Where's the common sense?

[MeganMango]

I'm at Disney now (solo) and just need to get this out of my system.

I just wish people were a little more kind! I've had more people push and shove and be rude, than I've run into nice people. Tonight I was walking out of Pop's food court, halfway out the (one single) door, when a girl thought she could go ahead and go inside meanwhile I'm still coming out the doorway. There's been so much of "that" I find myself feeling frustrated.

I just want to focus on the good! I've run into some nice people, too. Just not as many. I would never try to shove someone out of my way though, or stand one inch from someone else's face. (Personal space, anybody?) just trying to remember we all grow up with different backgrounds and cultures, and not everyone is the same.

 

[Oswin]

Kindness and manners aren't common sense. They have to be taught and reinforced, and the problem is there are a decrease in these things being expected in society.

 

[sticker231]

Sadly it's not just at Disney, rudeness is everywhere.

 

[MeganMango]

Sadly it's not just at Disney, rudeness is everywhere.

True. I guess I just notice it more since at home I don't go to crowded places often. I also hope my post didn't come off as rude, as I in no way wanted it to, I just was feeling a bit frustrated

 

[cdnjason]

We were there the first week of June for our annual trip. It seems like the visitors are becoming more and more entitled. With that, they exhibit less manners. I feel bad for the CMs who deal with it daily.

 

[sticker231]

True. I guess I just notice it more since at home I don't go to crowded places often. I also hope my post didn't come off as rude, as I in no way wanted it to, I just was feeling a bit frustrated

I didn't interpret it as rude. I think people overall feel entitled and don't use manners at all. I work retail and I wonder daily how people would react if they were approached with the attitudes they have. There seems to be a real lack of common decency towards others.

 

[Aeweddle]

Overall we've had a great trip, but the lack of courtesy to those with small children, the elderly, etc. on buses really surprised me. My youngest is just shy of two so he can't stand on his own while the bus is moving. Luckily my daughter can but its hard on her too. I had several trips this time with her holding onto my legs while I was carrying DS and using my free arm to hold on for dear life. While I certainly don't feel entitled to a seat, it's a little surprising to have to ask another adult to please move her bag from the only spare seat or to watch parents allow their children to sprawl out across 2-3 seats when the bus is packed. Maybe some people aren't accustomed to the rules of public transport? I even gave up my seat once to another mother who was juggling very young twins while the two grown men on either side of me stared on.

 

[wareagle57]

Sorry, your complaint is that a kid came inside a doorway while you were still going outside of it? I try to extremely courteous to everyone, especially at Disney, but I would not have given a second thought to that.

 

[TXAKDisneyFan]

Overall we've had a great trip, but the lack of courtesy to those with small children, the elderly, etc. on buses really surprised me. My youngest is just shy of two so he can't stand on his own while the bus is moving. Luckily my daughter can but its hard on her too. I had several trips this time with her holding onto my legs while I was carrying DS and using my free arm to hold on for dear life. While I certainly don't feel entitled to a seat, it's a little surprising to have to ask another adult to please move her bag from the only spare seat or to watch parents allow their children to sprawl out across 2-3 seats when the bus is packed. Maybe some people aren't accustomed to the rules of public transport? I even gave up my seat once to another mother who was juggling very young twins while the two grown men on either side of me stared on.

We saw plenty of what you describe on our most recent trip. Our older two kids are still pretty young (one had just turned 2), I was very visibly pregnant, and there were plenty of times that people took up otherwise crowded bus and monorail seats with bags (or who let their kids take up multiple spaces). I understand that most people are tired, and anyone can have an "invisible" illness or disability that makes standing difficult, so I wouldn't expect people to give their seats up. But don't take them up with bags.

 

[goopysolelady]

I'm at Disney now (solo) and just need to get this out of my system.

I just wish people were a little more kind! I've had more people push and shove and be rude, than I've run into nice people. Tonight I was walking out of Pop's food court, halfway out the (one single) door, when a girl thought she could go ahead and go inside meanwhile I'm still coming out the doorway. There's been so much of "that" I find myself feeling frustrated.

I just want to focus on the good! I've run into some nice people, too. Just not as many. I would never try to shove someone out of my way though, or stand one inch from someone else's face. (Personal space, anybody?) just trying to remember we all grow up with different backgrounds and cultures, and not everyone is the same.

