Who feels like a Thread-Killer? Part 6

[Cruisin]

All if well, quiet, but well! How about you? If I don't respond, I'm getting ready to leave to pick up DD from school!

Um, took Liz to the dentist, she had 3 fillings done.

The dentist really is fascinated with Liz's tongue rings (she has 2 ) It's kind of funny because she got them done in September, (without asking or telling me first of course, but she is 18 I suppose) her dad has not even noticed them yet

While she was at the dentist I did some errands and then picked her back up. We went to the mall and I bought 4 new tops I don't often buy things for myself but today I guess I was in the right mood.

Later this afternoon we are going to officially order our kitchen, check out countertops and colours, that kind of thing. Don't know if we will make the final colour decisions today but they can start on the cabinets at least.

Rick is going to let one of our workers go this afternoon. We all really like this young man and he has worked for us for almost 2 years now. Unfortunately his work is slipping and his wife's attitude is starting to rub off on him and he has to go. His wife flat out said at the Christmas party that HER company could NEVER function without her there , SHE could ask for and receive ANY salary that she wanted You know, one of those kinds of people. NObody is irreplaceable, even the boss, sad fact of life but it really is true.

This young man took 2 months of paternity leave at the beginning of the year which was fine with us. He told our shop foreman (who is also his uncle) that he took the leave so that we would see how valuable an employee he is Unfortunately for him, he was hardly missed while he was away. Oops I guess his plan backfired on him...... why in the heck would you tell someone that and especially when you know the person you tell is in a position of authority

Rick said last night that he has had to "fire" hundreds of men in his career and it never gets any easier the more you do it. I don't envy him, that part of his job.

 

[Dalpal]

Hello everyone,
Sorry I didnt post this morning ...I got going very late this morning and didnt get on my PC...but for a min. or two..

I had a very nice lunch( the normal thurs. grilled chicken salad )...although I didnt bring any DGSs today...

There was a tent sale(the real kind..Its a camping store )and I went to see what they had and ended up buying a couple of nice hiking shorts with that quick dry material...I really like one of them, but now that I've got them home Im thinking one of them is kind of loud and Im not sure if I like them ....and the best part is I dont think I can take them back They were on sale for 50% off, only $9.00...Maybe my DGF would like them

Well I hope you all have had a nice day

I have got to go see what Im making for dinner...
TTFN

 

[PrincessaC]

Ok guys..so here is the latest of my situation...

Hubby comes home finally around 530pm! So I ask him what happened, how come no one returned my phonecalls.

Ok I'm really (bleep) at hubby right now because his response to not contacting me back was his phone was turned off and being charged under his desk.

But that E's mom called him at work (ok she was able to get in touch with him!!!!!!) and asked him to come by their house after work to talk!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I can't express how mad and upset I am over this because I feel like I was left in the dark and I don't know how to express how upset and hurt I am to hubby without yelling and throwing a fit and busting out into tears.

But the story goes... E's mom told hubby that they found a "better" place for E that will fit his needs. Ok that's great I understand but I feel like the way it was worded makes me feel like I was not good enough. Also how come no bothered to tell me .. I tried to call E's mom and I know she avoided my phone call.

another statement was "they want what's best for him" And also that they were not seeing any progress with E staying here because when they brought him home he was acting up because he couldn't do whatever he wanted to do like I let him do here... I have no idea where that came from...

I feel so wronged... I was doing them a favor.. and I never got the chance to tell or express how I felt.. I feel like they just disregarded me and threw me away... I got no Thank You .. no nothing....

I feel bad..

 

[Cruisin]

Ok guys..so here is the latest of my situation...

Hubby comes home finally around 530pm! So I ask him what happened, how come no one returned my phonecalls.

Ok I'm really (bleep) at hubby right now because his response to not contacting me back was his phone was turned off and being charged under his desk.

But that E's mom called him at work (ok she was able to get in touch with him!!!!!!) and asked him to come by their house after work to talk!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I can't express how mad and upset I am over this because I feel like I was left in the dark and I don't know how to express how upset and hurt I am to hubby without yelling and throwing a fit and busting out into tears.

