Who here is not in the "clique" like me? Part 2

[joybeth]

Can I be in the non-clique clique?? I have been lurking forever, but this is my first post. We are leaving on Thursday for 4 nights at the Pop. It is me, dh, dd (15) and ds (13)

Hi to all!

Joy

 

[DisneyGirl4188]

Good Morning!

joybeth Happy to have you here!

Lyzziesmom, your girls are so cute!

Ashley, I don't think you were being a stalker at all. I hate trying to meet new people. Mike is so outgoing and I am shy. He can talk to anyone, but I get nervous. There are times I wish I was back in high school, because it was easy to make friends.


I was bad this weekend. I was just going to The Disney Store and buy Disney dollars (I wanted to get the free snowglobe if I spent $50). Well, I ended up not getting any Disney dollars, but instead got three new snowglobes (one was free). I also got a picture frame ornament and 3 antenna toppers. I have no willpower at all.

Mike and I watched An American Haunting. It was different than I thought it was going to be, but we liked it (not very scary at all).

I really wish I was going to WDW in Feb with you all. It sounds like so much fun.

 

[lyzziesmom]

I'm going to try to catch up with you all before my morning meeting.

Joy, you are more than welcome to join our little cliqueless crew! I'm sure you'll have loads of fun at Pop, have you been there before? I went twice this year and loved it.

Ashley, if you want to post pics from another website, you right-click on the pic, click on "properties" and highlight the URL address. Copy it and paste it into your message, then highlight what you just pasted in and click on the little yellow box at the top of the message screen that looks like a mountain with the sun over it. That will tell it to paste it as an image rather than a link. Clear as mud?

Michele, it DOES feel good to have my airfare booked! I asked mom again this morning about babysitting Lyzzie, and she still isn't willing to commit one way or another. Little does she know I'm going anyway! I kind of fibbed (well stretched the truth) and told her I'll have a roommie so I need to know ASAP!

Donna, are those muffins heart-shaped? How darling!! You know how I hate to ruin a perfectly good muffin by putting fruit in it, but in this case I'll make an exception because they are so flippin' cute. Yes if you book with SW and the rate goes down, you can rebook or adjust your rate and the difference will be held in "ticketless credits" which you can then use for future flights. I think they hold the credit for 24 months, but I might be mistaken on that part. It really comes in handy... I've been tempted to just book & cancel flights randomly when I have extra cash just to fund future travel!

Meeting time... must run!

 

[DznyFan]

Morning, everybody - well it's a dreary, drizzly Monday morning here - it would have been a good day to sleep in.

Donna, the muffins look really yummy - thanks for breakfast!

YM - we never got the electric on this weekend. I was not very nice to the guy who schedules the work orders for that particular electric company on Friday, and he was left with a backside that was a missing a few chunks. (But I never raised my voice.....) We unpacked and cleaned up as best we could without a vacuum or hot water, then came home.

Lyzziesmom - the pictures of the girls are adorable - those two are so cute!

Ashley - theater or theatre? It's a movie theater. Or home theater. If it's live (play or musical) it's theatre. Does that help?

Pozey - I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your father at such a young age. That had to be horrible. Your mother clearly did a great job of raising you as a young man as you seem to be very intelligent, courteous, successful and strong. Kudos to yo' momma.


Have a lovely Monday, all, I'll check in later!

 

[Tinkerbell_Girl]

Good Morning!

Thanks for the breakfast Donna!

Lyzziesmom- Those pics of the girls are beautiful! Yay on booking you flight! Men!!! (except for Pozey!) I agree with 2X and Ash. Just act like it doesn't really bother you and maybe he'll come around.

Ashley- I don't think you were stalking that girl. Maybe she's shy. Me and Steven love kids movies too. One time I asked him if he liked taking me to all the kids movies and he told me if it wasn't for me he would go by himself.

2X- That's too funny about the JD pic!!! It could have been even worse!

 

[DisneyGirl4188]

Good Morning!


Me and Steven love kids movies too. One time I asked him if he liked taking me to all the kids movies and he told me if it wasn't for me he would go by himself.

I watch a lot of "kid" movies too. I have a huge collection of Disney movies as well as a few others. Mike doesn't mind watching them; he's usually the one buying them.

 

[lyzziesmom]

Ashley, DznyFan did a pretty good job explaining this: theater is the physical building. Theatre is the art of it all. I meant to answer that one last night & forgot.

