funny.

Me too!! LOL

 

[luvwinnie]

I'll enjoy reading this thread. I am tired of being asked why I DO NOT hAVE kids...when no one ever asks people why they DID have kids.

 

[NMAmy]

I've ALWAYS wanted a child. DD was a surprise--I got pregnant at a very inopportune time (note: the pill is not 100% effective!)--my ex had just gotten out of the military and started a new job and we were poor as church mice. We had planned on trying for a baby in a few years.

She's asked me if she was an accident--I always stress that she was a SURPRISE (a wonderful one). I can't imagine life without her. Children are worth every expense and every added worry. Once you have one--your life will never be the same and you could never imagine going back to the life you had before.

 

[tkyes]

I can't really put into words why DH and I want to have kids. It's just something you know you want to do.

 

[nkjzmom]

I agree with Lisa. It's more of an urge or a desire than a simple choice. At least I think it should be. If you're not ready or have ANY doubts whatsoever a colicky newborn is the last thing you need!

I have always wanted to be mother. We were surprised/blessed with our oldest son so quickly...I was 2 weeks shy of my 21st birthday. We knew we wanted a big family....and you can see from my signature we've been extremely blessed.

As far as religious reasons, I do believe that your family is all you can take with you....and there's nothing I look forward to more than spending forever with mine!

 

[CEDmom]

Having children defies all rational thinking . In all seriousness this is a question DH and I had to think long and hard about when after several years of fertility treatment we weren't able to have a baby. Of course we talked about having kids before we started treatment but since it was something we both wanted we didn't give much thought as to why.

In the end it simply boiled down to our wanting to share our lives with someone and complete our family. Even at her sassiest DD is the greatest joy in our lives.

 

[CJK]

VERY interesting thread! Thanks for posting. We don't have children and are still very undecided whether we ever will. We have children all around us and while I DO enjoy spending time with them, I enjoy going back to our quiet, orderly home where we can relax and recharge. I hope that doesn't sound too selfish. I just worry about what I'd be able to give a child. I'm very interested in hearing what other people have to say.

 

[Bob Slydell]

Originally posted by Jolie C
We wanted to bring someone else into our family and share our lives with them.

Yeah, that.

 

[bjgrazi]

I like the stressed out way my friends looked, you know no sleep in days, cheerios stuck in the hair, baby barf down the shirt look.

We had all this money saved and needed to spend it on something.

Also, we were curious as to what we could create. We did good work.

 

[Danauk]

I agree this is a great thread and very interesting. DH and I don't have kids and have decided not to (it was more my choice but DH is happy to go along with this.) Part of this is due to medical problems but I also agree with CJK in that I am worried what I would offer a child. I have grown up around adults, I have no brother or sisters and no cousins so I have not been around lots of children. I love kids though and work with 7 year olds but after a day at work I'm not sure how well I would cope with another child at home (although I know it would be different!) I now have friends who have recently had babies but however much I love them I really don't think I could cope with one of my own. Thanks for sharing your stories.