What would you do? Dating related

[Aurora63]

So, I went out with this guy about a month ago. He seemed very nice and we talked about going out again.

In the week that followed, we texted a few times, then he called me on Saturday to go out again, the following weekend. I said yes.

So, the following Saturday comes, he calls me and says he's sick, he can't go out. I tell him I understand, no big deal, we'll do it some other time.

So no phone calls that week, though when I am in his store (he works in a grocery store where I shop) he always comes up to me and chats.

Thanksgiving comes and goes. Now I get sick.

Anyway, everytime I see him at the store, he seeks me out and talks to me, though we still have not made any plans to go out again. I am wondering if he just lost interest.

What would you do next?? I do like the guy, but the whole no plan thing is a bit annoying. I hate not knowing if someone is really interested or not. I was thinking about just calling him and asking him. I figure I have nothing to lose, if he wants to go out again then he'll say yes, if not I'll get over it but at least I'll know. He is a bit shy, so if he does want to go out again maybe this will be the push he needs.

Thoughts??

 

[Cindyluwho]

Give it ONE shot - you ask him out. Ask him out for something casual. If he accepts, great. If not, well there you go! If he doesn't accept but then doesn't ever call again....he's just not that into you.

 

[2goofycampers]

Give it ONE shot - you ask him out. Ask him out for something casual. If he accepts, great. If not, well there you go! If he doesn't accept but then doesn't ever call again....he's just not that into you.

Agreed.

 

[Sheree Bobbins]

I agree. It wouldn't hurt to be assertive here. As long as you can take being rejected by him, ask him out. If you can't stand the thought of rejection (pain of embarrassment or what have you), then just let the relationship go.

 

[disneymarie]

One thought,
Once a guy did that to me and it was just a polite ease off and let go as he went back with an ex....So he was polite but never brought up a date.
Just a thought

 

[Mickeyistheman]

I totally understand how frustrating it is especially nowadays with dating.

I hate communicating via text as well, call me and talk to me don't text me.

I am going to be blunt with you and I wish you luck but IF he cancelled and waits that long to get in touch with you....

He's just not that into you.

Go with your gut reaction that he has lost interest. Sure he may be a nice guy but he has your number and if he really wanted to take you out again, he would call you and ask you to go out again.

You could give it a shot but is it really worth getting the run around from him again? Guys don't like being the bad guy so he may say yes and then cancel on you again. I would chalk it up and move on to someone who wants to make plans and spend time with you.

Good Luck!!

 

[Aliceacc]

The holiday season is a great excuse for a casual invitation... it can be shopping at the mall, the local big Christmas tree, or even just driving around looking at the lights.

As you said, what do you have to lose?

 

[John Smith1]

Sorry, he's not into you.

 

[maccagerl]

If it's been a month and he's not calling or texting or asking you out ( which he's got plenty of opportunity to do since he sees you in his store every week) I'd forget about dating him. He's just not that into you.
Which is a good thing because now you can cross him off your list and focus your interests elsewhere!

 

[Pin Wizard]

Seems men avoid being straight forward at all costs.

 

[chrisw127]

I'm thinking you can do a lot better. Move on.

 

[ols386]

If he were really interested, you'd know for sure...you wouldn't be wondering what's going on. "He's just not that in to you", as the saying goes. I'd just move on.

 

[Took]

I totally understand how frustrating it is especially nowadays with dating.

I hate communicating via text as well, call me and talk to me don't text me.

I am going to be blunt with you and I wish you luck but IF he cancelled and waits that long to get in touch with you....

He's just not that into you.

Go with your gut reaction that he has lost interest. Sure he may be a nice guy but he has your number and if he really wanted to take you out again, he would call you and ask you to go out again.

You could give it a shot but is it really worth getting the run around from him again? Guys don't like being the bad guy so he may say yes and then cancel on you again. I would chalk it up and move on to someone who wants to make plans and spend time with you.

Good Luck!!

You know, this is my reaction. I'd skip the phone call and move on. Many fish in the sea.

 

[hiwaygal]

You know, this is my reaction. I'd skip the phone call and move on. Many fish in the sea.

another vote for going fishing...

 

[Disney Doll]

Not interested. Move along. Nothing to see here....

Not meaning to be "flip" OP, but it sounds like he thinks you're nice, nice to talk to, but he's not that interested in taking it to the next level.

I'd probably continue to be pleasant to him when I saw him, but I wouldn't put too much stock into anything.

I asked my DH for the male perspective....DH says "If the guy was that interested, he'd call, text or ask her out when she was in the store. He has had enough opportunities to get a date with her". In all honesty, I have to agree with DH. When I was single, which was quite a while ago now, but I vaguely remember , guys that were interested found a way to convey their interest. There really wasn't a question in my mind as to "is he interested" with regard to the guys who were interested.

 

[MoniqueU]

If you call and he blows you off again personally I couldn't take that and would have to switch stores LOL. Not worth having to switch stores to me.