Why are people inconsiderate?

[npmommie]

What is so different in the world today, that common courtesy and considerateness is a thing of the past?

We went to a Halloween event last night at one of those re-created living history museums. It was fun, but I did witness a few acts of inconsiderate adult behaviour.

 

[just4today]

The culture is becoming more and more "me" oriented and there are no consequences for rude behavior.

 

[minechuchie]

I think many adults want their kids to have it all, it does not matter who's toes have to be stepped on to get it. It will continue to get worse with each generation with the whole "me first" attitude and a total lack of consideration for each other. I also think it has to do with the laxness of our society on manners, speech and dress. No propriety at all.

 

[TwinsinCA]

The culture is becoming more and more "me" oriented and there are no consequences for rude behavior.

There was a time where people would feel a sense of shame over poor behavior. Either it was innate or outside forces would provide it. Now that formerly effective societal system of checks and balances is called being "judgmental" and frowned upon. So we have the world we have.

 

[DreaminDisney]

The culture is becoming more and more "me" oriented and there are no consequences for rude behavior.

I think many adults want their kids to have it all, it does not matter who's toes have to be stepped on to get it. It will continue to get worse with each generation with the whole "me first" attitude and a total lack of consideration for each other. I also think it has to do with the laxness of our society on manners, speech and dress. No propriety at all.

There was a time where people would feel a sense of shame over poor behavior. Either it was innate or outside forces would provide it. Now that formerly effective societal system of checks and balances is called being "judgmental" and frowned upon. So we have the world we have.

How true!

 

[Forevryoung]

Honestly, I believe that people no longer stop to take the view of others before making choices. It is far too easy to inconvenience/be rude to a stranger who you will never see again.

My favorite recent example:

I ride the ambulance as a volunteer. One duty crew night we get a call at 4am. The older gentleman stated that he can't pee. He hasn't been able to pee since 5pm. I suggested he inform someone sooner next time (how about immediately or 10pm or 12am... 4am is cruel for such emergencies).

Further conversation led to the knowledge that he has a son who lives close by but he did not want to call him because he did not want to wake him.

What did he think I was doing at 4am?

I kindly reminded him that we are 100% volunteer and that I was in my bed sleeping as well. He had not considered the fact that I would be sleeping as well.

 

[precious pixie]

Inconsideration is my biggest pet peeve Everyone makes mistakes sometimes but it is those who simply do not care that really ruffle my feathers.

 

[heatherleigh]

"There was a time where people would feel a sense of shame over poor behavior. Either it was innate or outside forces would provide it. Now that formerly effective societal system of checks and balances is called being "judgmental" and frowned upon. So we have the world we have."

I agree with this 100 percent! You explained it well.

 

[Stacerita]

Its called....its all about me

 

[BelleBoo&AmisMum]

Honestly, I believe that people no longer stop to take the view of others before making choices. It is far too easy to inconvenience/be rude to a stranger who you will never see again.

My favorite recent example:

I ride the ambulance as a volunteer. One duty crew night we get a call at 4am. The older gentleman stated that he can't pee. He hasn't been able to pee since 5pm. I suggested he inform someone sooner next time (how about immediately or 10pm or 12am... 4am is cruel for such emergencies).

Further conversation led to the knowledge that he has a son who lives close by but he did not want to call him because he did not want to wake him.

What did he think I was doing at 4am?

I kindly reminded him that we are 100% volunteer and that I was in my bed sleeping as well. He had not considered the fact that I would be sleeping as well.

You volunteered for a position that would get you calls at 4am and then you lecture the person making the call for waking you up?!?!? I'm sorry but you were being inconsiderate. This poor man was probably getting worried and scared and called for help only to get spanked for doing so, and we wonder why people are so inconsiderate and rude these days.

 

[JessicaR]

Honestly, I believe that people no longer stop to take the view of others before making choices. It is far too easy to inconvenience/be rude to a stranger who you will never see again.

My favorite recent example:

I ride the ambulance as a volunteer. One duty crew night we get a call at 4am. The older gentleman stated that he can't pee. He hasn't been able to pee since 5pm. I suggested he inform someone sooner next time (how about immediately or 10pm or 12am... 4am is cruel for such emergencies).

Further conversation led to the knowledge that he has a son who lives close by but he did not want to call him because he did not want to wake him.

What did he think I was doing at 4am?

I kindly reminded him that we are 100% volunteer and that I was in my bed sleeping as well. He had not considered the fact that I would be sleeping as well.

It likely wasn't a problem at 10P or Midnight. In a perfect world emergencies would take place during convenient hours but in the real world they do happen 24/7. A little patience and compassion goes a LONG way. It would seem that was your job, volunteer or otherwise. It sure sounds like he had no idea the number he was calling had limitations to acceptable times that he could call.

 

[Liberty Belle]

You volunteered for a position that would get you calls at 4am and then you lecture the person making the call for waking you up?!?!? I'm sorry but you were being inconsiderate. This poor man was probably getting worried and scared and called or help only to get spanked for doing so, and we wonder why people are so inconsiderate and rude these days.

I agree. Poor guy.

 

[John VN]

I believe a major reason is the one that has been mentioned by almost every response.