Amber, I used to be very shy, and I actually still am which is why I have to admit you guys are among my closest friends at the moment. Five years in KC and I still haven't really found any friends that stick around. I've been working on getting over the shyness, and actually my pain pills have the side effect of making me very talkative, however they also make me quite flighty. Not a great combination... kind of makes me seem like a dope.

I am in quite a state this morning, with being the start of my last week at work. We spent the morning meeting going over all my duties and reassigning them, and I will spend the week cleaning out my desk and files and training existing staff to take over whatever will not be abandoned. It's very sad. One very nice co-worker took a moment to come to my desk and say hello just "to brighten my day" as he said, and tell me I will always have friends here. With the work stuff and the DBF stuff and the medical stuff (I have to schedule my procedure for my back today, I plan to get that done next week) I'm pretty stressed out. No wonder I was up all night!

Nicole, I totally agree with you. Men!! I'm wondering if it's even worth it, but as DBF said last night, "I don't want to lose what we have."

pozey, I can't say anything that hasn't already been said here any better than it's been said. You had a tragic loss at a young age and seem to have come through it strong and confident. If only everyone knew how to do such a thing.

DznyFan, besides the no electricity part (nice job on chewing out the electrician's behind!) it sounds like you had a lovely weekend. Not boring in the least! We like to have the occasional weekend where we live in our pajamas. We call it Lazy Sunday and sometimes it's our best day of the week.

 

[Polyfor30th]

'mornin' to you all
<sigh> I am tagless, cliqueless...at times perhaps clueless
But I would love to pop in every now and then to say howdy and share some thoughts...I'm a tad bit of a shy poster--you'll have to forgive me

I've read through a few of your posts and would love to join in--thanks for listening...have a great day folks!

 

[pozey]

Well, well, well………I just read through about 10 pages of posts from over the weekend. Sounds like everyone had a really busy weekend!!

Lyzziesmom………I love the pics of Emma and Lyzzie playing! They are adorable girls!! And I love their smiles!! Looks like they were having a blast!

As for your DBF……can you explain a little more on how you two have differing opinions on what a “Boyfriend” or “Girlfriend” means? I think more along the lines of if you are boyfriend/girlfriend, then you are exclusively dating each other. Does he not think you guys are exclusive or something? I’ve never understood the “dating multiple people” thing. But I have always been the kind who would be exclusive to one girl.

Ashley……don’t feel like a dork. I think it is cool that you were able to find an e-mail and send one. I think maybe she was a little shocked that you were able to find her. Like YM said……just hang in there.



We went to the Zoo Saturday. We had a GREAT time. The weather was cool, but not cold. And the place was practically deserted. It was almost like we had the place all to ourselves. And the animals were out and playing and it made for great picture taking. I got a couple of really good pictures of the tigers. But I haven’t uploaded them to photobucket yet. After going to the zoo, we went to Napoli’s Italian Restaurant for dinner.

Yesterday was just a kick back and take it easy day. Colton had to finish up a report for class that was due today. He worked on that practically all day. I made a HUGE pot of chili yesterday afternoon. And my youngest brother came over and we had chili and watched football. He also brought over his new little puppy. Chase and Courtney would not leave that poor little puppy alone! They love puppies. Chase would just carry it around the entire time.

Oh……and YM……the football game Saturday night was great. Heart-pounding!! Glad we won!

Well, I get to work this morning, and we have an e-mail from our corporate office……we have been bought out by another company. Some background……I have only worked for this company for just a little over a year. About 3 months after I started here, it was announced that we were bought out. So, here it is less than one year after being bought out, we are being bought out again. The company that is buying us out now is the 16th largest company in the United States. So, I guess I now technically work for a Fortune 16 company. We are supposed to learn more in an “All Hands” meeting in about 20 minutes.

DznyFan……sorry you guys never got your electricity turned on. Other than that, it sounds like you had a nice weekend.

 

[Tinkerbell_Girl]

Lyzziesmom- It is always hard to leave a company you like working for. But remember, you're moving on to bigger and better things! That's very sweet of your coworker. I consider ya'll my close friends too. It's sad we all don't live closer to meet and do things together.

 

[Tinkerbell_Girl]

As for your DBF……can you explain a little more on how you two have differing opinions on what a “Boyfriend” or “Girlfriend” means? I think more along the lines of if you are boyfriend/girlfriend, then you are exclusively dating each other. Does he not think you guys are exclusive or something? I’ve never understood the “dating multiple people” thing. But I have always been the kind who would be exclusive to one girl.

