Who has a crazy sister in law or brother in law?

[LuvMickey36]

My dad passed away on April 29 of lung cancer. My SIL birthday. A friend forwarded me an email she sent to another friend saying "my crazy sister in laws dad died today. Yeah on my birthday. Couldn't he have waited for his own special day? LOL".
So I wouldn't say she is crazy but she is mean and cruel.

Sorry for your loss. I would hope that karma would come back around & smack her in the face. You are right, that is just plain mean.

 

[EltonJohn]

Nope-no psychos in my family!

 

[bumbershoot]

My dad passed away on April 29 of lung cancer. My SIL birthday. A friend forwarded me an email she sent to another friend saying "my crazy sister in laws dad died today. Yeah on my birthday. Couldn't he have waited for his own special day? LOL".
So I wouldn't say she is crazy but she is mean and cruel.

I'm so glad my brother's wife is wonderful. And her sister (sister in law in law?) is great, too.

My husband's family, however, not so much. They are the reasons we think about moving to Tahiti every so often, b/c we know they'd never come visit us.

Due to ridiculous circumstances, hubby was branded with "the liar" role early on in his family. He was also branded with the "sneaky irresponsible stupid" role. Because he was told he was a liar, he started to lie (getting punished for it anyway, might as well do it), but he lied about just ridiculous stuff. Meanwhile, his older brother was lying about something that was fundamentally him (and when it finally came out dramatically, it did cause a 5 year rift, so it's understandable why he lied). His mom and dad lied about their wedding date (FIL was married to someone in the states when he "married" MIL in Korea, and then had to get that ended, then he married her a couple years later) and that hubby's brother was FIL's son. MIL was pregnant by a soldier from a different country (she had some sort of USO type job in Korea and met a few guys) when FIL married her (they had met years ago when she was a child, during WW2, then re-met by chance and married). That came out during an argument between MIL and BIL, and she actually thought that slamming that in BIL's face, that FIL had cared for him all those years even though he didn't have to, would cause her to WIN the argument? And SIL omg SIL...she was a daddy's girl, but did the nastiest things behind her parent's backs...

But she ended up working as a social worker, which is noble and difficult, then was working in a halfway house with men just out of prison. Well, of course she fell madly in love with a convicted bank robber who was an active heroin user; who wouldn't? Had to quit her job, of course. And since he couldn't get a job (who would hire him?) they were broke for awhile. Then she got pregnant (who wouldn't purposely get pregnant by an active heroin user, right?) and her parents felt bad for her, and the forced "gifts' from my husband to her had to start. He gave her something like 2 of his cars (he would buy them used and fix them up, then his parents would make him give them away) and a 15 speed bike. She promptly destroyed the cars and mangled the bike. Parents gave her a brand new crib for each of her two children, and she sold the cribs. Mom gave her their baby grand piano b/c SIL wanted to play it...SIL sold it.

I swear, I'd love to sell stuff to the friends of her and her now ex husband, b/c their friends buy all of their furniture! We can't even successfully craigslist our stuff for anything...

Oh it just goes on and on...for the sakes of her daughters (good kids who were actually cared for by their dad during the day, and have turned out quite all right, surprisingly) hubby tried to smooth things out before our wedding. But she wanted to have a huge blow-out thing where she was allowed to tell him all that he had done to her and he was not allowed to defend himself (she actually told him that). ONly if that could happen would she attend. He refused, she refused to attend.

I was nice, I gave her name and address to my maid of honor to invite to the shower I was given...her husband called my MOH demanding to know who she was and who I was and blah blah blah...SIL didn't come and I felt awful that he knew MOH's address.

Of course now that SIL and he are divorced (which is a hugely long saga that mainly involved a year of me and DH saying "huh? that makes NO sense, you can't get a divorce that fast in WA with kids involved, why did HE get custody for several months? it makes no sense" over and over and over) SIL regrets not going to our wedding.

And now we have to do some gift exchange for the kids at the holidays, even though we don't celebrate the same holidays. And she has two kids with expensive princess tastes. So two xmases ago we got them a easy bake oven kit, which was promptly recalled. We told her but we don't know if she took it back for the credit. Last xmas she said that her oldest was really into skateboarding, and could we outfit her with helmet and kneepads. Well we're big into safety so that meant some $$! And I forget what the younger one wanted, but we got it. And when they had the exchange of gifts (I don't deal with my MIL anymore, they meet up on their own) Dh came home with some game with marbles and plastic building game thing that they got for DS...not *quite* on the same level as the gifts we gave her girls...


So yeah, I have a weird SIL (and BIL is more normal but still makes horrid decisions).

