When do you think this is rude???

[Duck/Fish]

I wear my cap at WDW and I wear it proudly! To me, looking down on someone because they are wearing a cap is rude and bad manners. Get over it!

 

[ducklite]

Originally posted by athena's mommy
The only place I don't think a hat is appropraiate is church, a movie theater and when the national athem is played. Other than that, I don't really care. My DH wears his Army baseball cap EVERYDAY and everywhere we go.

Not to argue with you, but when my son goes to the local Army National Guard Armory he is expected to remove his hat on entering and NEVER place it on a table. He has been severely reprimanded by the CO for not following this code of conduct.

Anne

 

[eeyoreforever]

Originally posted by chi-mom
I vote a big LEAVE THE HAT ON! My DH wears a hat to avoid burning the bald spot. When the hat comes off, the few hairs he has left are plastered to his sweaty dome. Not at all appetizing, and he feels very uncomfortable about it. I would never be offended by a hat when there are so many much more offensive articles of clothing out there.

Ditto-I feel exactly the same way.

 

[Hadjii]

I think that a guy wearing a hat in a restaurant falls under the category of "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff". Wouldn't bother me at all.

 

[mmiller711]

I think when you go inside your hat should be removed. Does it bother me if people around me are eating with their hats on? No! I probably wouldn't even notice you at another table. I have more to worry about than that. When DDs BF went to WDW with us I did remind him to remove his hat when we were eating. I can think of some things that would be far worse. Look at the way some people dress!!!!!

 

[phorsenuf]

Originally posted by hucifer
Think about what could fly off if you remove your hat at the table...hair, dander flakes, etc...that could get on the table or in your plate, or get airborne. That would bother me FAR more than having someone wear a cap at the table.

Technically though your hat should be removed before entering the building, not at the table.

That being said, it doesn't matter to me what other people do with their hats, depending where you are. Although I do notice when people have them on. I personally teach my children to remove them when eating. I've also taught them from a very young age to remove them during the national anthem. I look around at places these days and shocked by the way kids (and some adults!) behave while it's playing. Very disrepectful!
As far as cell phones, I stay off mine unless it's a call from home while my hubby and I are out, or if it's my in-laws since my FIL is in end stage cancer or of course it's my son calling from basic training. I do however get up and go outside if its possible. Ok OK...I know completely off subject...I'm leaving now......

 

[JVL1018]

I wouldn't call it rude, and I am sure that I would *never* even notice if someone was wearing a cap at a casual restaurant.
However, I will insist that my husband and my almost 2 year old son take their hats off.
Does it make a huge difference to anyone? Of course not, but I think polite rules of civility have their place and I will do my part to make sure my son knows that.
All that said, my husband and my son, though both blessed with full heads of thick hair, both have very very short buzz cuts, I think 1/4 in. long, so they don't get hat hair.

 

[fumipappa]

I am Japanese and my father was very strict, especially manner wise, meaning I am also from old school


So I am oppose to wear hat anywhere inside building.
I personally do not want to see somebody wear hat in restaurant(even fast food). I also do not want to see some else's flat hair.
I do not make any action, but I assume those people as rude or disrespctful to others.

(If I wear cap/hat inside building my late father would come back from heaven to kick me )

My understanding about eating outside or going outside is to deal with other people. I have to realize I AM NOT AT MY HOME.
So, any kind of my act may be offensive to others.

And manner is manner. I personally take meaning of manner as "social rules". I do not want to create my own rules in this society because my hair looks flat or ugly or whatever.

I also get flat hair after wearing cap/hat. So unless I really NEED it, I won't wear cap. If I have to, I bring my comp, dep, every single item to fix my hair because I CHOSE TO WEAR CAP/HAT

 

[holly dolly]

I think that this rule is very old and out dated. It just not wearing a baseball cap that is offensive but if you are wearing a tank top, jean shorts and a baseball cap in a nice retaraunt where you should be waering nice pants and a button-up shirts that is not appropriate. I think that most retaraunts at WDW, even in the world showcase are casual. Considering that it is hot you are walking around all day riding rides AND you are on vacation wearing a hat should not be a problem. If it offends people they need to get over it. It is much more offensive when smokers are smoking where they shouldn't be. Now that is rude!

 

[fumipappa]

I hope you are not misunderstanding my point...


Other than me wearing cap inside building, I felt some kind of atmosphere from this topic that people try to justify their "I-Do-Whatever-I-Want-and I-Do-Not-care-others" attitude by stating the manner as "OLD". I know some of manner is completely outdated. I know some of old school mentality is not acceptable these days. But I didnot see any justification from the opinion to wear cap to hide flat hair.

My main point was that I take resposibility to my action.
If you want to wear hat/cap, fine,
If you want to hide flat hair & wear cap, bring comb& dep or mousse because some MAY feel offensive to your hair or cap.

that's all...

 

[photobob]

I always take off my cap. Don't have to worry about hat hair, I shave my head. At WDW i usually lie my fanny pack on the floor with cap on top.

 

[Alice in Cleveland]

Oh, I just love this topic!

Those who were raised to take off hats indoors, that's great. Keep on doing it, but please don't judge others because they are wearing hats.

