What things did you add to your ceremony to make it personal?!

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Just wondered if any one has any ideas of things to add to your ceremony. We like the idea of a sand ceremony, and we love the idea of the wine ceremony (the love letter part) but I dont drink wine :(
What did you do to make your ceremony personal? Does anyone know of any other ideas? We are not particularly religious though!
TIA!!
 
We had an Escape wedding with 14 guests. We did a community sand ceremony where we had everyone join us on the altar. First, my parents and DH's mom poured in their sand, then our sisters and their families, then our family friends who were there and then us.

Everyone commented on how much they really liked that. If you would like the wording to our ceremony, just PM me.
 
A sand ceremony would be lovely as your princess will be at a perfect age to join in with you and help pour the sand.

The other option is the unity candle but not such a good idea at outdoor venues in case of a breeze blowing it out or again with you having the little one.
 
Instead of a sand or candle lighting we are doing a hand tying. There are many variations. With mine we are using a cord that is made of several ribbons tied together. As each line is spoken a cord is wrapped around. Here's what I wrote up:

Officiant: There is an ancient Celtic tradition of binding a couple in marriage by hand-fasting -- literally, tying their hands together with cord or ribbon as a symbol that they are bound together not just for a lifetime, but for eternity. This is also the origins of the term “tying the knot”.
Coleen and Michael have decided to include a hand-fasting in their wedding ceremony in homage to Coleen’s Irish and Scottish ancestry and to emphasize their eternal bond and reinforce the feeling that they never wish to be parted from one another.
[Coleen and Michael join hands, right to right, left to left. Officiant wraps cord around their joined hands.]
These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever.
These are the hands that will work alongside yours, as together you build your future. These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other.
These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief fills your mind. These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes; tears of sorrow, and tears of joy.
These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children. These are the hands that will help you to hold your family as one.
These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it. And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged, will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.

Bless these hands that you see before you this day.
May they always reach out with love, gentleness, and respect.
May they build a loving relationship that lasts a lifetime.
May they always be held by one another.
If you follow these words and heed this sacred binding,
your hands will heal, protect, shelter, and guide.
 

Instead of a sand or candle lighting we are doing a hand tying. There are many variations. With mine we are using a cord that is made of several ribbons tied together. As each line is spoken a cord is wrapped around. Here's what I wrote up:

Officiant: There is an ancient Celtic tradition of binding a couple in marriage by hand-fasting -- literally, tying their hands together with cord or ribbon as a symbol that they are bound together not just for a lifetime, but for eternity. This is also the origins of the term “tying the knot”.
Coleen and Michael have decided to include a hand-fasting in their wedding ceremony in homage to Coleen’s Irish and Scottish ancestry and to emphasize their eternal bond and reinforce the feeling that they never wish to be parted from one another.
[Coleen and Michael join hands, right to right, left to left. Officiant wraps cord around their joined hands.]
These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever.
These are the hands that will work alongside yours, as together you build your future. These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other.
These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief fills your mind. These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes; tears of sorrow, and tears of joy.
These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children. These are the hands that will help you to hold your family as one.
These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it. And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged, will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.

Bless these hands that you see before you this day.
May they always reach out with love, gentleness, and respect.
May they build a loving relationship that lasts a lifetime.
May they always be held by one another.
If you follow these words and heed this sacred binding,
your hands will heal, protect, shelter, and guide.

That's beautiful. And inspiring. Doug and I aren't religious in the least, but we're both very proud of English, Irish, and Scottish ancestries. Something like this could definitely work. Thanks for sharing! :)
 
Just wondered if any one has any ideas of things to add to your ceremony. We like the idea of a sand ceremony, and we love the idea of the wine ceremony (the love letter part) but I dont drink wine :(
What did you do to make your ceremony personal? Does anyone know of any other ideas? We are not particularly religious though!
TIA!!


Once upon a time (roughly three years ago..lol), DF and I were planning a huge wedding and I loved the idea of a wine ceremony. Like you, I'm not a fan of win...it probably has something to do with how allergic I am to the sulfer in the wine! Instead, we decided to leave out the wine, have our "love letter" to each other and include the wine glasses. Then we were going to include two bottles of cokes...the ones in the glass, not the plastic! If you like this idea, you can always replace the wine with something you do like!
 
That's beautiful. And inspiring. Doug and I aren't religious in the least, but we're both very proud of English, Irish, and Scottish ancestries. Something like this could definitely work. Thanks for sharing! :)

Thanks! DF is Jewish but not religious and I'm more spiritual than anything. We are so non-traditional so I decided to write our whole ceremony and have friends officiate. I talk about the symbolic aspects of everything in a ceremony. I'm really very happy with it and very excited to do the hand tying. I think it's different and hasn't been seen a lot - although in my research I've come across it quite a bit so it may be becoming more popular.
 
I went with my fiancé to a friend of his's wedding, and they did something that I thought was really unique and sweet. Instead of the sand or candle ceremony, they had a rose ceremony. How it worked is they each had a separate vase with a rose, then, they both put their roses in the same vase. Some did a reading where it said that in their new house they should put the vase on a mantel or somewhere when they can see it. Then, whenever they just want to say I love you or I'm sorry, or whatever, they place a rose in the vase to let the other person know they were thinking of them. I thought it was one of the sweetest things. :lovestruc
 












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