 

[chef2b89]

Some of these stories are just AWFUL. However, my SIL is pretty bad also. Before my husband and I got married (just last year) she was SUPER nice. When we got married she stopped talking to me. Then she calls me to go to the mall. So I say sure and we go. Well, we get there and she asks me to go get the kids food ( she had four at the time but now has another on the way). So i go get the kids food and when i get back she is sitting there talking to her other SIL ( her brother's wife. I'm her husband's bro's wife). I come back with the food and before I sit down she gets me to go get her a drink from another place. So i go get her stuff, meanwhile she sent her other SIL to get her food while she got her own. I come back and sit down and I am completely ignored except to tlak to her SIL 2 older kids (she has three) and watch my 3 eldest neices and nephew. Then she asks me to go get her ice from the place i got her drink from because " it would look weird if she went up there and got it" even though she has a cup FROM THERE. anyway the day went on and I was completely ignored. Just there to do the things for her.
And if that wasnt enough, on thanksgiving, they come over to my MIL house and they HAVE to make a pizza! wth? so they ask if they can make the pizza and my mil says the turkey is in her oven and forgets to mention to them that they're eating in like a half hour. So my BIL and SIL use my cookie sheet and my oven (we live in the downstairs apartment until we can afford a good down payment on a house) to make their pizza. Did i mention that they didnt ask? Oh yeah and me and my husband were at my grandmother's house for our thanksgiving. SO they didnt even call to ask or anything. just did it. The lock on the door to the basement is one you can pop with a oat hanger so they did that and used my stuff. Now, when we got back they didnt mention any of it to us and we didnt find out until i found my dish towel upstairs and my MIL gave me my pan, which was scratched from where they cut the pizza and bent (btw brand new "air bake" cookie sheet. never been used because it was a wedding gift)
that's just minor stuff. I also found out she gave my christmas present that I MADE them to my mother in law. Also they are the victims because we ( my husand and I) said that they're 4th baby looked like my FIL and that offnds her because he told her what he thought about her 5 years ago and she still has issues with him. So even though she said it herself, we're not allowed to say it because we're "just being mean"
sorry so long but it felt good to let it all out.

 

[chef2b89]

Some of these stories are just AWFUL. However, my SIL is pretty bad also. Before my husband and I got married (just last year) she was SUPER nice. When we got married she stopped talking to me. Then she calls me to go to the mall. So I say sure and we go. Well, we get there and she asks me to go get the kids food ( she had four at the time but now has another on the way). So i go get the kids food and when i get back she is sitting there talking to her other SIL ( her brother's wife. I'm her husband's bro's wife). I come back with the food and before I sit down she gets me to go get her a drink from another place. So i go get her stuff, meanwhile she sent her other SIL to get her food while she got her own. I come back and sit down and I am completely ignored except to tlak to her SIL 2 older kids (she has three) and watch my 3 eldest neices and nephew. Then she asks me to go get her ice from the place i got her drink from because " it would look weird if she went up there and got it" even though she has a cup FROM THERE. anyway the day went on and I was completely ignored. Just there to do the things for her. Basically be my MIL when she was unavailable.
And if that wasnt enough, on thanksgiving, they come over to my MIL house and they HAVE to make a pizza! wth? so they ask if they can make the pizza and my mil says the turkey is in her oven and forgets to mention to them that they're eating in like a half hour. So my BIL and SIL use my cookie sheet and my oven (we live in the downstairs apartment until we can afford a good down payment on a house) to make their pizza. Did i mention that they didnt ask? Oh yeah and me and my husband were at my grandmother's house for our thanksgiving. SO they didnt even call to ask or anything. just did it. The lock on the door to the basement is one you can pop with a oat hanger so they did that and used my stuff. Now, when we got back they didnt mention any of it to us and we didnt find out until i found my dish towel upstairs and my MIL gave me my pan, which was scratched from where they cut the pizza and bent (btw brand new "air bake" cookie sheet. never been used because it was a wedding gift)
that's just minor stuff. I also found out she gave my christmas present that I MADE them to my mother in law. Also they are the victims because we ( my husand and I) said that they're 4th baby looked like my FIL and that offnds her because he told her what he thought about her 5 years ago and she still has issues with him. So even though she said it herself, we're not allowed to say it because we're "just being mean"
sorry so long but it felt good to let it all out.

