What to do about adult child who won't grow up?

[C.Ann]

There's nothing you can do about it.. Your mom has chosen to be an enabler" and what she is dealing with is the natural consequences of her own actions (or lack of)..

If it bothers you that much to listen to her, then you are going to have to make it perfectly clear to her that your brother and his issues are not something you are willing to discuss with her - or listen to her complain about..

Your mom needs to use Tough Love on your brother - and unfortunately, you may have to use Tough Love on her if it's really that stressful for you to listen to..

 

[DVC~OKW~96]

My sister and her husband live with my parents, paying nothing for anything at all, under the guise of "caring for them." She sleeps until four or five at night because she's up all night, every night on the internet.

My parents have allowed this since she was in high school. Nothing I can do will, or ever did change it.

Leave it. It's the way it is, and the way it will be until your Mother chooses to do something about it.

 

[kirbsam]

is his name peter pan?

 

[babyrich]

The more you try to change the way your mom treats your brother the more aggrevated you will get. The treatment will not change. Tell your mom that you are sorry; but as long as she does not help her situation, you cant sit and listen to her complain. Wouldnt you feel this way about anyone you know? If she wont help herself make it better, than why should you be burdened with hearing about it? Good Luck!