When going through tough times....?

[bjgrazi]

Where you gain your strength from? Prayer, friends, meditation? How does everyone deal with the downs of life?

 

[4cruisin]

I usually use a combination of all 3, thinking good thoughts (meditation), venting to friends if necessary and lots of prayers. My dh is also a very big source of comfort to me most of the time. I have gone through some very difficult times in the past (mother's terminal illness etc) and although I am not overly religious, I always believe that there is a reason for everything that happens in life...sometimes we may not see it at the time.

I hope things work out for you.

Nancy

 

[onecoolmama]

Family, friends and the DIS!!! I know this isnt "tough times" but yesterday...I woke up and DS peed all over the floor. The DD decided to take her stinky diaper off, and out it on the dog. Then, DS peed all over my car! Fianlly, I went to go get capret cleaning to clean my car I left the kids with Dh and he went to the bathroom.

He came out, couldnt find them...they were outside by themselves. They are 3 and 1!!! So he lef tthe door opened, went to go get them, and the dog ran out and pooped in the neighbors yard! "Crappy" day!

But Vh and the TG got me through it..with laughter!!!

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

<font color=navy>My faith gets me through the down times. I'm cushioned/enveloped by the love of the Spirit. I just feel that what happens in life is such a small part of the whole journey for us, and whatever I'm going through will pass, and things will get better. Or I just accept it and deal with it.

I also pretty much don't focus on the negative things in life. I know they're there, but I tuck them in the corner of my brain and concentrate on whatever is good out there.

 

[mickeyboat]

Laughter is the best medicine. You can find some humor in almost any situation.

Yesterday my DD's were outside playing on the back deck while I made dinner. They got into a bucket of water that had been filled by the rain. I checked on them a few minutes after they went out to find them naked, pouring water over their heads.

Hope that made you smile. We are all here for you.

Denae

 

[bjgrazi]

I find laughter does help and your story was a good one.

I'm one who will only concentrate on the postive and leave the negative behind. I find prayer helps me and seems to calm me down.

It just sucks when you come home and find that your husband of 4 months changes the locks and won't let you in and tells you then that you can stay but your children have to live with their father. Yes he's out of his mind and I told him so. So with 3 weeks left to school we're now looking for somewhere to live. My kids are being wonderful about it all and are my source of inspiration.

I have no idea why he dislikes my kids so much. They are well behaved, honor roll, sports involved, polite kids. That is what everyone tells me, not my opinion. They have caused him no trouble, ask him for nothing and help around the house. He just dislikes them. Let me add, he has also 2 kids that live with us, they are "C" students, rude (but I still care about them) and act as though they are the prince and princess of the house.

Sorry to let this fly, I just had to vent and my pride is getting in my way of going to my family for help.

 

[HauntedMansionGeek]

Oh I'm so sorry for your struggles......sounds like a really tough situation for you right now.

I find prayer, good friends and lots of good humor gets me though the roughest moments in my life.

I'll keep YOU in MY prayers, if that's ok.

 

[C.Ann]

I'm really sorry to hear that you and your children are going through all of this.. Bottom line is sometimes life just sucks!

Sometimes I wonder how I keep going - my life is constantly in turmoil - but I use a combination of things to draw support: prayer; my DD & her wonderful DH; the folks here on the DIS; and often times just brainwashing myself into believing that things will get better - somehow, some way..

Did your DH not like your children prior to your marriage? That sounds so odd.. Many his children are forcing him to "choose"..

Whatever the case may be, I'll say a prayer for you and your children that things work out for the best..

Hugs,
C.Ann

 

[tassie42]

I hope things get better for you!

 

[mickeyboat]

I hope you will ask your family for support. That's what families are there for. Don't let pride get in the way.

Sending P & PD to you and your children. They sound like wonderful kids!

Denae

 

[minniecarousel]

Well that's just WRONG!! I hope you find the help you need. Hang in there.

I have found that, over the years, I go to a counselor for a few sessions, just to make sure I'm on the right path - or for a little guidance.

 

[4cruisin]

Don't let pride get in the way. There is nothing for you to be ashamed of. Ask your family for whatever assistance you need right now...if not for you...at least for your kids.

Thinking of you.

Nancy

 

[KimRaye]

Originally posted by bjgrazi
changes the locks and won't let you in

Call the police. I think that's illegal. It's your home also.

Good luck.

 

[danacara]

beer ...



no, not seriously.

Sending good vibes your way!

 

[luvmarypoppins]

Just wanted to say prayers for strength to get through this difficult time. I have a church family who is really supportive for our family, like cooked us meals when I had surgery etc. since all my family is deceased. Ask your family for help, they are your family and thats what they are there for. Praying this storm will soon be over and things will be smooth sailing in the not too distant future.

 

[RitaZ.]

{{hugs}} to you and your children. That's a difficult situation to be going through. Ask your family for help, don't let pride make this situation harder than it has to be for yourself and your children.

Try to focus on the positive side of things. Your husband did a despicable thing, but now you have seen his true colors. Hang in there.

 

[Microcell]

My dad offered to put us in foster care when my mom died if my stepmother wanted him to, and lucky us, she wanted to be a mommy! It felt undescribably awful to know how little it meant to him to have us. Yes he made sure we knew that before we set foot in thier house to live. You have already given your kids such a sense of security by leaving that loser behind. Your kids know you love them! Take pride in that. You have a rough time ahead I am sure, but to hear that a parent would not even give it a second thought to stick with their kids warms my heart and makes me feel better! PM me anytime and I will listen. Go to your family- that is what they are for. I bet they didn't like the creep much anyway and will be happy you got out!