Who here is not in the "clique" like me? Part 2

[2xcited2slp]

Hi kidlets---


Well, I'm now starting my 4 hour vigil of sitting here waiting for the gas meter reading guy. They gave me a time frame from noon until 4pm-----this for a service that takes no longer than 5 minutes. I really want to go see "Flushed Away" this afternoon so I'm hoping that my name is "early" on the list.



Lyzziesmom---I thought of you this morning----man, you must have been hurting this morning from staying up so late last night!!!! Sorry to be a bad influence on you.
I'm cracking up at you ability to stretch the truth about the trip. This just means that Ashley MUST go!!!! No pressure.

I have to admit you guys are among my closest friends at the moment.

*sniff sniff*, girl!!!!!

I have lived in St. Louis all of my life and have just a few really "close" friends. Lots of aquaintences, but only a few that really have been there for me. But, I'm serious, I talk to you all more than I talk to them.

Sounds like you are in for a busy week. It seems like when it rains it pours. Take some deap breaths and keep focused. That was really sweet of your co-worker to stop by and say that to you.

I want to chat with you about the BF thing, but I'm not sure this post can handle that many more words. I'll do a separate one.


Hi Michele----yes, booking the airfare is the final tie to the trip. I'm still watching for good fares, but yay to all who have done it already!!!! How's Matt doing with his meds?? Any improvement??


Miss Donna---Heart healthy muffins???? Delish!!!!! And I bet that's heartsmart margarine too, not butter.
Not a problem about bailing----I understand.


And for those bowlers out there-----I have only been once in my life-----reason?? -----I am the one where the ball went backwards/behind me/towards the chairs/not down the lane/the other way----you get the picture. One try and it scarred me for life.



Joybeth----WELCOME!!!!!!!!!!!! Come by anytime and have a wonderful and safe trip!!!! Now you're indebted to come back and tell us all about it.


Amber---I had to laugh at your shopping skills. You're just like me----I think I deserve a "prize". I always think that I must get it right then and there or else I will never see it again. I have learned many lessons this way---if I don't buy it then it haunts me until I end up going back to get it. I think I am finally to the point where I just tell myself that I really don't need it. Now, I wish I could do this with food.

We wish you were going to, but I'm sure there will be other conventions that we need to attend.

p.s. you had me chuckling at your just smiling at Mike.


DznyFan--- way to take a bite of it!!!! I'm sure he never saw what hit him.
Good explanation on the difference of theater/theatre------I'm not sure if I ever knew that. Did you and Erin see that Mary Poppins is now on Broadway?? I want to go so badly!!!! They had the cast on the Today Show the other morning and they were fabulous!!! How long does it usually take for a show like this to start traveling?? I would love to go to New York but with all of the WDW trips I've taken/planning, I just don't think I can afford it.
I think your weekend sounds delightful!!!! I love those kind of days where nothing is pressing and you can just go about things at your own pace. I really liked Take the Lead as well. I rented it a while back.


Nicole--that's cute that Steven would still go to kids' movies. There something about those movies that just make you smile.

I consider ya'll my close friends too. It's sad we all don't live closer to meet and do things together.

double *sniff sniff*!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (see Lyzziesmom's above if you scan)

That's it!!! You're going to be cloned immediately!

Cute!!!!

Polyfor30th----and to you as well----WELCOME!!!!!!!! Don't worry about being shy, I know I am and some others here too (at least they say ) I just noticed your ticker-----did you leave for WDW today?? Or am I reading this wrong??
Stop by and say hi anytime!!


Pozey---glad you had a good weekend. The zoo during the winter is really the best. My ex-BF and I used to go all of the time. We would bundle up and just walk around enjoying the non-crowds and the playful animals. We even went on New Year's Day one year just to find it was closed. The St. Louis Zoo is closed only a couple days a year and we picked one of them. What were we thinking?? It's not such a big deal to me anymore, because I live very close, but at that time we lived about 30 minutes away. Live and learn.

What kind of puppy did your brother get??

My first response to your company buyout was going to be keep a good relationship with those headhunters, but after reading through again, maybe you're in good hands with the new owners. Hope you find out some good information.

Great advice to Lyzziesmom!! Hope Colton feels better!!