My husband wore his cap all day at the parks. He kept it on at World Showcase restaurants. If you want to think us rude, fine. My hat wearing husband also held doors open at the restaurant to help an elderly couple get inside with a wheelchair, other guys just watched them struggle. He also gives up his seat in the waiting areas to ladies and elderly people, while wearing his hat. Call me crazy, but I judge people by the way they TREAT OTHERS, not by what's on their heads.

I think many, many years ago it was considered inappropriate for women to wear pants, or to show their legs. Times change, thank goodness.

 

[crazymomof4]

My DH is 44 yo and was raised in the "hats off" generation. Many times he has firmly reminded our boys to remove them at the dinner table. That being said, I just now asked him what he will do when we are in WDW. Surprisingly, he said he will leave his hat on! He feels he needs the hat while touring the parks to keep the sun off of his face and out of his eyes, so he will wear one each day. His embarassment over how his hair would look when taking the cap off wins out over the "rules" of society that he was raised by.
I personally would have never noticed whether or not he or any other man removed their hats in WDW restaurants. I have thought about it and read the link posted earlier but I still have not been able to understand how removing the hat is good manners. I know many will say "it just IS" to that I have to say that I am the type of person who is always asking, "But WHY?"

 

[TDC Nala]

hat, no hat, couldn't care less.

A long time ago, I saw Sam Donaldson dancing around during the National Anthem at a White House event... now THAT was sort of rude. But he wasn't wearing a hat.

 

[Mrs.A]

One evening sitting on my front porch, I heard loud music from a car. I'm thinking to myself oh that loud crazy music how can teenagers listen to that stuff.? (I remember someone saying that to me many years ago!!)

2 teenagers get out of the car to visit the grandmother of one of the boys. One was wearing a baseball cap and before he entered the house he, like a gentleman removed his hat. I was really impressed. His mother taught him well.

 

[ilovefh]

Wear it, don't wear it. It's a personal choice. I won't be offended by it. Personally, I think today people are way too easily offended. What does it harm me if you wear a hat? I prefer to see someone in a hat than see their gross oily sweaty hair going in all directions. That being said....I wouldnt care if I saw that either!!

 

[nanalisa]

Manners are manners. They shouldn't have to be posted to be practiced. It doesn't matter how many other wonderful things a man does - it's just polite to remove your hat upon entering a building. I know times have changed, and more people are adopting the attitude that everything is a personal choice. I'm not going to be offended if I'm eating at a restaurant where men and boys are wearing hats, but I will be impressed if they take them off. To me it's one of the little things that make a man a gentleman.

Don't ask me why.

 

[DISNEYFAMILYOFFOUR]

Well, apparently I have offended many people and some of them even think I have no manners. I, as a female, have worn a disney cap (I buy a new one each trip) in the restaurants, including CP, CRT, CM, Rainforrest Cafe, and yes even, 1900 Park Fare for Cinderella's dinner. My children also, at times, along with my husband, kept their hats/caps on.

I teach my children polite manners, including saying please and thank you, God Bless You when someone sneezes, and covering their mouths when they sneeze or cough. They also say "excuse me" when they are trying to get someone's attention.

We are all on VACATION.

 

[Alice in Cleveland]

Originally posted by Mrs.A
One evening sitting on my front porch, I heard loud music from a car. I'm thinking to myself oh that loud crazy music how can teenagers listen to that stuff.? (I remember someone saying that to me many years ago!!)

2 teenagers get out of the car to visit the grandmother of one of the boys. One was wearing a baseball cap and before he entered the house he, like a gentleman removed his hat. I was really impressed. His mother taught him well.

LOL! I guess that excuses him from his rude behavior of disturbing the peace of the street with loud music.. I think mother needs to teach him some more.

 

[Tiffany]

Okay. Here is my take on the whole hat situation. Some of these "rules" were created hundreds of years ago for reasons that no longer apply. Why is a man suppossed to walk closer to the street if a man and a woman are walking down a sidewalk? Because in the days of unpaved roads mud would splatter and this way the man would get dirty and not the woman. Does this apply any longer? No.

My understand of the men taking their hats off when they entered inside and women not having to comes from the days of when people walked around armed and it was to show that the man was not consealing a weapon under his hat.

Why is is okay for a woman to wear a hat indoors but not a man? Just because of gender? That is not logically at all.

We follow the level of the place we are entering. Example: If we are out shopping or just getting things done on the weekend and we both went out with baseball caps on. When it is time to eat if we stop into a 99 or other casual dining place we will both leave our caps on. It is illogical for my husband to have to take off his but I can leave my hat on because of some rule that does not apply any longer.

If we are going to a fine dining place then we would not wear hats and dress accordingly. Example: If we were going to dinner at The Bay Tower Room or to a function at Locke-Ober then we would dress accordingly.

At Disney the same rules apply. In our view any dinning place inside of a them park is NOT fine dining and I would see no issue with someone who has been walking around EC all day with a hat on but comes into LeCellier for dinner I would perfer they keep the hat on instead of showing their sweaty head while I am eating.

Places like the Calf. Grill and V&A and Narcosses(sp?) at the GF along with maybe the Flying Fish on the BW we would consider fine dining and then dress up some with no hats. V&A has an official dress code so you do not have any choice there.

Just our view. We are not big on following a traditation just for the sake of doing it when no one can provide a logically answer as to why that tradition still applies.