Why can't my sister make up her MIND!! - RANT

[lillygator]

I'd tell your sister that the plans have already been made and she is welccome to make her own.

 

[kamik86]

As I said I wasn't able to tell them no, if I did my Dad would no longer be speaking to me as he would see me as the bad daughter, he wouldn't come so I would still have to change everything in order to get him off all the plans etc. So it really was a no win.

What I did do is pretty much what bettymae1121 said. I will not watch them, I will not be responsible for them. I will not give them any money for souveniers except their birthday money (DN 15's birthday is 10 days after we leave so she will get hers early). I changed the ADRs I could and helped my mom find split ones for the other ones. If DN 8 whines she is missing Chef Mickeys etc. well someone else can decide if they will switch with her or not I don't care.

I also am definitely taking the master bedroom with my DH so I have the ability to completely shut them (and anyone else that may get on my nerves) out even when back at the resort.

My mom is very clear that I unhappy about this. We are driving down and its going to be a pain since now we have to entertain an 8 year old the whole time (doing everything I can to make sure she is in my parents car and that I'm in DS 2's where I planned to be in the first place).

I refuse to book them tickets to anything that will cost me money unless the money is physically in hand from sister 3 already (a check doesn't count either becuase I don't trust it not to bounce. Sister 3 is the only one in the family I will not gladly lone money to... and I'm not the only one in the family that feels this way as a few of the others learned the hard way.) So they will get into the halloween party or they won't I don't care.

My Dad seems to think they will get in since he will just give them his ticket and convince my mom to do the same (although I'd be attempting to get her to go since she wants to). However that won't even work since his ticket and the 8 year olds wouldn't be interchangeable.

I also refused to do anything special for the ADRs. So someone else gets to deal with making sure the DN15 (vegatarian) will eat at all the places she is going. (Most I know will be ok, but not sure on 50's prime time) if she won't she can get something else when she leaves.

I did find out we don't have to worry about souvenier money. Sister 1 who also doesn't trust sister 3 with money has kept my neices birthday and christmas money from her and was planning to give it directly to the kids at some point (Sister 3 has been known to take her kids birthday money when an "emergency" like getting an inspection sticker comes up).

I also refuse to take turns staying with DN 8 if she is whining or tired in the rooms or whatever because she can't behave in the parks my mom is already saying that would be one way to handle it but I told her that since She and my father seem to still refer to my husband and I as the kids and don't really take our input on things anyway we obviously aren't mature enough to do that and will just to play in the parks ourselves. They can miss out on stuff I don't care anymore.

This has become much less of a family vacation and much more of us happening to all go to WDW at the same time.

 

[luvmy3]

It really sounds like you don't like your 8 year old niece very much, and find it a huge burden to have to "deal" with her. Honestly, if you didn't want them there why would you want to plan a vacation for your whole family? I guess I'm just used to family members not really caring if something comes up and a parent can't go, they are more than willing to include the kids so that they can be with the family. Sorry OP, I know you are stressed but the only one I feel sorry for is the niece you talk so negatively about.

 

[ICF]

If you dont want to be responsible for her kids, I'd say that she has to come along or they can't go.

Of course, I'd also tell her that you have things all planned out (like you said you were going to do by early April) and now a month later you cant change them.

If she wants to come along she can book her own room someplace, but you shouldnt let her (or her kids) ruin your vacation.

 

[HM]

Boy, this vacation sounds like it's going to be a real joy.

I hope you come back after it is over and tell us how it went.

 

[dawson5]

I would sit the niece down and talk to her, tell her what you expect. I would then tell the sister that if she gives you one ounce of trouble, you will be putting her on a plane back home, which she will have to pay for--cash upfront before the vacation.

I would hope you would hope for the best though. It sounds like you are going into this with a lot of resentment. I would think this will color your vacation and you already have it pegged as being miserable before you've even gone.

My niece was a hellion when she was younger. I laid down the law/rules in the beginning and told her what I expected of her. She might not like it, but she respected it and we usually had a good time.

 

[wdwfan16]

As I said I wasn't able to tell them no, if I did my Dad would no longer be speaking to me as he would see me as the bad daughter, he wouldn't come so I would still have to change everything in order to get him off all the plans etc. So it really was a no win.

What I did do is pretty much what bettymae1121 said. I will not watch them, I will not be responsible for them. I will not give them any money for souveniers except their birthday money (DN 15's birthday is 10 days after we leave so she will get hers early). I changed the ADRs I could and helped my mom find split ones for the other ones. If DN 8 whines she is missing Chef Mickeys etc. well someone else can decide if they will switch with her or not I don't care.

I also am definitely taking the master bedroom with my DH so I have the ability to completely shut them (and anyone else that may get on my nerves) out even when back at the resort.

My mom is very clear that I unhappy about this. We are driving down and its going to be a pain since now we have to entertain an 8 year old the whole time (doing everything I can to make sure she is in my parents car and that I'm in DS 2's where I planned to be in the first place).

I refuse to book them tickets to anything that will cost me money unless the money is physically in hand from sister 3 already (a check doesn't count either becuase I don't trust it not to bounce. Sister 3 is the only one in the family I will not gladly lone money to... and I'm not the only one in the family that feels this way as a few of the others learned the hard way.) So they will get into the halloween party or they won't I don't care.

My Dad seems to think they will get in since he will just give them his ticket and convince my mom to do the same (although I'd be attempting to get her to go since she wants to). However that won't even work since his ticket and the 8 year olds wouldn't be interchangeable.

I also refused to do anything special for the ADRs. So someone else gets to deal with making sure the DN15 (vegatarian) will eat at all the places she is going. (Most I know will be ok, but not sure on 50's prime time) if she won't she can get something else when she leaves.

I did find out we don't have to worry about souvenier money. Sister 1 who also doesn't trust sister 3 with money has kept my neices birthday and christmas money from her and was planning to give it directly to the kids at some point (Sister 3 has been known to take her kids birthday money when an "emergency" like getting an inspection sticker comes up).

I also refuse to take turns staying with DN 8 if she is whining or tired in the rooms or whatever because she can't behave in the parks my mom is already saying that would be one way to handle it but I told her that since She and my father seem to still refer to my husband and I as the kids and don't really take our input on things anyway we obviously aren't mature enough to do that and will just to play in the parks ourselves. They can miss out on stuff I don't care anymore.

This has become much less of a family vacation and much more of us happening to all go to WDW at the same time.

Sounds like your Dad is basically setting it up so you do have to take care of the nieces. Good luck.

 

[mrsbert]

It really sounds like you don't like your 8 year old niece very much, and find it a huge burden to have to "deal" with her. Honestly, if you didn't want them there why would you want to plan a vacation for your whole family? I guess I'm just used to family members not really caring if something comes up and a parent can't go, they are more than willing to include the kids so that they can be with the family. Sorry OP, I know you are stressed but the only one I feel sorry for is the niece you talk so negatively about.

But, I "get" the OP. This changes the whole demeanor of the trip. The stress level is higher with a younger child, especially if they are not your own. We don't know the entire situation of the DN and the OP, but I also tend to think that if the OP's sister isn't there to give in to the child, she probably won't be as demanding as usual.


Good luck OP.