act1980
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Ok, I have got a pretty tough decision to make.
My parents are being really difficult about my wedding and I feel like I am on a roller coaster.
Basically one minute they say they will go to my wedding and then they say they may not (due to finances)
They have known for at least 3 years that we were planning on getting married abroad (we live in the UK). I wouldn't mind so much but they both smoke and drink heavily therefore wasting a ton of money. My childhood also revolved around pubs, alcohol, gambling and smoking and as children we never came first.
Also, my Mum is an alcoholic. I begged her not to drink on my wedding day and she promised me that there was no way she would ruin my day. Anyway, I asked her last weekend 'your not drinking at my wedding are you'? She replied with 'well, hopefully not, no'!! WTH!!! What kind of answer is that!! So now I am on tenter hooks because of that as well. The whole thing is really getting to me now. I just don't understand why you would want to upset your first born daughter on what is meant to be the happiest day of her life!
I just feel like they should be trying to make it up to me now but they are still being totally selfish.
I am all over the place and trying to plan a wedding abroad is stressful enough without having this to worry about this as well.
My question is, should I just tell them no to bother? They way I know where I stand and can just move on. Otherwise I feel like they are in control and all the while I am going to be up and down, and on the lead up to my wedding will be worrying about whether my Mum will be drinking or not.
Ahhh, what to do. Someone please help me.
My parents are being really difficult about my wedding and I feel like I am on a roller coaster.
Basically one minute they say they will go to my wedding and then they say they may not (due to finances)
They have known for at least 3 years that we were planning on getting married abroad (we live in the UK). I wouldn't mind so much but they both smoke and drink heavily therefore wasting a ton of money. My childhood also revolved around pubs, alcohol, gambling and smoking and as children we never came first.
Also, my Mum is an alcoholic. I begged her not to drink on my wedding day and she promised me that there was no way she would ruin my day. Anyway, I asked her last weekend 'your not drinking at my wedding are you'? She replied with 'well, hopefully not, no'!! WTH!!! What kind of answer is that!! So now I am on tenter hooks because of that as well. The whole thing is really getting to me now. I just don't understand why you would want to upset your first born daughter on what is meant to be the happiest day of her life!
I just feel like they should be trying to make it up to me now but they are still being totally selfish.
I am all over the place and trying to plan a wedding abroad is stressful enough without having this to worry about this as well.
My question is, should I just tell them no to bother? They way I know where I stand and can just move on. Otherwise I feel like they are in control and all the while I am going to be up and down, and on the lead up to my wedding will be worrying about whether my Mum will be drinking or not.
Ahhh, what to do. Someone please help me.