Why can't everyone just get along?

[rcpae]

This is certainly not my usual personality but I suppose the anonymity of the internet is helping to push me along. I have noticed that recently it seems like more and more of the threads I read on this board asking an opinion turn a little snooty.

I lurk much more than I post. I am an avid reader of this board and I have gathered a ton of info. When we were planning our Disney trip this board was wonderful and you all were so helpful.

I am not saying we all need to agree but some of the recent posts I have read really lack some tact. Have I lost my mind, or has anyone else seen this lately?

I don't know any of you personally (OK 1 of you I do know) but you all seem like a great group of people. I am not saying we all need to agree...but there is a way to respectfully disagree. (I am now reminding myself of this when my DH and I argue )

OK...I will step off of my soap box now.....Thanks for listening.

 

[minnie1928]

You have not lost your mind, I'm hopefull that things will "quiet down" too.

 

[luvtogo12]

I have noticed the same as well. There are times I want to reply to certain threads but think better of it and hit the back button.
I don't know anyone on these boards but still, I would never want to hurt or insult even a stranger and I sure would not want to make someone feel badly about what they came to these boards for.

 

[Hedy]

I think it's something in the planets or the auras or something-there's a serious case of jerkocity going around-and not just on the DIS.

 

[lnh'smom]

No kidding. I work in retail and the last 2 days the customers have been just downright hateful. It's hard to smile and keep being nice when you are being treated like dirt!

 

[It's A Happy Day]

I have to agree. We were discussing at work yesterday that with all of todays innovative electronics how manners in general have steadily declined. Some of the examples we discussed:

* Since when does a cell phone take priority over the live person in front of you that you are talking to? I understand emergencies happen or you are waiting for a callback from your kid to pick them up or whatnot but working in retail I am helping a customer when there cell phone rings and they feel they can either multi-task and talk to me and their friend at the same time or they expect me to read their minds and know what they want while speaking to some person on the phone. Excuse yourself if you must take the call and come back into the store when you are ready or let the call go to voice mail.

* Why is it a hassle to hold a door open for 2 extra seconds for the person behind you instead of scooting in and letting it slam in my face?

* And why just because I do not know you, do not see you, will probably never cross paths with you, do you think it is okay to post a comment that is full or contempt, argumentative, belittling, or whatnot on an open forum. Yes it is possible to debate a situation or make another maybe not agreeable point but I love the "I nevers and how can you evers" that are posted on the boards. Never is a looooonnnng time!

I have long ago decided anything is to be taken with a grain of salt. If you take these things to seriously you can get pretty riled and upset and it's just not worth it. I can sleep at night and that is all I can wish for. I wish others would re-read what they typed before hitting that submit button and think about the context and tone in which they wrote the comment.

 

[TikiGoddess07]

PM sent.

TikiG

 

[Sethsmom]

I usually use this board as a form of relaxation after work. Just helps take the stress out of my days. I have noticed that a lot of the threads start out nice and on topic and then boom, someone decides to start a controversy. If you read a lot of the threads, there are a few in particular that do this. I don't know whether they just need controversy in their life to feel complete or what. I have just in the past week or so tried to figure out why these fun loving people can be so mean. I have seen all kinds of threads that start out as simple questions asking for advice or making a statement about one thing or another and then it starts.

Maybe its the summer heat or the kids need to go back to school or PMS or the full moon. I just wish that whatever is causing it would go away so I can get my fix without raising my blood pressure.

 

[Jenniww]

I hear ya- I just a had a post upset me. It's so hard to understand someone's tone threw a typed message. Glad I'm not alone...

 

[autumnsmommy]

I've got it!!
Summer = Beach = bunch of CRABS

 

[Sethsmom]

I've got it!!
Summer = Beach = bunch of CRABS

touchee' (Don't know if that is how it is spelled but maybe you hit the nail right on the head)

 

[jtnsami]

I've got it!!
Summer = Beach = bunch of CRABS

Good one!

