What would you do? Stay at parent's vacation house or stay at Disney resort...

[DisneyFansInLINY]

I am going to Florida at the end of June/early July. It is my dd's 6th birthday and my father's 63rd birthday. I am traveling with my dd (5 turning 6) and ds (2) on 6/27 and my dh is flying in on 7/2. My parents, my younger brother (age 25), my older sister (age 33) and her 3 dd's (ages 8, 6 and 2) and my younger sister (age 30) will all be at my parent's vacation home. It's a big house with 5 bedrooms and 3 bathrooms and a good amount of open space. However, that's a lot of people, 11 in total consisting of 6 adults and 5 kids, in one house lol And my sister (aged 33) can be a bit difficult as she is bi-polar. I have reservations for AoA on June 30-July 2 and then when dh arrives, we will be checking into BWV. But now I am contemplating booking ASMU with an AP discount instead of renting the car and staying at my parent's for those first 3 nights. But I hate spending extra money when I technically can stay with all of them. It's just that the drive is 30 minutes from their house to WDW each way, the clash of personalities and the insanity of all being in one house. So what would you do?

 

[kevschickee]

I would most def stay at a resort and meet them at the parks. Too many people for me.

 

[Darcy03231]

I am going to Florida at the end of June/early July. It is my dd's 6th birthday and my father's 63rd birthday. I am traveling with my dd (5 turning 6) and ds (2) on 6/27 and my dh is flying in on 7/2. My parents, my younger brother (age 25), my older sister (age 33) and her 3 dd's (ages 8, 6 and 2) and my younger sister (age 30) will all be at my parent's vacation home. It's a big house with 5 bedrooms and 3 bathrooms and a good amount of open space. However, that's a lot of people, 11 in total consisting of 6 adults and 5 kids, in one house lol And my sister (aged 33) can be a bit difficult as she is bi-polar. I have reservations for AoA on June 30-July 2 and then when dh arrives, we will be checking into BWV. But now I am contemplating booking ASMU with an AP discount instead of renting the car and staying at my parent's for those first 3 nights. But I hate spending extra money when I technically can stay with all of them. It's just that the drive is 30 minutes from their house to WDW each way, the clash of personalities and the insanity of all being in one house. So what would you do?

With what you posted I'd stay at the resort.

 

[worm761]

I would stay at Disney. You may need the down time from all that family!

 

[Sadie22]

Here's what I would do. Give dear dad and dear mom the extra time with daughter and grandson and granddaughter, since it's dad's birthday. Appreciate having extra adults to shower my kids with attention. Be grateful I'm not bipolar. Then enjoy family vacation with husband.

I'm closer to your parents' age. I never vacationed with my dad. I wish I could just talk to him now. We did vacation with the ILs a few times, but DFIL is gone now too. Enjoy them while you have them. Your parents would be hurt if you bailed out on the plans. I'm sure they're looking forward to having their children together. You can put up with being together for that short time.

 

[chris31997]

Here's what I would do. Give dear dad and dear mom the extra time with daughter and grandson and granddaughter, since it's dad's birthday. Appreciate having extra adults to shower my kids with attention. Be grateful I'm not bipolar. Then enjoy family vacation with husband.

I'm closer to your parents' age. I never vacationed with my dad. I wish I could just talk to him now. We did vacation with the ILs a few times, but DFIL is gone now too. Enjoy them while you have them. Your parents would be hurt if you bailed out on the plans. I'm sure they're looking forward to having their children together. You can put up with being together for that short time.

I can agree with this. Split the time. When DH comes down, stay at the resort. Till then, stay with mom and dad.

Throw a big party half the cake with a 63 and the other half with a 6. Celabrate the time you have with family as crazy as they are as much as they make you

 

[bigbabyblues]

I would stay onsite. You can still visit with your family, but I wouldn't want to stay there with that many people, especially if there are personality conflicts.

 

[TheRustyScupper]

As an Old Guy, I would want the family staying WITH me.

 

[McKelly]

I would stay at your parents for the first three nights and then move to BMV with your husband. I have similar issues with family, however, I would suck it up and try to keep everybody happy, especially since its your dad's birthday. Your happiness will come, three days later...

 

[queenofthehive]

Personally, I would split the time. We have annual vacations with my side of the family and it is some thing my kids and I cherish. Yes, you might have the crazy aunt or wacky family member ( theses are just examples...) but they are our family and we love them - my quirks included It is only for a few days and it will mean everything to your parents and to your kids. IMHO - Family get togethers are very important and very special.