Linda----life alert Where do they come up with this stuff??
Yes, I won't need to apply blush for several weeks now!! I'm still shaking my head. My dad is so quiet that I know he was thinking something but didn't have the heart to say it. Everytime the pic came up I would feel my face getting more and more flushed!!!!
Oh, and btw, there are three stories that I need reminding of, soup, but I can't remember the other two----I'll have to go back and check. See why I need reminding?? Who am I??



Boy, you guys must cringe when you see my posts pop up!! I know I do!!


I need to go check on my meter guy status. Be back soon.

 

[pozey]

A few pictures from our trip to the Zoo:

 

[lyzziesmom]

pozey those pictures are awesome!! It looks like you have a really fun zoo in your area. I love that you took a bunch of pics of the big cats - those are my favorite. You are quite the photographer! I hope Colton feels better.

Thanks for all the advice & words of encouragement from everyone. I know in my head that patience is the key. However, just as I cannot expect him to change the way he is "wired," I also cannot change. I have a feeling he may want to spend more time together once I am not working here for a while and he doesn't see my smiling face every day. I also chalk some of it up to age and experience. I have been on this carousel many more times than he has, and I have wasted many years with the wrong men. He's still young and green and hasn't really been through this before.

Linda... Life Alert? Oh my! I love how the little ones take commercials so seriously, they sure can come up with some funny stuff!

 

[Tinkerbell_Girl]

Linda- Kenny is too funny!

Pozey- Nice pictures!

Amber- Your comment about Mike make me laugh!

 

[Melwood23]

I am still around, just haven't had time on the internet lately, hopefully now that winter is here, well ok, offically it is still Fall, but now that it is cold, it is winter to me . Not sure if I should even try to read back posts to catch up on things, or just lurk a bit till I see what is going on.
I apologize if I just dropped off the face of the earth lol, just was busy with activities during the nice weather, plus still on lots of Overtime at work.

 

[lyzziesmom]

Hi Mel, nice to see you again! You can just hop right back in, it would take forever to catch up. Maybe just read back a few pages? I keep saying it's winter too... much to the delight of my 8-year-old, who loves nothing more than to correct me.

 

[lyzziesmom]

I don't remember if I mentioned to you guys... I called and scheduled the procedure for my back pain. I'll be having it done next Monday morning. I'm pretty scared that's it's not going to work, because this is my last hope of pain relief other than staying on the meds, and I don't want to end up relying on narcotics for the rest of my life. I'm also scared that it's going to make the pain permanently worse, which is a 10% chance. Wish me luck!

 

[DznyFan]

Did you and Erin see that Mary Poppins is now on Broadway??

Yes!

So, now me and Colton are home. Hope he feels better VERY soon. He has a swim meet tomorrow night.

aww....

GREAT pictures!

Here, kitty kitty....

It sounds like you and DD have a great relationship though. that is so awesome!

Thank you... I try really hard at having a good relationship with her, but at the same time not crossing that line that says "I'm your friend" instead of "I'm your parent". It hasn't always been wonderful with her; I grew up with a very cold mother, and all my life the memories I have are of dislike of her. I never wanted to have that animosity between my DD and I. My mother and I got past it as I grew older, but she was just never a warm, loving mother. The things my DD tells me I would have NEVER shared with my mom. It's just the way it was. I have made some HUGE parenting mistakes, and would have done some things differently, but all in all we're pretty close. It also helps that I'm very accepting of some of her male friends who are some of the greatest kids I know but don't necessarily have the most loving home lives because of 'the way they are' if you are getting my drift....
Parenting is the most difficult thing I've ever done in my life - it's also the most rewarding.

I have lived in St. Louis all of my life and have just a few really "close" friends. Lots of aquaintences, but only a few that really have been there for me.

Ditto. And Lyzziesmom said something earlier about shyness (I think from one of the new peoples' posts) and yep! I'm really pretty outgoing and friendly, until I'm put in a social situation (like a big party) and I'll just hide in a corner unless I know people there. Major anxiety. I cannot go up and just start talking to people - I don't go "make" friends easily. Put me on stage and I'm a different person (remember, I used to be a musician by trade.) My friends are few and very close. My acquaintances are numerous. I'm just a little homebody! (No, I didn't say homeboy....)
I didn't used to be touchy-feely - my stepmother, who came into my life when I was 14, taught me to be more physical - after I got over being extremely resentful and hateful to her as a teen. Now I hug everybody.


Hey - where's my ticker?????