 

[Kimkimba]

ITA.

And it's just not on boards, it seems to be that way a lot more IRL. Sad.

 

[ENSOCK]

I agree! I was here on 05 and just started back the last few weeks. I have noticed a bit of grumpy posts.
I wish everyone a bit of pixie dust and hopefully the grumpy people will go away!!

 

[Free4Life11]

I think it boils down to the fact that people need to get over themselves and their opinions and realize that THEIR way is not the only way and their opinions are not the only ones that matter.

And let me just say if you are against certain forms of government aid, great. But know that b***hing and moaning on a message board isn't going to change anything...grow up and go vent on your family if you're upset! lol

 

[NicksMommy]

This is certainly not my usual personality but I suppose the anonymity of the internet is helping to push me along. I have noticed that recently it seems like more and more of the threads I read on this board asking an opinion turn a little snooty.

I lurk much more than I post. I am an avid reader of this board and I have gathered a ton of info. When we were planning our Disney trip this board was wonderful and you all were so helpful.

I am not saying we all need to agree but some of the recent posts I have read really lack some tact. Have I lost my mind, or has anyone else seen this lately?

I don't know any of you personally (OK 1 of you I do know) but you all seem like a great group of people. I am not saying we all need to agree...but there is a way to respectfully disagree. (I am now reminding myself of this when my DH and I argue )

OK...I will step off of my soap box now.....Thanks for listening.

What's up with all the ethics police as well?!?!?!?

 

[vernfonzndrian]

Yeahhh!! I'm glad someone pointed it out. I also noticed. Didn't want to say anything, though. I'm glad you did.

Thanks!
Veronica

 

[Amber74]

I came to someones defense on a thread before and then I realized that they wanted the controversy. I think some people(a very small group) post things that they know are going to . I have decided to not even look at the threads that are miles long anymore because they will usually make me mad in some way. This is supposed to be a helpful forum and for the most part it is, but those that insist on "moral policing"(as Nicksmommy said) are really bringing us all down. For the hundreds of other cool disers..........

 

[gilby]

I feel the same way. People ask for help, that is what we are suppose to help each other with and boy they jump down your throat. They need to take into consideration each family has their certain situations and I don't think we need to totally explain ourselves. Just a simple answer would make the individual feel welcome instead of HURT and may not ever want to ask a ? again or may choose to not visit the site anymore. I have had a lot of useful information and great answers to my ?'s until recently. Let's keep it that way.

 

[TnTWalter]

that it's so darn HOT everyone's STEAMIN'

I also think that people don't really want your opinions they just want to hear they did the right thing or that it's OK if they do what they want or WHATEVER.....so unless you are going to agree, there will be a debate. EVEN IF they ASK FOR OPINIONS....you give yours, then you get SLAMMED. And then enablers rush to the defense 'it's ok...there there....kiss, kiss.' Why do you ask and push other threads aside?? How about if you don't want to hear dissenting views either a)don't ask or b) put in your tag line "ONLY WANT TO HEAR FROM THOSE THAT AGREE WITH ME'...please don't put 'Is this ok?' or what have you.....and GET UPSET when you hear 'no, it's not ok'.....

BUT...THAT SAID...Those that DON'T AGREE should be kind in their reply....not 'You Dumb #%@! What th $#^ were you thinking?' That wouldn't be CONSTRUCTIVE.

And I think that the anonymity of a board makes people feel free to say it like it is without the tact we usually use at say a social gathering....that PLUS the fact that you can't HEAR the tone of voice so sometimes things are taken wrong when they were not INTENDED that way [same trouble with email].

Everyone just needs to crank up the AC, grab a beer and RELAX. Pretend the people posting are friends and take it with a grain of salt. ALSO, use the IGNORE button whenever NECESSARY.

DISCLAIMER: THESE ARE MY OPINIONS. YOU DON'T HAVE TO AGREE.



Trish