 

[gratefulfred]

I lost both my parents in the same year, they were both relatively young. I would stay with family cause you never know when that won't be an option anymore.

 

[ruadisneyfan2]

For 3 days, I would suck it up & stay with family. Sure, there's bound to be some conflicts with lots of family together but as pp's mentioned, it's your dad's bday, not just vacay. It's not like your entire trip is just staying with family. You will still have some time with your dh & own family.

My parents have a large shore house: 6BR, 4Baths. With everyone down, spouses, kids etc. there is still not enough beds & someone ends up sleeping on the boat, sofa, wherever. Is it hectic? Yes but for a few days here & there it's all good. I know my parents like when we're all together.

 

[stayhomemom77]

If it were me...I'd stay with my parents. You could have problems but it also could be really great!! There's nothing like cousin bonding time. Your kids will likely have a blast, and if it IS a challenge for you, it's only for a couple of days.

 

[DisneyFansInLINY]

Thank you everyone for your advice. I appreciate your help on this. As I am torn between creating family memories and personal safety lol. I didn't really give any details about my sister because well this is a public thread. But she can be quite violent and destructive. Right now she is having a high so everything is great. But at any moment she could have a low and it just so happens that her lows usually occur at the end of June/early July because that is around her anniversary. Her husband and her are not divorced nor are they legally separated but rather she lives with my parents and her husband lives with his mom. So she gets jealous that I am married and have the life she wants with the son she always wanted; as she has 3 girls. (these are her words, not mine) I apologize if I have said too much as I don't usually tell my life story to a bunch of strangers lol. Anyway, the last time we all went to Florida at my parent's house, she flipped out on me and threw a heavy object at my dd's head who was only 1 years old at that time. Thank God she has bad aim and missed her! But we were together for a week before she flipped out and so that is why I picked to only stay with them for 3 days as that was the longest dh would allow for. Yet, apart of me doesn't want to stay with them and another part feels guilty because I want my kids to spend time with their grandparents. We all live 30 minutes away from each other but I rarely get to see them because of my sister. Ahhh I guess I will suck it up and there's always 911 if it gets out of hand lol.

 

[kirstenb1]

That's a lot of people!!! I'd stay at WDW, but take the whole group out to dinner for your Dad's birthday, and spend a decent amount of time during the day at their home visiting with them (unless your folks would be going to the parks too). Then, when dh arrives, you could do the parks.

 

[DisneyFansInLINY]

That's a lot of people!!! I'd stay at WDW, but take the whole group out to dinner for your Dad's birthday, and spend a decent amount of time during the day at their home visiting with them (unless your folks would be going to the parks too). Then, when dh arrives, you could do the parks.

We are all going to the parks together and have several dinner plans together including my dad's birthday on July 4 at the Morocco restaurant and breakfast at 1900 Park Fare for my daughter's birthday on July 5. My daughter is dressing up as the Queen of Hearts, my son is dressing as Tweedle Dee, my nieces are Alice, the Mad Hatter and the Cheshire Cat. And they are all staying at POP from July 2-5. So we will be together alot lol.

 

[ldo]

with that info, I would either stay at a WDW hotel for the 1st 3 nights or maybe at a hotel closer to parents' home for those 1st 3 nights. Aside from it being a bad time of year for you sis, the extra people, commotion, in the house could also possibly be a tipping point for her. I would want limited, controlled visits and a safe, worry free place to sleep with my kids and to escape to if things get uncomfortable.

 

[MSSANDRA]

After your first post, I was saying stay with your parents but you have some real concerns withyour sister's behavior.I would stay on site but have a car so that you could go hang out with your family but have a way to leave if your sister's begins to act unbalanced.

 

[blessedby3]

I would definately stay on property for the whole stay and get together with your family for dinners and in the parks some. I have traveled with extended family (who dont have the issues you have) and private family time is definately a plus. We did a mountain vacation with all of DH's family in a large cabin...and that was way too much togetherness

 

[diamondpixienc]

I can agree with this. Split the time. When DH comes down, stay at the resort. Till then, stay with mom and dad.

Throw a big party half the cake with a 63 and the other half with a 6. Celabrate the time you have with family as crazy as they are as much as they make you

^This^ It's not about "them" it's about your time with your mom and dad even for a little while. I only have my dad now and as crazy as my brother and the other fam make me at times I still love them drama and all. Besides its just 3 days before DH arrive. You can do it.