 

[lyzziesmom]

DznyFan, my ticker disappeared too. Was it from tickertag? I made a new one at tickerfactory.com. I don't like the selection nearly as much, but it seems to work most of the time. I really miss the *************** tickers.. they were so darn cute! But they almost never worked.

 

[MI mom of 3]

Linda... Life Alert? Oh my! I love how the little ones take commercials so seriously, they sure can come up with some funny stuff!

That is the truth. I have 2 stories about that. When Bree was little my mom had her at the store. Bree picks up a container of Legg's pantyhose, hands them to my mom and says "These are not your mother's
tam pons!" WTH!!!

Then when the boys were little and looking thru the Christmas catalogs, they would bring me their list and Nick, who was always more serious, would remind us "Batteries not included!" Thanks hon!!

We had a scare at school today. A 7th grade boy asked to get a drink from his Math Extension class. The teacher let him out, no big deal. Well a little while later he was found slumped against a wall in another hallway, with blood all over his face and hands!!! The woman who found him called me and the office on our walkies and explained. I got the wheelchair so we could bring him to the office. All we got out of him at that time was that he needed water and had a nosebleed. He was very confused!! But we found blood all over the hallway.

Later, after his mom came to get him, the principal looked on the video tape...The boy was walking down the hall, when all of a sudden he started weaving all over, He passed out and smashed his face into a brick wall!!! Then he crawled a few feet and passed out again. That is why we found a pool of blood on the floor. He got up a few minutes later and wandered down a different hall where he was found!! The other hall monitor who found him, the secretary and myself where all crying watching this poor baby in that hall. I was in classroom not 15 feet from where he was lying in the hall and no one was there for him. I KNOW I am going to dream about him tonight. We have tomorrow off so I have to wait until Wed to find out how he is.

Gotta go get Matt from school

 

[2xcited2slp]

Well, still no sight of him. Guess I won't be making a trip to the theater(I learn fast) this afternoon. It is also really rainy out today. And cold.

I'm glad I went to check though, because I had forgotten that I had lit a candle. I am in my bedroom DISing and walked out into the west wing of the mansion and there it was-----lit-----unattended. oops. Nothing happened, but I'm always a bit leary. Smelled good though. Crisp Linen.

Oh, do you all run a match under water after striking it and lighting what you need?? I have heard so many stories where people strike a match then blow it out and just pitch it in the garbage. Then, oddly enough, fire starts.

Just my friendly safety tip for the day.



okay, Lyzziesmom---here's my two cents. First of all, I think Pozey and Dznyfan and the rest of the crew have given excellent advice!!!!! And, since I am not in a current relationship, I'd like to share what I used to do that really sabbotaged my last one.

I have always been a very quiet, shy girl. I felt like I always needed someone to tell me what to do. I think it came from the fact that my mom is a bit controlling and still is even as adults. She still has a way to lay on the guilt. My sister often wonders when she'll be able to buy her own kids' Easter outfits.(and she's 39) My mom means no harm, it's just the way she is. Anyway, as I started having serious boyfriends, I was to the point after a while of being too "needy" or "clingy". It got to the point where I was stifling. I always wanted to be with them and never understood why they didn't want to spend time with me. I think I had an intuition of infidelity concerns because of some information I learned later in life about my parents----maybe this caused me to always want to "watch" my boyfriends all of the time. Trust is a huge issue with me and I'm assuming that with what you went through with Emma's dad that it may pose a problem with you too. Please correct me if I am wrong. Anyway, the fact that I was never comfortable by myself and was too shy to make other friends when I was in a relationship really took a toll on my boyfriends. No matter what, I "conformed" to their life and pulled away from my own. So, I never really learned what I liked---just melded into their likings.

I was never brought up with showing affection, but because of my career that has changed dramatically. I touch people every day----waxing, facials, etc., so it second nature to me to go up and give someone a hug or touch their arm while speaking to them. It's just the way of my position. Nuturing. I have learned alot through many people in my career, both with clients and with co-workers. And not all is good-----there are many of times when I see someone and I internally make a note that I do not want to be like that. I see nothing wrong with showing affection, but I understand if someone is not used to it. It can be learned but on his own accord. You can just "demonstrate" and maybe then he will begin to warm up and reciprocate the action.

