When one child has more friends....

[Mississippian]

We have two children, a son who will soon be 10 and a daughter who is 8.

It's always seemed that my son has had more friends. When we moved to a new town almost four years ago, my son was initiated into the neighborhood boy's club two months before we actually moved here. There are fewer girls on the street, and they just aren't as good a "fit."

It seems that many of the children my son makes friends with are children of parents that my wife and I enjoy socializing with. Not so much my daughter.

My son is now at an age where he would have an absolute blast if he could take a friend to WDW. There are a couple we would actually enjoy taking. They are over at the house so much they are like part of the family.

But I really can't think of anyone I would feel comfortable with my daughter asking. And so there is a fairness issue.

Does anyone else have this problem?

 

[churchpilot]

My children are different ages than yours, but the problem is the same. My 7 year old is a social butterfly and has friends over every day, and he always invites a friend to come home with us after church on Sunday. My 3 year old wants to play with his brother and his friends, but the age difference is too much. We started inviting a friend to come home with our 3 year old, but sometimes it is too much. My only concern about your 10 year old taking someone to WDW with him is that your daughter will feel left out. Your son would normally do things with her out of neccessity, and now he won't have to. Our solution the past two years has been to invite a family along that has 2 children the same ages as our children. They are girls, but that doesn't make a difference and both of our kids have someone to stand with, sit with, ride with, etc. Good luck.

 

[stsomewhere]

Yes.
Our DS made a freind when he was in 2nd grade(now going into 5th). We got along very well with the parents.
We invited them on an overnight camping trip. That lead to another 5 night trip where they stayed in our trailer with us.
In Jan, we went on a cruise with them.
My DD-7 is usually the only girl.
Our other close friends have 2 boys- 7 and 4.
We are going camping with both families (seperate campers). She was already complaining that it was not fair that she was the only girl. We considered taking one of her friends . But, decided not to. She makes friends quickly hopefully there will be a girl at the campground she can play with.

DD would want ot take one of two sisters that live down the block. How would we choose? One gets along really well with DD, but fights with DS and his friend. The other gets along well, but is very whiney and gets on my nerves.

 

[septbaby]

Is there a niece/nephew/cousin you could bring for her?

I also think vacations are special, time to really focus on the family. Perhaps this is a great time to "make" the kids play together rathter than choose their friends over each other. Friends may come and go, but they will always be siblings.

 

[Mississippian]

Is there a niece/nephew/cousin you could bring for her?

I also think vacations are special, time to really focus on the family. Perhaps this is a great time to "make" the kids play together rathter than choose their friends over each other. Friends may come and go, but they will always be siblings.

This last Spring Break we used frequent flier miles and went to Italy. My son really didn't enjoy the trip. He's just at an age where he likes doing things with his friends, and I enjoy seeing him do things with his friends.

I'm really not even sure we will allow him to ask a friend along. But I was curious how others handled this problem. I feel it is a little unfair to my daughter, but I guess life isn't always fair. And perhaps in six months (when I think we'll be going) there might be someone we'll be comfortable asking to go with my daughter.