That's it!!! You're going to be cloned immediately!

 

[lyzziesmom]

Lyzziesmom………I love the pics of Emma and Lyzzie playing! They are adorable girls!! And I love their smiles!! Looks like they were having a blast!

As for your DBF……can you explain a little more on how you two have differing opinions on what a “Boyfriend” or “Girlfriend” means? I think more along the lines of if you are boyfriend/girlfriend, then you are exclusively dating each other. Does he not think you guys are exclusive or something? I’ve never understood the “dating multiple people” thing. But I have always been the kind who would be exclusive to one girl.

Thanks, I must have taken about 50 pictures yesterday, those kiddos were just being so cute!

Ok here's the DBF deal... when I have a BF, to me that means that person is going to be the first one I think of when I have some free time that I'd like to share with somebody. I like to spend time together, especially when it's new, to discover each other and enjoy the moment. If there is a movie I want to see or an event I want to attend, I'd rather do it with my significant other than without. HIS definition is different, and I quote: "it means I'm seeing somebody and not seeing anyone else." Period. He finally admitted that he's not really comfortable with spending more than AT MOST one day a week together. Also, I'm more of a physical affection kind of person. I'm pretty hands-on, touchy-feely - not necessarily in sexual way, just as a way of showing affection. I am that way with my kids and my friends as well. He seems to think that anything more than hand-holding means it will lead to more. I'm glad we got this stuff out in the open, and I'm less confused now, but I'm not sure how to continue from here. I don't want to feel like I'm "settling" for waiting for him to get to the comfort level I'm at, but at the same time, he truly is a wonderful, amazing individual that I'd hate to lose. So there you have it... sorry it's so long but remember, you asked!!

 

[Tinkerbell_Girl]

I will say it again-MEN!!! My experience with men is limited. Me and Steven become bf/gf a week after our second date, so I really don't have much advice to offer. I would say just give him a little space for a while and then tell him you need to know where you stand in his life.

 

[DisneyGirl4188]

lyzziesmom, I don't have any advice either. Mike and I have been practically inseparable since we started dating.

At least he isn't seeing anyone else. Has he been in many serious relationships? Could it be that he had a bad relationship and is worried that it may happen again? Or is he just not used to being in a relationship and all that it entails?

I think a lot of men don't understand that kissing doesn't have to lead anywhere. Half the time Mike thinks if I just smile at him, it means I want more (TMI? )

What's your take pozey? A man's perspective would be appreciated.

 

[DznyFan]

Just my opinion...
I think that men and women are just wired differently, and what constitutes a 'relationship' or 'BF/GF', or whatever you want to call it can be viewed very differently by the two genders. I'm not saying ALL men are like this - our Pozey seems to be a good example - and I have a very close male friend who treats it very differently than most men (and yes, he's straight). I agree that 'BF/GF' should mean exclusive, whereas 'dating' might not necessarily be defined as exclusive, depending on the agreement between the dating parties. Guys seem to be much more casual in their definition of the role of 'BF' than women; it seems like there's much 'joking' in society about men and their 'fear of commitment', and I think it holds true in some, simply because of their psychology since the dawn of time. It's frustrating for women since guys can be so casual about it.

I would say give it time, be patient. Remember, he's a guy, and guys (most) don't think like we do. After all, you haven't been seeing each other for that long.

 

[lindakmonty]

good morning...I mean afternoon shew what a busy morning. I've had to pop in and out to catch up from the weekend.
Today is now 90 days til the cruise so I had to make our Palo adr's I love that place!!!

2x... nice pictures glad you got that figured out. And...nice pix of Capt. Jack Wish I could have seen that 5 shades of red

lyzziesmom, great pix of the girls, they're so adorable! Emma looks so much like my best friends daughter. I'll have to post one so you can see. Glad you got to talk w/the dbf and get that straightened out. At least you know what he's thinking or expects. Mike and I were like that in the very beginning... only one or two days a week. Mostly b/c I'm gone 12 hrs a day as it is. It didn't take too long and after a few months it was a much closer relationship where it was more how I liked. Like you, I like being closer. That is how you get to know each other right . I'm sure it will be ok...maybe he just needs some time.

Dznyfan... bummer you had no electric yet. It sounds like you and Erin have a great relationship though. that is so awesome!

