What would you do??? Need advice/opinions on my KOTS plan....

[PrincessasMommy]

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[Darcy03231]

I would tell her ahead of time. Especially as you say she's a special needs child. I know my kids love to talk about their upcoming trips with their friends and that's half the fun for them. Also, sometimes special children need a little more time to adjust to a little more time to adjust to big things.

 

[PrincessasMommy]

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[*KeepMovingForward*]

Also....if we tell her ahead of time.....any creative suggestions??? I am thinking of maybe giving it to the kids as a "gift from the new baby" when they come to the hospital after I deliver this one. We always get our older kids a "special gift from the baby", I think that might be better as it is really a family gift?!?

I did something similar when I surprised the whole family with a trip to Disney for Christmas. I actually managed to go 9 months without uttering a peep to DH or the kids. I had planned a Disney Cruise and a week at Disney and we were set to leave late on Christmas Day-none of them had a clue. My kids were 10 (dd) and 12 (ds) at the time. On Christmas Eve (after the extended family all went home), we traditionally get to open up one gift each before bed. I gave my one gift to the kids and my husband and said they all had to unwrap them at the same exact time (video recorder in my hand)...they all opened their boxes and saw Disney brochures and boarding passes...then saw the date and well, I can't type exactly what they said (DH specifically), but they went WILD! DD and DS were screaming and soooo excited. (I think my husbands jaw hit the floor, but he recovered quickly). By far, it was so worth keeping that secret to myself for all that time-and for taking the time to make sure I delivered the message in a special way. They still talk about the time mom blew their hair back with the last minute trip (last minute to them anyway).
Every so often I will goof with them and say, "What do you say we drop everything and just go to Disney tomorrow"...they give me that hesitant look as if to say is she serious? They never know when I'll pull the next rabbit out of my hat...and they LOVE it!

Anyhoo...If you opt for giving the "gift" from the baby(or something along those lines) you could do essentially the same thing. Sharing the news with DD in front of her class would be awesome too. Either way will be thrilling for her! PP has a point though, it is better when the kids can share the excitement with their friends-as long as nobody would feel bad (other special needs kids who will not be going to Disney).
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[PrincessasMommy]

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[powellrj]

I HATE surprises. When I was a kid, my DF surprised us with a trip to Kings Island in Ohio for the grand opening when the park first opened. While I appreciated the thought, I have always regretted that I didn't know about the trip ahead of time so I could talk to my friends about it, read more information about it (there were things going on that we missed because we didn't know about them and because I was a kid who would read and study everything I would have known what to look for) and just had time for the excitement to build.

Part of my kids favorite part of the vacation is helping to make plans. They pour over the menus to help pick restaurants, read about the rides and just really have a chance to get excited. I think surprise trips ruin that part of the vacation for them. For me, planing is half the fun.

If you want a way to surprise her now, I would buy a passporter book and wrap it up and tell her its an early birthday gift and then let her help make some plans so she can have time to get excited too.

I wouldn't tell her at school. My kids would kill me if I ever did anything like that to them.