 

[chell]

My future sister-in-law is already crazy and she isn't even 16 yet! When we went by their house to tell them we were engaged and show them the ring she had to start crying and she had to get all of the attention. It wasn't like we were all in their faces with it or anything. She was upset because she finally found someone and no one cared. From the moment we arrived she was on the computer with her headphones on and never said a word. I think she is a little drama queen. About the internet with her - she likes to create several MySpace profiles and talk back and forth like they are real other people. Several of these have been her "boyfriends". She keeps putting WAY too much info on her page and we've talked to her about it til we are blue in the face, as has her dad. She is flat out nuts! Honestly, I think she needs therapy and she might be bipolar. But the parents won't listen when we tell them some of the stuff she has pulled. Right now she is obsessed with finding a boyfriend. She is so obsessed that she says if she doesn't find someone soon she will kill herself. At least last night their dad admitted she needs help.

She is very jealous of me not only because I have her brother, but because I have the type of relationship she wants so bad. I know she is young and immature but some of the things she says and does goes beyond immaturity, it is plan jealousy and mean spiritedness. I've tried so hard to get Larry to spend some one-on-one time with her but he doesn't want to reward her "bad behavior". He wants to spend time with her when she is "behaving".

How come I get this feeling that she wants to make our Wedding day all about her? I hope that doesn't happen. I know I'm being awful saying that but it is OUR day. We wanted to keep our Wedding very small (Maid of Honor and Best Man only) but she had a hissy fit saying that if she couldn't be up there by her brother's side when he gets married that she doesn't want to go to the Wedding at all. Ugh. Does she not get the point of OUR Wedding? So we had to add her to make everyone happy.

As with so many of you here this is only a sample of what she does/says...

 

[Stella3]

My BIL is evil. A mean spirited, vicious, nasty waste of a human. I won't bore you with all the details (I will say he called WDW and pretended to be my husband and cancelled our reservations a day before we arrived!! ) but I got him back goooood.

My sister and I send our kids to the same private school. He was always talking crap about my husband to the other guys, so, I told the all the other women that I felt so sorry for my sister because her husband was really GAY.

Of course, EVERYONE believed it and they still think he is gay.

 

[gulf breeze]

Unfortunately, the nuts in my family are not the inlaws.

Hey! You're not talking about any of my nut jobs are you!! Some of these people actually make some of ours pretty sane!

 

[tonilea]

Hey! You're not talking about any of my nut jobs are you!! Some of these people actually make some of ours pretty sane!

I dunno.... I think we have some "Springer" quality stuff.

 

[gulf breeze]

I dunno.... I think we have some "Springer" quality stuff.

Oh no... not Springer! Did I tell you that I gave up reading the paper...got tired of reading the jail report (aka "the family tree") ::cop: How did we turn out so sane????

 

[chef2b89]

(I will say he called WDW and pretended to be my husband and cancelled our reservations a day before we arrived!! ) but I got him back goooood.

To cancel a trip like that is horrible!
I must know how you returned the favor

 

[Stella3]

To cancel a trip like that is horrible!
I must know how you returned the favor

Everyone in town thinks he is gay now - really. The guys at my kid's school will talk to him, but they are reserved now, no more slapping on the shoulder and bringing him into the "inner circle".

 

[dreamcometrue]

yes, I have 2 crazy sister in law's. One by marriage, the other is my DH's sister. Last crazy stunt DH's sister pulled... we asked her to house sit our home while we went on our Disney cruise. Her apartment is really small, she lives by herself, and she adores our pets. We always assumed she is happy house/pet sitting for us, because she always acts very excited. Well, come to find out that she whined to every single member of the family what a pain it is, and how she got "suckered" into it again. I was blown away! Needless to say, we will find a different house/pet sitter next time.

 

[Katy Belle]

See below, bolded

Remember, hate is still an emotion. Hate is still an indication that you have some feelings left for a person. Hate is not the opposite of love.

Indifference is the opposite of love, and your best bet is to treat them with indifference. That'll drive her crazy! Works for my crazy SIL. It'll work for you.

AMEN! I too have a crazy SIL. I decided 5 years ago to be polite and that is all. Indifference. It actually has worked quite well. Things don't bug me because I treat her like a I would a stranger, or an acquaitance. It does bug her that I treat her this way, but I think she's gotten the message, or gotten used to it. It also helps that I live half way around the world and don't HAVE to have much contact with her.

Katy

 

[Mysteria]

I have all BIL's, no SIL's. My Dh's bro's are all off the shelf, nuts, just don't make me go there crazy. My sis's dh is very nice but still unexplainable.

So they are all a little nuts.

 

[tonilea]

Oh no... not Springer! Did I tell you that I gave up reading the paper...got tired of reading the jail report (aka "the family tree") ::cop: How did we turn out so sane????

Yeah, certain family member's thuggy step kids have taken to claiming they are related to me when DH arrests them. I have enough nuts in my family tree with out adding those rotten apples!