What would you do?

[princessh]

Let me start by saying that I love my Father and Step-Mother dearly! However, they have invited themselves to join us on our upcoming cruise. We did not invite them, they inited themselves. We have vactioned with them before without any problems, but DH is pretty upset. This was supposed to be time just of the four of us! We want to do things at our pace, and not have to worry about what they want to do. I know that sounds kind of selfish, but we really wanted some family time! I reaaly am at a loss at what to do. They already know what cruise we are going to be on. It's` not like I can keep them from booking the same cruise. I certainly don't want to hurt thier feelings. Anyone have any suggestions. Should we just bite the bulet and deal with it? I am also worried that they are not really about to financailly handle all the costs involved. My dsm said they already have $200 saved. Well, the deposit alone is $500! I am kind of hoping maybe they will not have the money to go. Any suggestions?

 

[Miller1412]

This happened to us as well. Friends invited themselves on our next Disney trip. We just told them that we wanted to schedule something else with them, we were planning a "family getaway" because we needed some family alone time with the kids.

They took it ok, and honestly, I wasn't worried if they would or not because it was rude to invite themselves. (Not flaming your dad and step mom...flaming my friends because they can be rude like that!)

I'd bite the bullet and have a talk before too much time goes by, or it will just complicate the situation further.

 

[mtblujeans]

Yes, just wait it out IMHO and see if they get it booked. Otherwise, you can each do whatever you want to do during the day and, perhaps, plan on meeting for dinner in the evenings....! Enjoy your trip, no matter how it works out!

 

[kmp1191]

A very good friend of mine had suggested going to WDW at the same time we were going. I said, "that could be fun, maybe we could actually meet up one day for lunch or dinner." Then she started asking where we were staying and where our ressies were for...I finally flat out said "I am taking MY family on vacation. I'm sorry, but I won't be able to spend that much time with you if you decide to book it at the same time. Let me know what you decide, and maybe we can book one dinner together."
She understood completely and booked her trip for later. No hurt feelings, just honest truth.

good luck &

 

[EthansMom]

I too would say, "We'd really like to just keep this as a Family Vacation for just the four of us. Could we plan something with you at a later date?"

 

[Michie]

This Is Why I Never, Ever Tell Anybody About Our Upcoming Trips, Especially My Bigmouthed Husband!

 

[Sparx]

Yes, just wait it out IMHO and see if they get it booked. Otherwise, you can each do whatever you want to do during the day and, perhaps, plan on meeting for dinner in the evenings....! Enjoy your trip, no matter how it works out!

This is what I would do. I just couldn't tell someone that they couldn't come. But I'm a people pleaser and I try to make everyone happy.

 

[Msslaydbug]

If it was inlaws I would give them a totaly diffrent cruise date and then incocently admit I must have gotten the ship and dates wrong !!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Since you planned on having time as just a family I would tell them. Then I would tell them perhaps we can plan something together, just not this time.

 

[diznygirl]

I'm a people-pleaser, too. And I always try to be subtle at first when dealing with potential problems. Could be that they aren't really serious, or maybe they are - but don't really know how much it will all cost. Maybe you could "complain" about the costs to them, and that will scare them off. If not, you will have to bite the bullet and tell them you don't want them on this trip with you.

Good luck!