But the story goes... E's mom told hubby that they found a "better" place for E that will fit his needs. Ok that's great I understand but I feel like the way it was worded makes me feel like I was not good enough. Also how come no bothered to tell me .. I tried to call E's mom and I know she avoided my phone call.

another statement was "they want what's best for him" And also that they were not seeing any progress with E staying here because when they brought him home he was acting up because he couldn't do whatever he wanted to do like I let him do here... I have no idea where that came from...

I feel so wronged... I was doing them a favor.. and I never got the chance to tell or express how I felt.. I feel like they just disregarded me and threw me away... I got no Thank You .. no nothing....

I feel bad..

Aww, Cally, It upsets me to know that you are so upset.

I don't blame you in the least for feeling the way that you do. Since you were the "employee" so to speak, why was all of the discussing and planning done through your husband That's not right at all.

As for how to talk to your husband, I'm not really good at that stuff either. Maybe you need to let yourself settle down enough that you can talk about it rationally and calmly. That might never happen but you probably really should let him know how you feel about it.

You only had E for a few weeks didn't you? Were his parents expecting you to be some sort of miracle worker? Obviously they aren't taking the time to spend with E themselves to work with him by what you've been telling us.

Now I've never met you in person, but somehow I don't think of you as a bad person at all. You seem to be genuinely caring and loving person. Your boys look happy and healthy and are very intelligent. You are obviously doing a very good job with them.

It's not a nice feeling when someone treats you like that. But you know in a way poor Roger is in the middle. He has to work with E's parents and he has to live with you I'm sure that he feels bad about it too.

So I'm sending you a little

and some

and watch out now for the

and even a little of this

I hope you feel better soon, because when you are happy, sad, mad, upset....... so are we

 

[sunny_medford]

Okay everybody,...group hug for Cally!!!
I am soooo sorry you have to go through this. You need to remember that while E was in your care, he seemed happy and content with you and your boys. If he truely is autistic, at any level, that is a major accomplishment!!

Remember how much we all are thinking of you and hoping things smooth out soon!

 

[uraken]

ty for saying (bleep) or (beep) ty sooooooooooo much

 

[Brer_Papa]

Good Evening Thread Killers and Lurkers Alike!

I hope you are all doing well.....I've een a tad busy.....

and...to let you know....PA & I made our reservations for a May trip....staying at Fort Wilderness.....

it will be nice to see the kids.....

and ride Everest...and Splash Mountain....and stuff....

I only read this page...so far....

Sorry to hear about your being upset Princessa C ! .......

the only conslation I can think of is that from what I read....you did nothing wrong....sounds like you were just awesome if you ask me....

and if I may be so bold....and you know I will be....

yes...you got no thanks...but knowing you....

you did what you did for E from the goodness of your heart....and you'd do it again....whether you are thanked or not....

we meet many people on the path of life we each travel... a variety of people with an even larger variety of traits, beliefs and ....eccentricities.....

some good people.....some not so good people..

well....It is my honor and privliege....and all the TK-ers (here I go again...flappin' my yap for everybody) ....to know you and call you "Friend"...

A Friend with a wonderful heart....and goodness....

You are a good people....

and now...a short story....

I was Northbound on Interstate 79.....cruisin' right along at 70 mph or so....

I got to milemarker 158...off to my right is a swampy area with dead spookylooking trees....

perched in the tree...big as life and twice as beautiful.....

was a Bald Eagle!

MAGNIFICENT CREATURE!!

I swelled with pride.....just seeing him/her....

Not an every day occurence eh? <~~~ note the "eh".....

Soooooooooo.....

PSSST! Hey Lurkers!! I've been looking at the fair schedules already..... PM me if any of you plan on going to the Big Butler, Warren, Crawford County, Canfield, Mercer County Grange, Erie, Jefferson, Spartansburg, Jamestown, DunKirk, Chautaqua, Great Stoneboro or Albion Fair....

I'll post the rest of the fairs when I get done planning.....

 

[Cruisin]

ty for saying (bleep) or (beep) ty sooooooooooo much

 

[tiggerwannabe]

 

[Cruisin]

Evening Brer_Papa.

How nice to see a bald eagle. It's amazing sometimes the things that you would drive right by and not even notice isn't it.

It's good to hear that you have your next visit planned with the kids in Florida.

I've never seen Fort Wilderness but that's on my list for when we go down in April. So maybe we will get the chance to go over and have a look around. Anything in particular that I should not miss seeing while I'm there

 

[Cruisin]

Colleen.

 

[KimRaye]

Well, hello there stranger BP! Nice words you had for Cally.

Cally, I'm thinking those parents might have used you, in an interim, while something else was brewing. I mean, who finds something 'better' overnight?! I think their 'better' was already lined up, but there was a gap in time that needed to be covered, and you covered it. What they did is rotten and they should be ashamed for not being totally honest with you, or at the very least, talking with you directly. This is why I think that THEY are the wrong ones here. Military or not, some people are just not nice. I'm so sorry they put you through this. I know you were and would have continued to be an excellent provider for Elijah. Their Loss!


Robin, I do NOT envy Rick at all! I fired someone - ONCE! It was awful for both of us! She went on to bigger and better things tho! She just wasn't right for the particular job she was doing back then.


Speaking of child-care and firing, here's a story for you.....My mom watched my (much younger than me) cousin, 5 days a week, for over 3 YEARS, from the time she was a newborn. One Friday, the last Friday, my uncle (Mom's brother) just casually mentions that my cousin won't be coming back on Monday. That she's signed up for Montessori pre-school. Fine, but Friday notice that you're 'fired' as of Monday!? This is family here! My mother was heart-broken and very angry. When cousin #2 came along a couple years later, they asked Mom to watch her also. My Mom said NO!

So Cally, even family can be rotten sometimes.

 

[PrincessaC]

Thank you everyone for all the kind words! Sometimes I wonder what I would do without you all... seriously!! As I was going through all my emotions this afternoon I wanted to run and tell someone.... cry on someone's shoulder...(didn't want to be anywhere near hubby) Guess where the first place I came running to....

Yep~ You guys!! As sad as it may seem I really don't have anyone to talk to so I'm glad I can come here and say what I feel and know that there are truly people out there that care.

Robin, thanks for the scary dancin dude and the hyper green smilies It definately put a smile on my face!

I appreciate the hugs everyone even though they are only cyber hugs...


Hubby does know how I feel (I did get to talk to him after I calmed down). E's mom gave him a check written out to me and I don't want to accept the check. Hubby thinks I should but I want to give it back... at least she will know that I am upset if I do give it back.

What do you all think?

 

[PrincessaC]

ty for saying (bleep) or (beep) ty sooooooooooo much

your very welcome

 

[PrincessaC]

Good Evening Thread Killers and Lurkers Alike!

I hope you are all doing well.....I've een a tad busy.....

and...to let you know....PA & I made our reservations for a May trip....staying at Fort Wilderness.....

it will be nice to see the kids.....

and ride Everest...and Splash Mountain....and stuff....

I only read this page...so far....

Sorry to hear about your being upset Princessa C ! .......

the only conslation I can think of is that from what I read....you did nothing wrong....sounds like you were just awesome if you ask me....

and if I may be so bold....and you know I will be....

yes...you got no thanks...but knowing you....

you did what you did for E from the goodness of your heart....and you'd do it again....whether you are thanked or not....

we meet many people on the path of life we each travel... a variety of people with an even larger variety of traits, beliefs and ....eccentricities.....

some good people.....some not so good people..

well....It is my honor and privliege....and all the TK-ers (here I go again...flappin' my yap for everybody) ....to know you and call you "Friend"...

A Friend with a wonderful heart....and goodness....

You are a good people....

and now...a short story....

I was Northbound on Interstate 79.....cruisin' right along at 70 mph or so....

I got to milemarker 158...off to my right is a swampy area with dead spookylooking trees....

perched in the tree...big as life and twice as beautiful.....

was a Bald Eagle!

MAGNIFICENT CREATURE!!

I swelled with pride.....just seeing him/her....

Not an every day occurence eh? <~~~ note the "eh".....

Soooooooooo.....

PSSST! Hey Lurkers!! I've been looking at the fair schedules already..... PM me if any of you plan on going to the Big Butler, Warren, Crawford County, Canfield, Mercer County Grange, Erie, Jefferson, Spartansburg, Jamestown, DunKirk, Chautaqua, Great Stoneboro or Albion Fair....

I'll post the rest of the fairs when I get done planning.....

When I lived in Alaska I use to see bald eagles all the time. They are very beautiful. Unfortunately I dont see them around here...

and thank you for the kind words

 

[PrincessaC]

Well, hello there stranger BP! Nice words you had for Cally.

Cally, I'm thinking those parents might have used you, in an interim, while something else was brewing. I mean, who finds something 'better' overnight?! I think their 'better' was already lined up, but there was a gap in time that needed to be covered, and you covered it. What they did is rotten and they should be ashamed for not being totally honest with you, or at the very least, talking with you directly. This is why I think that THEY are the wrong ones here. Military or not, some people are just not nice. I'm so sorry they put you through this. I know you were and would have continued to be an excellent provider for Elijah. Their Loss!


Robin, I do NOT envy Rick at all! I fired someone - ONCE! It was awful for both of us! She went on to bigger and better things tho! She just wasn't right for the particular job she was doing back then.


Speaking of child-care and firing, here's a story for you.....My mom watched my (much younger than me) cousin, 5 days a week, for over 3 YEARS, from the time she was a newborn. One Friday, the last Friday, my uncle (Mom's brother) just casually mentions that my cousin won't be coming back on Monday. That she's signed up for Montessori pre-school. Fine, but Friday notice that you're 'fired' as of Monday!? This is family here! My mother was heart-broken and very angry. When cousin #2 came along a couple years later, they asked Mom to watch her also. My Mom said NO!

So Cally, even family can be rotten sometimes.

Well your mom did the right thing!! I definately learned my lesson too...

 

[KimRaye]

E's mom gave him a check written out to me and I don't want to accept the check. Hubby thinks I should but I want to give it back... at least she will know that I am upset if I do give it back.

What do you all think?

CASH THE CHECK!!! This was No Fault of yours whatsoever! You earned that money and are owed that money and they know it. Show them your self-confidence by cashing that check. Again, this is THEIR loss, imo. Make 'em pay!

 

[Brer_Papa]

I've never seen Fort Wilderness but that's on my list for when we go down in April.

Anything in particular that I should not miss seeing while I'm there

If you miss seeing the peacock doo-doo....well...you know....

and...Id take a gander at Pioneer Hall....the Trading Post....if you have time....take a bus ride around the place...

the Meadows area.....

 

[PrincessaC]

Morning everyone!

Happy St. Patricks Day!!!! ​

Anyone have any exciting plans for the weekend??


Seems very warm out this morning.. 52 degrees but it's cloudy and it looks like it will rain very soon. I haven't seen the news yet so we'll see if my weather forecasting is any good. Now how's the weather in your neck of the woods?

Ok ok, I guess I will go buy the family something nice with the check...

 

[Cruisin]

Morning everyone!

Happy St. Patricks Day!!!! ​

Anyone have any exciting plans for the weekend??


Seems very warm out this morning.. 52 degrees but it's cloudy and it looks like it will rain very soon. I haven't seen the news yet so we'll see if my weather forecasting is any good. Now how's the weather in your neck of the woods?

Ok ok, I guess I will go buy the family something nice with the check...

I agree with Kim about cashing the check (cheque ) Cally. By yourself or the family something nice with it and then just forget about them. They didn't deserve to have you in the first place

If you miss seeing the peacock doo-doo....well...you know....

Would you like me to pick you up some for a souvenir