Who's NOT looking forward to the holidays? Grinch and Scrooge check in here!

[LiLIrishChick63]

anyone BESIDES me not really all that excited about the holidays??

normally i wouldn't mind, but i now have this DSIL who i can't STAND!! we are NOTHING alike and anytime i'm around her she constantly tells me how i "shouldn't cut my hair" or "what color i should dye my hair" what i "should/shouldn't wear" and things like that.

she also got angry with me because i missed this family dinner my DH's family does every year, for the first time in 8 years, because i wasn't feeling right so she had some snide little comment to make about it on facebook to me a few days ago.

plus she's just generally always talking down to me. she's older than me so i think she feels the need to try and tell me what to do.

not to mention she's trying to get pregnant and she drinks and smokes a LOT and i tried to tell her "maybe you should cut back on those things while you're trying to get pregnant, they're not healthy for you or a baby" and she flipped out on me telling me "PLENTY OF MY FRIENDS GOT PREGNANT WHILE THEY WERE STILL DRINKING AND SMOKING AND THEIR KIDS TURNED OUT FINE!!"

i just DON'T want to deal with her. espically after that comment she made to me, i know she'll have more to say about it on Thursday! and then i'll have to deal with her from Thanksgiving thru Christmas up until New Year's and then my DH's birthday in January......i feel like i'm going to explode by the time January comes around!

 

[susykt4]

I hate the holidays. This year I will have 5 family Christmas celebrations I'll be required to attend. I would much prefer to skip all but one or two and spend the time at home with my husband and kids.

My mom is ultra-competetive with her sisters and has always wanted me to be good friends with my two older female cousins. We've always gotten along ok, we always talk, but for some insane reason that's not enough for my mother. As a teen I would get grounded every year for not spending as much time with them as my mother wanted. I was spending time with other cousins I naturally clicked with! I'm 37 years old and last year my mom yelled at me once again for not hanging out with these cousins enough! I calmly, but forcefully let Mom know that she will NEVER be bringing up my relationship with these cousins EVER again or my family and I will never again attend this particular gathering. Sheesh!

 

[XTinabell]

anyone BESIDES me not really all that excited about the holidays??

normally i wouldn't mind, but i now have this DSIL who i can't STAND!! we are NOTHING alike and anytime i'm around her she constantly tells me how i "shouldn't cut my hair" or "what color i should dye my hair" what i "should/shouldn't wear" and things like that.

she also got angry with me because i missed this family dinner my DH's family does every year, for the first time in 8 years, because i wasn't feeling right so she had some snide little comment to make about it on facebook to me a few days ago.

plus she's just generally always talking down to me. she's older than me so i think she feels the need to try and tell me what to do.

not to mention she's trying to get pregnant and she drinks and smokes a LOT and i tried to tell her "maybe you should cut back on those things while you're trying to get pregnant, they're not healthy for you or a baby" and she flipped out on me telling me "PLENTY OF MY FRIENDS GOT PREGNANT WHILE THEY WERE STILL DRINKING AND SMOKING AND THEIR KIDS TURNED OUT FINE!!"

i just DON'T want to deal with her. espically after that comment she made to me, i know she'll have more to say about it on Thursday! and then i'll have to deal with her from Thanksgiving thru Christmas up until New Year's and then my DH's birthday in January......i feel like i'm going to explode by the time January comes around!

Sucks about your inlaws. I have a competitive SIL too, she drives me nuts.

I'm a grinch this year sadly. I have a destination wedding to plan, a move that's taking place this year and I have no money so I told my family I didn't want to exchange gifts this year. They all agreed and said that's fine only to find out they're secretly planning to get me gifts anyway. They are going to be small gifts, nothing fancy but just enough to show they care. Great, so now if I don't get them anything it's because I don't care? So now I have to decide if I should get them something small even though I wanted to avoid it this year or give them nothing but have to receive gifts from them. I have a big family, even the small stuff adds up.

 

[LiLIrishChick63]

I hate the holidays. This year I will have 5 family Christmas celebrations I'll be required to attend. I would much prefer to skip all but one or two and spend the time at home with my husband and kids.

My mom is ultra-competetive with her sisters and has always wanted me to be good friends with my two older female cousins. We've always gotten along ok, we always talk, but for some insane reason that's not enough for my mother. As a teen I would get grounded every year for not spending as much time with them as my mother wanted. I was spending time with other cousins I naturally clicked with! I'm 37 years old and last year my mom yelled at me once again for not hanging out with these cousins enough! I calmly, but forcefully let Mom know that she will NEVER be bringing up my relationship with these cousins EVER again or my family and I will never again attend this particular gathering. Sheesh!

yeah we have so much to do on the holidays i'm just like you, i'd rather just spend it at home with my husband!

ugh that sucks about your mom. my mom is somewhat like that, too. i have a half-sister and her and i have never gotten along. she never liked it when my dad came along and married my mom and then had me, and she's made it well known since i can remember, and my mother gets angry that her and i don't talk. idk how many times i've had to tell her it's just NOT going to happen.

 

[LiLIrishChick63]

Sucks about your inlaws. I have a competitive SIL too, she drives me nuts.

I'm a grinch this year sadly. I have a destination wedding to plan, a move that's taking place this year and I have no money so I told my family I didn't want to exchange gifts this year. They all agreed and said that's fine only to find out they're secretly planning to get me gifts anyway. They are going to be small gifts, nothing fancy but just enough to show they care. Great, so now if I don't get them anything it's because I don't care? So now I have to decide if I should get them something small even though I wanted to avoid it this year or give them nothing but have to receive gifts from them. I have a big family, even the small stuff adds up.

yeah my SIL comes from money and i don't....so she likes to rub it in my face constantly that she has more money than me and my husband do and we've been brought up to not care about other people and their money so it's really annoying and strange to have to deal with it.

ugh i HATE when people do that! you tell them "we're not exchanging" yet they get you something anyway!

but srsly, i don't think you need to get them anything. they'll understand. or even tell them "hey i know you're still planning on getting me something and please don't, i wouldn't feel right taking it without giving you something in return and i can't get you anything right now"