I also noticed this when I stayed, solo, at AoA in the food court area. Bus stop was also a little "trying". Last years stay at WL was the total opposite; I had people offer me their bus seats quite often (I'm 65) and fellow guests at the resort could not have been nicer! Maybe it was because it was a November stay and everyone was in a holiday mood! In 2014 we went with DGD's soccer team in July. Along with other chaperones, we made SURE "our girls" were courteous at all times and offered seats to those in need so yes, these manners have to be taught.

 

[Delirium]

If I were on a bus and someone did not offer to move their bags so someone needing the seat could sit down, I would 'nicely' suggest to the person that they move it, and do so in a voice loud enough that half the bus could hear.

 

[ArwenMarie]

Overall we've had a great trip, but the lack of courtesy to those with small children, the elderly, etc. on buses really surprised me. My youngest is just shy of two so he can't stand on his own while the bus is moving. Luckily my daughter can but its hard on her too. I had several trips this time with her holding onto my legs while I was carrying DS and using my free arm to hold on for dear life. While I certainly don't feel entitled to a seat, it's a little surprising to have to ask another adult to please move her bag from the only spare seat or to watch parents allow their children to sprawl out across 2-3 seats when the bus is packed. Maybe some people aren't accustomed to the rules of public transport? I even gave up my seat once to another mother who was juggling very young twins while the two grown men on either side of me stared on.

I haven't used public transportation in about 15 years. Do people give people with kids their seats?

 

[jknc]

My personal pet peave are able bodied men who do not offer a seat on a bus to a women or a child who is standing.

Men take note.

 

[plumsiren]

I haven't used public transportation in about 15 years. Do people give people with kids their seats?

Small children that have to be held onto, yes, and especially if it's one parent with multiple small children. At least in NYC they do.

My personal pet peave are able bodied men who do not offer a seat on a bus to a women or a child who is standing.

Men take note.

There's no reason for a man to give up his seat to an able-bodied woman. This isn't the Titanic.

 

[TsLoveMickey]

We were at Disney last week and experienced the opposite. Most people we encountered were so kind - giving up bus seats, letting my daughter jump in bathroom line when she was having stomach issues (I confirmed with every person in line if this was ok with them before allowing it), and just general smiles and politeness. I tried to do the same to others I encountered. The only issues I can remember is people trying to enter an already full bathroom once and then the mad crowds/people rushing a few minutes before Wishes at the end of a long, hot day - but I felt the same way, so I let it go. Overall I thought everyone was exceptionally kind and well-mannered!

 

[Pmlocke]

Hey, I have spent a lot of money to come down here for this trip and I shouldn't have to wait for anything. My children want to see the princesses right now, why should they have to wait. Why is the restaurant so crowded? I didn't have time to make resevations and I want to eat here right now. Why is the line for the Mine ride so long? Who do those people with the FP's think they are? They think they are better than me. It is called entitlement. Unfortunately many parent today have blessed themselves and their children with this notion and it keeps spreading. Fortunately for me and my wife, we are both in our 60's so we walk slower and can vacation in the off season when things are a ltille calmer. I have heard all of the statements that I typed above and can only assume it gets worse during peak times. Come on people, slow down and enjoy your stay at WDW. Quit trying to see everything. We go every year and we still find things that we had never seen before.

 

[jknc]

There's no reason for a man to give up his seat to an able-bodied woman. This isn't the

In my world there are many reasons. Thank you.

 

[wdw4rfam]

My personal pet peave are able bodied men who do not offer a seat on a bus to a women or a child who is standing.

Men take note.

Don't think gender has anything to do with it. if anyone is holding a baby or small child- I think a man OR women should offer their seat. I always give my seat to other women with babies or small children, and I'm a woman. But not all feel that way and only once when I had small children did I encounter nobody offering me their seat, so I just told the driver I would get off and wait for the next bus. I didn't demand someone get up. Yes, it's nice when they do, but don't expect it.

 

[Praying Colonel]

Oh good--we haven't had a men-give-up-their-seats thread for awhile.

 

[serenitynow]

That old fashioned gesture is not always so appreciated. My DH got told off on a Disney bus for offering his seat to a pregnant woman. She smartly informed him that pregnancy was not a disease and that she ran 5 miles a day and certainly could hold up her own weight on a bus, thank you very much. He felt really embarrassed by the whole episode.