what to do

[jerseygirl81]

Your brother is definetly smiling down on you, and it is also nice of your DS to go along with it all! Have a great trip! Linda

 

[maddiesmom0116]

I was thinking the same thing but why should he it’s his vacation. Yes the bathroom has a door but no privacy curtain


Thank you going to call travel agent.

My BF stays at the cabins as she has 3 DD and DH, she loves it there, she won't stay anywhere else now. You may find a new favorite if it makes you feel any better.
When you asked the last time did you expect the mom to pay for the 11 year old? If not, she is most likely assuming it is the same offer as before even though an offer wasn't made. To be fair, she may not be prompting this and it is the sisters leading this effort because they are excited.

 

[Faith09]

My BF stays at the cabins as she has 3 DD and DH, she loves it there, she won't stay anywhere else now. You may find a new favorite if it makes you feel any better.
When you asked the last time did you expect the mom to pay for the 11 year old? If not, she is most likely assuming it is the same offer as before even though an offer wasn't made. To be fair, she may not be prompting this and it is the sisters leading this effort because they are excited.

The cabins are all booked up..... I think it was the little one and her sister. The oldest one never being and I can understand her wanting to visit the happiest place on earth. You should her the oldest whispering loudly..lol to the little one while I'm talking to her on the phone..I must admit it is cute but the mom is still the mom.

 

[tlh0726]

Glad that you will be able to take this girl along with you.
You are doing a great thing.

Definitely take the adjustable shower rod and shower curtain so that it will create a little more privacy space.

As for the bed wetting, make sure you pack something that you can place under her during the night. Best option would be to go to a medical supply place and get the things (not sure of the name) that they put under you when your in the hospital.

Hopefully she will not have her monthly during her visit to WDW. Have you discussed with her, her mother, or the grandmother as to what your son found?

 

[Faith09]

Glad that you will be able to take this girl along with you.
You are doing a great thing.

Definitely take the adjustable shower rod and shower curtain so that it will create a little more privacy space.

As for the bed wetting, make sure you pack something that you can place under her during the night. Best option would be to go to a medical supply place and get the things (not sure of the name) that they put under you when your in the hospital.

Hopefully she will not have her monthly during her visit to WDW. Have you discussed with her, her mother, or the grandmother as to what your son found?

Yes!! They are aware. I will probably bring a air mattress and clean it daily if solid. Didnt think about monthly will check with mom and ask. Hopefully mom will pay for her to go.

 

[ceecee]

So the 11 yr old's mom is 24??? She had a baby at 13? Poor little girl is all I can say. They make overnights (pull-up type things) that fit large kids so maybe get her some of those and she could sleep with her sister and you and your son could share a bed. As for the monthly thing 11 is very young for that so maybe you can talk to her as to appropiate hygiene, etc. You are doing a good thing including her!

 

[Faith09]

So the 11 yr old's mom is 24??? She had a baby at 13? Poor little girl is all I can say. They make overnights (pull-up type things) that fit large kids so maybe get her some of those and she could sleep with her sister and you and your son could share a bed. As for the monthly thing 11 is very young for that so maybe you can talk to her as to appropiate hygiene, etc. You are doing a good thing including her!

oops she's 26 had her at 15.

 

[ceecee]

oops she's 26 had her at 15.

Still too young!!! Bless you for taking her along as part of your family.

 

[Faith09]

I agree. One thing I must admit.. Her 11 year is sooo precious and the grandmother is too. I talk with grandma almost everyday checking on my niece. I know my brother was not married to her but I feel like she's my in-law. I don't support her ways all the time. I'm continously encouraging her to stay in school. My brother died on Oct 11, 2008 two week after we buried my brother her father died. So my niece lost a daddy and grand-father within a month. I just want mom to be responsible!! We talk about this allllllllll the time. She had her tubes tied so that's a plus...Still cheering her on to finish school.

Grandma will be here soon to bring my NIECE!!! going to let her help plan the trip. Hopefully she want tire me out to bad. I've work 10 twelve hour shifts in a row

 

[KSG'sDisneyMem]

What a wonderful thing you are doing! Not sure how long your brother was with nieces mom but if niece is 5 and her sister is 11, was your brother her "father figure?" I can imagine that she was greatly impacted by the loss of your brother and has many fond memories of him as well. You are a very generous person and can I also say that your son is also very caring and generous. 18 is a tough age between adolesence and adulthood. Sounds like he came around and the cabins are a great choice for you. Glad that all worked out for your family. I can only imagine how special the 11 yo will feel being able to take this trip and seeing Disney for the first time. Have a wonderful trip.