So, over the years, I have come to recognize my downfalls. I can't promise that if and when another relationship transpires that I will still have those nagging twinges of "neediness", but I can say that I will do my best not to let them get the best of me. I am comfortable now with being by myself and to tell you the truth, sometimes need it. Maybe this is wrong----I don't know----but it works for me. I look forward to having another chance at a relationship and hope that I am strong enough and have the confidence to not let these things bother me.

I admire you for taking risks and challenges in having someone in your life. It sucks sometimes, but at least you're doing it. I agree with you that if DBF is young, he may not know how to treat a relationship or may be frightened off by the littlest of things. Give him some space, spend qualility time with those beautiful girls of yours and he will come around. It's a good point that you make about him not having the luxury of seeing you every day. Concentrate on what you need to do and everthing will be fine. I know how hard it is to long for someone to share experiences with and I really do just want to cry for you. I feel your pain. But, remember, you and your daughters are the most important. Life's too short, sweetpea, enjoy every minute.



Now, to step off my soapbox and hope I don't trip.

 

[Tinkerbell_Girl]

We had a scare at school today. A 7th grade boy asked to get a drink from his Math Extension class. The teacher let him out, no big deal. Well a little while later he was found slumped against a wall in another hallway, with blood all over his face and hands!!! The woman who found him called me and the office on our walkies and explained. I got the wheelchair so we could bring him to the office. All we got out of him at that time was that he needed water and had a nosebleed. He was very confused!! But we found blood all over the hallway.

Later, after his mom came to get him, the principal looked on the video tape...The boy was walking down the hall, when all of a sudden he started weaving all over, He passed out and smashed his face into a brick wall!!! Then he crawled a few feet and passed out again. That is why we found a pool of blood on the floor. He got up a few minutes later and wandered down a different hall where he was found!! The other hall monitor who found him, the secretary and myself where all crying watching this poor baby in that hall. I was in classroom not 15 feet from where he was lying in the hall and no one was there for him. I KNOW I am going to dream about him tonight. We have tomorrow off so I have to wait until Wed to find out how he is.

That's scary! I wonder what caused him to do that? I hope he's okay.

 

[pozey]

That is the truth. I have 2 stories about that. When Bree was little my mom had her at the store. Bree picks up a container of Legg's pantyhose, hands them to my mom and says "These are not your mother's
tam pons!" WTH!!!

Then when the boys were little and looking thru the Christmas catalogs, they would bring me their list and Nick, who was always more serious, would remind us "Batteries not included!" Thanks hon!!

We had a scare at school today. A 7th grade boy asked to get a drink from his Math Extension class. The teacher let him out, no big deal. Well a little while later he was found slumped against a wall in another hallway, with blood all over his face and hands!!! The woman who found him called me and the office on our walkies and explained. I got the wheelchair so we could bring him to the office. All we got out of him at that time was that he needed water and had a nosebleed. He was very confused!! But we found blood all over the hallway.

Later, after his mom came to get him, the principal looked on the video tape...The boy was walking down the hall, when all of a sudden he started weaving all over, He passed out and smashed his face into a brick wall!!! Then he crawled a few feet and passed out again. That is why we found a pool of blood on the floor. He got up a few minutes later and wandered down a different hall where he was found!! The other hall monitor who found him, the secretary and myself where all crying watching this poor baby in that hall. I was in classroom not 15 feet from where he was lying in the hall and no one was there for him. I KNOW I am going to dream about him tonight. We have tomorrow off so I have to wait until Wed to find out how he is.

Gotta go get Matt from school

Wow. Hope the kid is alright. Did he just pass out?

 

[hellokitty86]

Hi everyone

Hope everyone is having a good day. I kept having weird dreams last night- one of them was I was at the airport & went through security, checked my bags etc. and then realized I didn't have my license or debit card and I started freaking out. (I'm apparently not rational when it comes to dreams, they only check your ID when you check in and go thru security. So I called Jeremiah and told him to bring it to me, (who knows why he would have it) and then I looked in my back pocket and it was there. )

Pozey- What great pictures! I've been wanting to go to the National Zoo in DC before it gets too cold...Thanks for reminding me,

Lyzziesmom & DznyFan: Thanks for the theater/theatre explanation.

