What would you do? Help needed

[justhat]

I just really wanted to say thank you for your comments.

I went to the counselor on Monday. She really validated my feelings. I am not sure that I want a divorce, but I do know that some things need to change in my marriage.

Due to my husband's messy divorce from his ex-wife, we are probably not eligible to adopt. I don't want to go into all the details here. It is hard not having many options.

As some of you know, I am dealing with my mom's lung cancer and take her Friday to the hospital so that she can have a port put in. My plate is full, but I will try to stay positive.

I'm glad to hear you are at least getting some help from the counselor as I can only imagine what you are going through trying to deal with this all on your own.

FWIW, my husband fully supported your feelings as well and said that if kids were that important to him, and I chose not to pursue any possible options, that he would want to leave as well. And that is coming from a man, who really never had the desire for kids that I did, but understands wanting/needing something so much and being denied by someone who is supposedly there to back you 100%. So please try to ignore the comments saying that you are using your husband or whatever, they're simply untrue and not particularly helpful.