All one has to do is listen to the way many, many people talk and you will often hear the first word out of their mouth when including others is ME and my friends or ME and Billy and Joe or ME and ......

I find this is very prevalent even with people I feel should know better. The DUMBING of AMERICA.

 

[soupy11]

Honestly, I believe that people no longer stop to take the view of others before making choices. It is far too easy to inconvenience/be rude to a stranger who you will never see again.

My favorite recent example:

I ride the ambulance as a volunteer. One duty crew night we get a call at 4am. The older gentleman stated that he can't pee. He hasn't been able to pee since 5pm. I suggested he inform someone sooner next time (how about immediately or 10pm or 12am... 4am is cruel for such emergencies).

Further conversation led to the knowledge that he has a son who lives close by but he did not want to call him because he did not want to wake him.

What did he think I was doing at 4am?

I kindly reminded him that we are 100% volunteer and that I was in my bed sleeping as well. He had not considered the fact that I would be sleeping as well.

I can't decide if I should laugh or cry at this. Guy uses a legit service to get help and he gets berated? Put yourself in his shoes. The man is suffering from a humiliating condition, he strikes up the nerve to get help and then he gets treated like a kid?

 

[EpcotBeauty]

Honestly, I believe that people no longer stop to take the view of others before making choices. It is far too easy to inconvenience/be rude to a stranger who you will never see again.

My favorite recent example:

I ride the ambulance as a volunteer. One duty crew night we get a call at 4am. The older gentleman stated that he can't pee. He hasn't been able to pee since 5pm. I suggested he inform someone sooner next time (how about immediately or 10pm or 12am... 4am is cruel for such emergencies).

Further conversation led to the knowledge that he has a son who lives close by but he did not want to call him because he did not want to wake him.

What did he think I was doing at 4am?

I kindly reminded him that we are 100% volunteer and that I was in my bed sleeping as well. He had not considered the fact that I would be sleeping as well.

OH.MY.GOD!!! You berated and scolded that poor old man for doing a job you VOLUNTEERED to do?! Please, please quit. Sick, scared patients don't deserve that, nobody does.

 

[just4today]

I can't decide if I should laugh or cry at this. Guy uses a legit service to get help and he gets berated? Put yourself in his shoes. The man is suffering from a humiliating condition, he strikes up the nerve to get help and then he gets treated like a kid?

How inconsiderate of him to have a medical problem at 4am.

 

[disneyfav4ever]

I think a lot of people are just lacking manners. I see rude people all the time.

 

[soupy11]

How inconsiderate of him to have a medical problem at 4am.

The gosh darn irony is heavy!

 

[roseprincess]

What is so different in the world today, that common courtesy and considerateness is a thing of the past?

We went to a Halloween event last night at one of those re-created living history museums. It was fun, but I did witness a few acts of inconsiderate adult behaviour.

To the OP, I like your Bono avatar

As of rudeness from adults, unfortunately it happens alot. I teach my kids to say "please" and "thank you" and be respectful, even tho my DD is not respectful all the time .
I think I'm pretty considerate. My pet peeve also is when other adults are not considerate. I know even at my church, there are people I know who I thought were friends or acquaintances, that just brush me or my DH off. We don't fit in their "clique", so they don't talk to us much. I know one mom I know who just kinda brushed me off after I asked if my DD can join her Girl Scout troop. My DD is special needs and I think some people are scared of special needs children for whatever reasons. Sorry to vent like this, but it happens sometimes to me, esp from some people at my church.
The thing is, the same family who is known at our church (I've known this certain family for years), their DD was up on stage at church last night, saying how wonderful it was they raised money for one of their close girlfriend to go to a church camp retreat weekend coming up. And I know this close girlfriend of their DD is not hurting for money for the retreat. Same family tells me "no" for my DD to join her Girl Scout troop a couple of weeks back I don't understand that, where is the compassion for others, besides having compassion for a very close girlfriend of their DD's??

Edited to add: Same mom above brushed me off again about over a yr ago. I called her to ask for prayer for my DH, just a quick asking of prayer, as my DH had just lost his job at the time. We were all in a community church group together, so I thought it appropriate to ask for a quick prayer request and then get off the phone. Well, she had me on hold for 20 minutes on her cell phone b/c she was helping some friend of hers, about softball practice that day. She got back on the phone finally and told me to call someone else with my prayer request. I thought, how rude!!
Yes, you can even find rude people from your own church, not all of course, but some.

 

[Keli]

I think the anonymity of our society may contribute to people being rude to others. Most of the time you don't see people being rude to people they know, they, generally speaking, are rude to strangers.
That's because they're likely to never see the stranger again and won't suffer any repercussions for their behavior.
This may be terrible of me, I'm not sure, but the truth is I go out of my way to be especially polite to everyone in the little town I was raised in (along with my 7 siblings) and where both my parents and I still reside. Because even if I have no idea who someone is, there's a good chance they know who I am! It's the way it works when you come from a really large family in a small town. Folks just know which family you belong to even if they aren't sure of your name.
I'm not rude in other situations (at least I don't think so!) but it is different when you don't want to do anything that might be a bad reflection on not only yourself but your family as well.