Oh, I went over to the rental yesterday expecting to see this huge disaster area right... brought my camera and everything just in case. I saw his house a few houses down...probably 4 houses down... he plowed right into the pole, straight through my yard, the neighbors yard and on down into the crossing road. There were some ruts and exact path where he drove...but big deal. I was expecting to see this huge mess and Mike and I looked at each other, shrugged our shoulders and said...big deal... He went and bought some bags of dirt. He's going to fill in the ruts Wed., roll it and it'll be fine. Plant some new grass over it and it'll be good as new. No big deal. I hope the guy is getting some help though.

disneyshopping.com has 25% off sitewide today

there are some very nice Lenox pieces that are very tempting....hmmm and Armani....

Ashley, thanks for the list and I agree, don't feel like a dork. I use to be really shy but after being around Mike a lot, I'm doing better. He can talk to anyone.. plus I do wish we weren't so far apart. I consider you all good friends!

Oh, I just remembered I had to tell you guys this... Kenny and I were laying on the couch yesterday morning...like 6am Kenny looked at me after this commercial and says "mom, I really need to talk to you about something" "Ok, whats up sweetheart?" he knows he can talk to me about anything ... He says " I need life alert" he was afraid he'd fall or get hurt and he'd need to call for help. I told him that is for people that are all alone and don't have someone there to help them. Usually older people that live alone and might fall and can't get to a phone for help. I thought that was so funny... a 5 yr old... Mom..I need life alert sorry...had to share...

I better get some more work done

oh, pozey...sorry on the buy out...sometimes its good, sometimes its not. we've been bought out twice in the past few years too Hope its for the better.

 

[pozey]

Thanks, I must have taken about 50 pictures yesterday, those kiddos were just being so cute!

Ok here's the DBF deal... when I have a BF, to me that means that person is going to be the first one I think of when I have some free time that I'd like to share with somebody. I like to spend time together, especially when it's new, to discover each other and enjoy the moment. If there is a movie I want to see or an event I want to attend, I'd rather do it with my significant other than without. HIS definition is different, and I quote: "it means I'm seeing somebody and not seeing anyone else." Period. He finally admitted that he's not really comfortable with spending more than AT MOST one day a week together. Also, I'm more of a physical affection kind of person. I'm pretty hands-on, touchy-feely - not necessarily in sexual way, just as a way of showing affection. I am that way with my kids and my friends as well. He seems to think that anything more than hand-holding means it will lead to more. I'm glad we got this stuff out in the open, and I'm less confused now, but I'm not sure how to continue from here. I don't want to feel like I'm "settling" for waiting for him to get to the comfort level I'm at, but at the same time, he truly is a wonderful, amazing individual that I'd hate to lose. So there you have it... sorry it's so long but remember, you asked!!

Well, I am glad that you guys at least have gotten it out in the open.

I think it just comes down to 2 completely ways to display affection. And I don't necessarily think it is a man/woman thing. I think it just comes down to the way you were raised. I'm talking about the "touchie-feelie" thing.

I too am a "hugger". I hug friends, family, most everyone. DW used to be the opposite. She's kind of changed now. She said her parents never hugged, never said "I love you", or anything like that. Now she's a hugger as well.

Some people just aren't comfortable with the public displays of affection. Some people aren't even comfortable with displays of affection out of public. I know one girl who hated to even hold hands. I think a lot of it has to do with a person's "Personal Space".

Don't push it. Whatever you do......you can't re-wire the way a person is wired.

Also......and this is BIG......DO NOT take it personal. If he doesn't want to hold hands, or snuggle on the couch, or spend his day off walking through the park it has NOTHING to do with YOU. It is just the way he is.

I know this can be a problem. Those are two very different ways of thinking. And one can really have a big negative impact on the other's self esteem.

 

[pozey]

Well, we were in that "All Hands" meeting at work, and my cell phone kept ringing......I never even looked at it to see who was calling. Until it rang for about the 5th time.

It was the school. Colton got sick at school. He was throwing up, and I had to go get him.

So, now me and Colton are home. Hope he feels better VERY soon. He has a swim meet tomorrow night.

 

[lindakmonty]

Well, we were in that "All Hands" meeting at work, and my cell phone kept ringing......I never even looked at it to see who was calling. Until it rang for about the 5th time.

It was the school. Colton got sick at school. He was throwing up, and I had to go get him.

So, now me and Colton are home. Hope he feels better VERY soon. He has a swim meet tomorrow night.

Awww.. poor Colton! Hope he gets feeling better soon!

 

[pozey]

A few pictures from our trip to the Zoo: