who does what in your house?

[mudnuri]

As I come in from the blizzard, snowblowing my way around the house, I got to thinking.

If your house- who does what when it comes to "housework"..now I'm not talking just dishes etc... but outside. etc.

Here's the break down in my house

DH- works full time- owns his own business
Does Laundry,(it's next to the wood stove) Keeps wood stove going, supper dishes, occasionally shovels steps, or deck...stacks firewood in cellar
His biggest job around here especially now that it's winter, is cleaning off my car before he leaves for work. He also starts it, and then if I'm not heading out near the time he does, he shuts it back off.

I work part-time, am home when the kids get home from school every day.
I do, Dishes except supper, cook meals, sweep/mop, bathroom, homework with the kids,

I also Mow the lawn, rake the leaves, and snowblow the yard/driveway. I also throw all the fire wood in the cellar.

The way I see it, DH works to support the house, my pay is what DH considers "Petty Cash".... I do not feel as though he should have to spend his weekends mowing the lawn etc... when I'm home during the week and can do so. Same thing with the snowblower- he did buy me a huge John Deere Tractor last spring with a 72" mower deck, and a 46" snow thrower, so all's good!

Who does what in your house?

Brandy

 

[Wish Upon A Star]

DH and I both work full time . . .

DH does all the outside stuff . . .pool, lawn, landscaping, snow, leaves, etc.

The housework is broken down between both of us . . .I do all the dusting and vacum . . .and DH cleans the kitchen and bathrooms.

I do the laundry, cook, taxi driver for the kids, pay the bills, do the shopping . . .

All in all it evens out . . l know I would never want to even have to try to do any of the outside stuff.

 

[DocRafiki]

Here's the breakdown in my house...

The dogs make sure the floor has a nice covering of dog hair and dirt from outside. Sometimes, when they're feeling extra productive, they cover the floor with garbage.

The cats bathe themselves by splashing around in the water bowl, and they decorate the tile and countertops with their muddy prints. They also make sure the litter box is never empty, as no one likes a lonely litter box.

I spend most of my free time messing up their handy work.

Lawn boy mows the yard.

 

[jimmiej]

Both parents work full time (DW only four days/week). DW does inside. Housecleaning, clothes washing, cooking.

I do outside. Yardwork, house repairs, auto care. I also handle our $$$.

DD#1 does college & part-time work. DD#2 does high school & part-time work.

 

[KimRaye]

Originally posted by mudnuri
The way I see it, DH works to support the house, my pay is what DH considers "Petty Cash".... I do not feel as though he should have to spend his weekends mowing the lawn etc... when I'm home during the week and can do so.

PETTY cash? I'll take your PETTY cash. And, why can't he mow the lawn? You said school age kids so, what if the kids were still young/newborn even? Were you out snowblowing then, too? Yikes, your description/topic seems destined for UH-OH territory!

Honestly, I think everyone's homes and couples have different ideas and different ways of doing things, obviously. What works for one or some may not work for one or any.

My dh does very little, if anything, inside our house. He works full time, I work part time. I do ALL the mental work tho, literally. I'M the one who makes the grocery lists, writes the checks, knows what's what with the kids, on and on, etc. I am scheduled (anal?) about nearly ALL that I have to do. He, on the other hand, can lay down and nap after work each day (we get home at the same time) while, I start dinner, make lunches for the next day, pay bills when due, give/start baths, lay out clothes for the next day, THINK about anything & everything in this house, involving our daily lives. (maybe I shouldn't get started on this)

But again, what works for you may not be what works for others. jmo

 

[Mad4Mickey]

DH has to be gone for 24 hours at a time for his shift so he is not always here to help out . But when he does get home he is "tired" because he has to wake up all night long when they get a call

I clean , cook, do the wash, work full time, and car pool boys from DS Wrestling team ( GO VOLS ! Shameless plug!)
DH is sooooo tired LOL Like I get lots of sleep ???

His income petty cash and I do all the house stuff ( Well I dont clean the pool or mow the yard)

 

[Cindy B]

Lets see.. outside work gets pretty evenly split.. I did mostly all the raking, and he used the leaf blower. DH actually shoveled today but sometimes I do it. I do spray the rock salt all around if that means anything. He does do the lawnmowing, but I do mostly all the weeding, and small trimmng.. big trimming goes to him.

Laundry pretty much me (hey that reminds me!)

Cooking I do it probably 5-6 nights a week, but sometimes he will do it. Dishwasher loading/unloading is us and sometimes 9 year old!

Billpaying, accound reconciliation he does. All I do is deposit my paycheck.

Vaccuuming, mopping thats usually me but he will get the heavy steam vac and do the carpets maybe every two weeks.

The bathroom is mostly me.

All the kids schedules, running around (there isn't much of that) is me. I am the one who usually takes off if the school calls or the kids are sick... (I have more sick days).

I do mostly all the grocery shopping as well.

 

[Mickey527]

Single parent here. Have been divorced since 1987 and due some to choice, some to unforceen circumstances am still and forever single.
I mow the lawn, I cook, clean, do dishes, laundry, fix things set up for Christmas, take down Christmas, shop, sew, and I work full time. This week I have put in 56 hours in work, and the rest at home.
I do have a male type person living in my home who is pretty much helpless due to his diasbilities. But he uses the snow blower that I purchased, and he fixes the electrical.
One thing more I ask of him. This is the only reason I can think of to have a man around 24 hours a day. He puts on the Christmas Tree lights. I hate that job, ask me to clean the litter box (4 cats), or the mess the dogs make (2 dogs) and I can do it, but stringing up the lights. Not my idea of fun. Peggie

 

[KathyFP]

I work full time and also do consulting. DH is a SAHD.

DH does most everything (cooking, cleaning, laundry, ironing)

We take turns making sure that DD washes well. I usually do DD's hair.

DH runs her to all of her activities (she has at least one a day).

I do her homework (except if I have a late meeting), read with her and do her devotions.

DH mostly does the shopping (while DD is in school)

DH does the outside work (we have a small yard, so there isn't to much except in the winter)

I pay the bills.

DH volunteers at my office.

I volunteer at DD’s school and am on the Parent Teacher organization.

We both take her to the Drs.

DH takes grandma grocery shopping every month.

In terms of money – the fact that I am the wage earner has no effect on how we handle money. He has a MAC card, checkbook and credit cards just as if he worked full time.

 

[torismom]

Dh works 6 days a week. I work tues, wed, thurs outside of the home and on mon, wed, thurs and sometimes a tues late afternoon into evening I babysit a child. I have to prepare at night for my lessons at achool, as well.

I do everything from, shopping, bill paying, cleaning, cooking, taking kids where they need to go, etc, etc...

Dh is supposed to take the garbage out and maintain the yard. He does take care of the cars when he can squeeze them in. He is a mechanic.


Whoever said life was fair, right? LOL

 

[Disney Ella]

Me (work part-time)
Scoop the cat litter, do the laundry (80%), clean the bathrooms, change sheets, vacuum, cook (80%), shovel snow (50%), pay bills, paint (he hates it and doesn't do a good enough job!), do the dishes (50%)

DH (works full-time) does laundry (20%), takes out garbage, mows the lawn, shovels snow (50%), washes dishes (50%), cooks (20%)

 

[Jiminy102]

Well Dh and I both work full time. We don't really have anything figured out as to who does what but we both seem to do about everything. We both cook, do dishes, clean, shovek sno, cut the grass etc. I do laundry most of the time and change the cat litter. Most of the time he takes the garbage out and he pays the bills. It works out great!!

 

[BedKnobbery2]

The kids empty the dishwasher. I do everything else.

 

[Mskanga]

That's a quick answer.....ME!
DH works full time, I work part-time. I like to do my yard work, but if I need help , I ask him and he will do it without a problem. What I do refuse to do is working on cars, I will do only the simple things on my car only , but nothing else. Oil changes and all that stuff is his problem , and if he doesn't do it on a timely manner, I take it to the mechanic.
If he had to take care of the kids, and drive them around, I don't think he would know where to start.

 

[kaseyC]

DH works full time usually gone from 6:00-6:00 daily. He does his own laundry (very picky about his clothes), irons all of our clothes for the week (me & 3 DDs). Takes care of garbage and recycling. Cooks on saturdays and helps with dishes on weekends. Usually takes care of girls all day saturday, so I can do something for myself. He takes care of the cars (cleaning and service)

Me a SAHM, take care of three girls, taxi service for 7 yr old to all activities (4 a week), cook and clean kitchen daily, pick up around the house. Do girls hair and laundry. Give baths and tuck in. Help with homework of 7yr old DD. (others are 2yrs and 7mos). take care of all of the girls Dr. and dental appointments as well as the dog. Pay all bills and handle all banking. I take care of all vacation planning and I literally just tell him which week to take off and the type of clothes he needs to pack.

To help we use a lawncare service for yard work, a housekeeper every other week for the heavy cleaning and I order my groceries online and Pea Pod delivers them every wednesday.

Anything else that needs to be done we just share or do as needed.

 

[cgcw]

Both DH and I work full time. DH works normally 40-45 hours a week. I own my own business as a licensed home daycare provider. I have children in my home from 7 AM - 5:30 PM every day. I suffer from the mind thought (by others) that I'm home, therefore, I have time to do things around here. Not actually the case.

In reality, I'm lucky if I am able to toss a load of laundry into the machine during the day. On a good day, I'm able to wash the breakfast and/or lunch dishes while the kids are here. Occassionally, I'll mop the kitchen floor but that only happens after one of the kids spill or make a huge mess. We are a very active and busy group. Between taking the kids to preschool, gym class, gymnastics, free play, library, outings, parks, or whereever, I certainly am not spending my days cleaning my house. The kids very rarely watch TV while they are here and when they do, it's a "scheduled event".

DH will occassionally help out with the general cleaning of our house. If I'm lucky, he will do the dishes at night (when he's trying to get out of the dog house for something else ). DH does sort the clothes on the weekend when we start to do the laundry. DH also does most of the folding/putting away of the laundry. DH also has the job of making the kids bunk beds. Outside work is usually split. DH takes on all of the home repair work (or toy repair). We split our time as far as taking kids to their different activities and appointments. DH does help out with my business as far as straightening up at the end of the day and helping me to rotate toys every couple of weeks.

I handle all the rest. I pay the bills although I'm hoping DH might take this over next year. It's tough getting everything done. I'm currently looking for someone to do the general cleaning. We had a service for a while and it seemed to free us up alot. I'm really looking forward to having a clean house again.

 

[oogieboogie]

Originally posted by KathyFP
I work full time and also do consulting. DH is a SAHD.

So is my DH. He does the house cleaning, vacuuming, laundry, and yardwork, kids, pays the bills, grocery shops.

I do the cooking and dishes. (He doesn't know how to run the dishwasher.. ), homework with the kids.

PS:We love pittsburgh. Going there next weekend! Totally love IKEA... He..he..he..

 

[figment95]

DH works full time and does computer consulting on the side. I work part time and take care of kids, dog, birds, house, pay bills, book vacations.
DH does all yard work because I hate it. He also goes anywhere I want for vacation without giving me a problem (always DW). He tried to plan a vacation once and it turned out to be a disaster.

 

[huey duey & luey]

Dh works 9-9 so not alot of time left
he helps with the kids and does cook on Sunday
me pretty much everything else somehow we managed to get a landscaper but I am still waiting for my cleaning person

 

[Deafmedic]

Wow, sure are alot of people living where a snow blower is needed!
Anyways, DH is usually at the hospital from 7am-4pm(Mon-Fri.) and takes call every 3 days. When home, he'll do all outdoor work, all kitchen cleaning, taking trash out and split driving our DDs around for their sports/GSs event and meetings, and band/choir practices, split the grocery shopping and other errands.
I, on the other hand, work 7p-7a(4 days/week/Mon-Thurs) at the hospital, do all laundry(his one chore he refuses to do because I am very anal about how the clothes are folded), cooking and general cleaning.
We do have DH's niece living with us to assist with running the DDs around and baby sitting the newborns. We supply her with her own van, room and board and pay all her college expenses in exchange for her assistance.