Lyzziesmom- I hope the procedure with your back goes ok next week. I'll say a prayer for you!! And I know what you mean about being affectionate and having the guy think its something more. I'm touchy-feely too. I still struggle with that now and Jeremiah & I have been together 6 years. It does get better though! And I'm relieved that his definition isn't that you guys are with ONLY eachother. That would be worse IMO than not seeing eachother everyday.

2xcited- Hi. (That was my shortest post to you ever)

Hi to everyone. Am I the only one getting a kick out of the 'tackiest weddings' thread? Lyzziesmom- I actually thought of your Halloween pic when I read the title of it

 

[lyzziesmom]

Michele, that is so scary about that kid! I hope he's alright. I can't imagine what would make him just veer off into the wall like that. My first thought of course is drugs... but it could be medical, or something as simple as lack of sleep.

2x - for someone not in a relationship, you have very good instincts & advice. Truer words were never spoken. I did warn DBF right away that I am working through some major trust and self esteem issues. I understand the value of alone time, and I enjoy my own time & space... to a point. I just hope that he is willing to give a little more of himself at the same time that I am trying to back away, so we can meet somewhere in the middle. He is very uncomfortable with talking about it, although he seems to be able to talk to his (mostly female) friends about it just fine. I worry about the advice they may give him, since they are also young and don't know me. He really wants to forge an emotional relationship before going forward with a physical one, which I truly admire, but it's not easy to take that step backwards once it's been established, if you know what I mean. Anyway, that's enough about that. You all have shown me today what true friendship is and I can not wait until February to give each & every one of you a giant hug. *sniffle* And for those of you who won't be there, I'll have to settle for a mental hug until the next meet.

 

[lyzziesmom]

Ashley, I haven't seen the tackiest weddings thread.. I will have to check it out for giggles! My wedding was aboard a Carnival Cruise - it had very high tack potential.

 

[hellokitty86]

Oh- I forgot to ask you guys something. When you guys make the ADR's for the trip (whoever is going to do it???) can you still include me just in case I AM going??? I am starting a MAJOR budget and should know if I can definitely go probably by next month...

 

[lindakmonty]

Thank you... I try really hard at having a good relationship with her, but at the same time not crossing that line that says "I'm your friend" instead of "I'm your parent". It hasn't always been wonderful with her; I grew up with a very cold mother, and all my life the memories I have are of dislike of her. I never wanted to have that animosity between my DD and I. My mother and I got past it as I grew older, but she was just never a warm, loving mother. The things my DD tells me I would have NEVER shared with my mom. It's just the way it was. I have made some HUGE parenting mistakes, and would have done some things differently, but all in all we're pretty close. It also helps that I'm very accepting of some of her male friends who are some of the greatest kids I know but don't necessarily have the most loving home lives because of 'the way they are' if you are getting my drift....
Parenting is the most difficult thing I've ever done in my life - it's also the most rewarding.

She's a lucky young lady for sure! My mom was 16 when she got pregnant w/my sister so they were always real close. There is almost 4 years difference between us and she was never close to me at all. It was always all about my sister. She got remarried when I was 7 and I moved in w/my grandparents a few years later. Thankfully She was very cruel and a good example of the exact opposite of what I try to be to Kenny! You're right about being a parent and not a friend but I want Kenny to know he can talk to me about anything. Yeah, I get your drift I couldn't love Kenny any less if he ever came home and told me that. It is very difficult and definitely the most rewarding thing in the world. The things he says and does just melts my heart. I'm sure it'll get harder as he gets older too. You're a great mom and I'm sure she'd agree!

Michele that poor kid!!! OMG, at least you have video that you can go back and look. I hope he's ok!!!
I love the things they say like that

Good luck Monday Lyzziesmom! I"ll be praying for you!

Ashley of coarse we'll count on you coming just in case plus if you have a adr for 12 and only 10 show up...its no big deal.

I had to get tickets for the Pirate and Princess party for Feb 1st Hope Mike doesn't mind Kenny would love that

 

[lyzziesmom]

I want to go to the P&P party!! Don't they have one on the 5th as well? Anyone else going or will it be just me?

Who is planning on making all the ADR's, anyway?

 

[DznyFan]

Lyzziesmom-

2xcited - (are you sure you're not my sister? You just described my mom.)

Linda -

Michele - oh, that poor kid - I would have been so upset watching the monitors. I hope he's OK.

Ashley - you're welcome! Hey, can you re-send the list? Our email server changed recently and I think it may have gotten kicked back due to my inbox being too full.