 

[dreamin_disney]

its noce what your doing for your niece. I think the mom should pay for the 11 yr old since she wasnt invited. But if the mom cant and you cant afford it, maybe both girls shouldnt go. Imagine how sad it would be for one to stay home or feel like one is luckier than the other. I know i know some will disagree with me but just my opinion, if she has to use the SS check then let her, now if you just dont want the 11 yr old to go that understandble because you want the trip for your niece and son but I still feel both girls go or both dont(Mom should pay for the 11 year old)

 

[4 DZNY NUTZ]

First I have to say that I am sorry to hear about your brother my brother passed away a few years ago and I know how hard it is to deal with your sibling passing away so young.

We stayed in the All Star Music in February 2008 in a preferred room, not a suite and it had a privacy curtain between where the beds are & where the sinks are to the bathroom. You may want to check it out since I know the suites are double the price of what a regular room would be at the value resorts.

good luck & have fun

 

[Faith09]

All the cabins and family suites at the value resort was completly booked. We are going to make ends meet with staying at Pop. My niece will vacation with us this year regardless. Every year in August is our family vacation and she is part of it. Thanks for all of the suggestions you guys are great. Still keeping my fingers crossed that the mom and grandma of the 11 year old will pay.

 

[Dizisfun]

I have to agree with another writer, I would take both girls or neither one of them. And you have to realize that some people are totally selfish. It will only be the 11 year old child that suffers, not the mother. Your brother knew that there was an older child when he got together with this woman and you said yourself that he wanted to buy the 11 year old extra Christmas gifts because he didn't want HIS CHILD getting more then the older. I agree that the mother should pay but I honestly don't think she will. Good Luck and as I always tell my children and grandchildren (blood related and step and they are all treated the same) DO WHAT YOUR HEART LEADS YOU TO DO!!!!

 

[Aliceacc]

Find a way to take her.

Take a look at the trundle rooms at Port Orleans Riverside. They're cheaper than a family suite, and sleep 5-- so there should be a way to work the sleeping arrangements.

But this poor baby needs someone who doesn't feel she's a burden, someone to love her and help her. It looks as though you're her best chance at a "normal" family.

 

[bumbershoot]

Yes!! They are aware. I will probably bring a air mattress and clean it daily if solid.

The other poster was referring to an underpad, or bed pad. I just bought one for a friend who is home after having a liver transplant, it was around $16 and is pretty big. That way if it is soiled you just wash that, without having to worry about if the air mattress is clean enough.

11 year old grandmother says she will split the difference with mom....

Very good.


Having half-siblings, I know how complicated things can get.

 

[sk!mom]

I'm not sure that understand the situation but here goes...

If the girls are sisters and both live with mom then I think it's cruel to invite one and not the other. Did you take the little one last year? I didn't understand that part. If you invited both last year then I'm sure mom just assumed that both were included this year.

I would suggest staying offsite. It will possibly be cheaper and everyone can have some privacy.

 

[dreamin_disney]

we stayed at pop in nov(1st wdw trip) It was dh, me and dd(10) . There were two beds in the room.
The girls can change in the room while your son changes in the bathroom .


IN the morning when it was time to shower whoever got up first showed, then woke up the next adult, dd stayed asleep so we either changed in the room or bathroom, then when we were dressed we woke her up to get ready.

I think a pop room will be fine and the best value, Two beds and an air matress will be fine that way your son has his own bed, you and the 5 yr old share. To be honest we didnt spend most time in the room anyways but to sleep and shower.

Pop also has a landuary room to wash clothes. We took those lil liquid pouches cant remember the name. You can find them at ww or target and are cheap.

 

[Faith09]

The other poster was referring to an underpad, or bed pad. I just bought one for a friend who is home after having a liver transplant, it was around $16 and is pretty big. That way if it is soiled you just wash that, without having to worry about if the air mattress is clean enough.





Very good.


Having half-siblings, I know how complicated things can get.

Thanks for your help. We use them at work so I will make sure she's comfty...

 

[Belle5]

I am very sorry about the loss of your brother. I lost mine four years ago and it is very painful still. The year following his death we met his wife and children at WDW and it was bittersweet--but mostly sweet.

I also lost my father at 11 and it was such a vulnerable time. I seriously think that if you do leave the 11 year old home and she watches her five year old sister get to go to WDW, it may be a turning point in THEIR relationship. I wouldn't be a bit surprised to see the 11 year old acting out against the five year old--maybe for a very long time. I think she will feel very, very rejected. For the five year old's sake, somebody needs to really see and reach out to that eleven year old and let her know she belongs.