What's wrong with people?

[Ilivetogo]

He may not be a jerk, don't be so quick to judge.

They change when they come back...

It may not be right, but when they come back, the world is a new place, and everything is different. The normal becomes uncomfortable. It is a major adjustment.

I have a cousin who came back totally different, broke up with his girlfriend.

I had a co-worker who was engaged, planning a wedding, and buying a house with her soldier who was in Afghanistan. He was the PERFECT guy. She would get fresh flowers, candy, etc., delivered to work almost weekly from him. When he came back, he was different and he needed space. He pushed her away, and she tried to cling until she finally let loose.

I have a friend of a friend who married a soldier, had a baby with him, moved to Kansas with him and started a new life. He came back from Iraq and couldn't do it anymore. They are now seperated.

My mom's fiance (before my dad) came back from Vietnam TOTALLY different. They broke up almost immediately.

I'm not saying it's right, but they change.

Don't pass judgement until you have walked in their shoes.

... Still, so sorry your DD is hurting. We ALL know that feeling.

I was thinking the same thing.

She may not understand this now, but hopefully after she's healed a little, she will.


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[sbsteel]

I was actually waiting for that comment to be picked apart...ding, ding you win the prize congrats true diser. The comment was not made as a sad aspect of her life it was a simple statement of where she is right now, "30 and alone" now that she wasted 5 years on the same guy.

It came across as 'a sad aspect of her life' when you included her age. Age shouldn't have anything to do with it. Your story would've been just as, if not more, relevant had you said "now she's alone after wasting five years on the same guy." Women of all ages can relate to wasting time on the wrong guy.

 

[terri01p]