What should I do?

[Mrs. Chamberlain]

My 13 year old brother has his first girlfriend. She supposedly just turned 15. I really dislike her. She was really mean to my sister when my sister was trying to look out for her. I'm just not okay with this girl dating my brother. She posts all this gross/strange stuff on Twitter and it really freaks me out.

I always date the ugly kids. I dont judge by looks i judge by personality. I don't give a **** what people think...

My gramma found out about my deepest darkest secrets. Cutting and bisexuality. Why me? Why me?

I mean if the counselour asks me later on if I'm a virgin I'll probably eventually say no.

But drugs, alcohol, and cigarrettes are a different story. That's like illegal, and she's not finding that out, if it kills me.

I honestly don't know what to do about this. I'm really freaking out about it. Any advice on what to do?

 

[coolshannie]

Do your parents know all of this? I would show your parents. Your brother might be upset with you for it, but he'll get over it. Id give the information to your parents because they may not only be able to save your brother from a bad situation, but they might be able to help this girl as well. It sounds to me like she really does need help getting her life together and maybe you could be alittle part of that. Sure we could say what comes around goes around, but sometimes being kind or helping those who don't deserve it and don't want it is the best and most selfless thing a person could do. I think she needs help, it sounds like she wants attention and may even be on drugs from what you've posted. If I am wrong I am sorry for assuming, but either way I think she could use some intervention in her life because years from now she might thank the person that helped her out of a crummy situation.

 

[JulielovesDisney]

definitely go to your parents with that information. they'll know how to handle it.

 

[Mrs. Chamberlain]

Do your parents know all of this? I would show your parents. Your brother might be upset with you for it, but he'll get over it. Id give the information to your parents because they may not only be able to save your brother from a bad situation, but they might be able to help this girl as well. It sounds to me like she really does need help getting her life together and maybe you could be alittle part of that. Sure we could say what comes around goes around, but sometimes being kind or helping those who don't deserve it and don't want it is the best and most selfless thing a person could do. I think she needs help, it sounds like she wants attention and may even be on drugs from what you've posted. If I am wrong I am sorry for assuming, but either way I think she could use some intervention in her life because years from now she might thank the person that helped her out of a crummy situation.

definitely go to your parents with that information. they'll know how to handle it.

Thanks guys. I told my mom about all of this, but I'm still worried. He's my little brother, you know? It's scary to see him date someone like that.

And on the subject of her, she really needs some help. I'm not sure what I can do, but I could try to get her help.

 

[disneychick2721]

Hes 13?
Its going to last about a week.
How long have then been 'going out'?
Dont read too much into it unless it lasts longer than a week or two.

 

[Mrs. Chamberlain]

Hes 13?
Its going to last about a week.
How long have then been 'going out'?
Dont read too much into it unless it lasts longer than a week or two.

It's been about 3 weeks now

 

[disneychick2721]

It's been about 3 weeks now

for realz ?
then yeah take some action.

 

[mikeyandscoobyx2]

He may hate you at first, but it's not like he was going to marry her anyway. - No rudeness intended.

I don't understand why some people are so over-dramatic in their "love-life"

This girl in my school was one of the valedictorian's for my 8th grade graduation, and in her speech she mentioned her relationship and her broken heart.

Geez, if you can't get over a simple relationship like that, then you can't get married lol.

- Definitely tell a trusted adult, because that girl needs therapy or something. And it's nice that you're looking out for your brother.

 

[imabrat]

Print the Twitter entries. Like, print the page just as it appears on your screen, don't edit anything. You need to have a paper trail before you take action. If you don't and someone questions her about her entries on Twitter, she will deny, deny, deny and delete those entries after.

 

[Mrs. Chamberlain]

He may hate you at first, but it's not like he was going to marry her anyway. - No rudeness intended.

I don't understand why some people are so over-dramatic in their "love-life"

This girl in my school was one of the valedictorian's for my 8th grade graduation, and in her speech she mentioned her relationship and her broken heart.

Geez, if you can't get over a simple relationship like that, then you can't get married lol.

- Definitely tell a trusted adult, because that girl needs therapy or something. And it's nice that you're looking out for your brother.

I'll see what I can do. I'm kinda worried about her.

Print the Twitter entries. Like, print the page just as it appears on your screen, don't edit anything. You need to have a paper trail before you take action. If you don't and someone questions her about her entries on Twitter, she will deny, deny, deny and delete those entries after.

I didn't think of that! I know that if anything is mentioned near my brother about this, he'll tell her and she'll delete it. That's a really good idea.

 

[Shelton123]

My 13 year old brother has his first girlfriend. She supposedly just turned 15. I really dislike her. She was really mean to my sister when my sister was trying to look out for her. I'm just not okay with this girl dating my brother. She posts all this gross/strange stuff on Twitter and it really freaks me out.






I honestly don't know what to do about this. I'm really freaking out about it. Any advice on what to do?

I think that's her odd brand of sarcasm. I doubt anyone would just post "Oh yeah I cut myself" like that on twitter if they did. Usually kids who do aren't proud of it.

 

[DramaQueen]

I think that's her odd brand of sarcasm. I doubt anyone would just post "Oh yeah I cut myself" like that on twitter if they did. Usually kids who do aren't proud of it.

attention seekers do. trust me, i've known too many people who showboat about having eating disorders or cutting because they want attention.

this girl definitely sounds like the typical 15-year old dramatic attention seeker, but i can see how that's definitely not the type of girl you want to see your brother with. it's hard to say what you should do, because you're most likely going to piss him off whatever you wind up doing. but it's definitely for his own good, sounds like this girl is a terrible influence, and he may get pressured into doing some bad stuff.

i'd definitely let my mom know how worried i am, and hopefully your mom will take it seriously and try to do something about it.
good luck .

 

[imabrat]

I'll see what I can do. I'm kinda worried about her.



I didn't think of that! I know that if anything is mentioned near my brother about this, he'll tell her and she'll delete it. That's a really good idea.

That was the first and only piece of advice I have, lol. This girl does sound like the overdramatic kind, but I wouldn't take any chances. It could be nothing, it could be something - better to be safe than sorry. I know if I were accused of anything and I had it written online somewhere, I'd delete it ASAP. I really don't know what to tell you besides printing it, other than the standard "tell someone". I hope everything turns alright in the end though! I'm not my sister's biggest fan, but if she was in any kind of danger I'd be all over it like white on rice.

 

[pigletgirl]

Your bother sounds pretty naive and really not quite sure what to do with this situation. I would print the twitter messages, and talk to him about it. Why its not good, ect. Then, I would maybe try and talk to the girl, and if it escalated, I would get a parent involved/

But yeah, your bro needs your help!
BTW, I hate getting into my bros' gf stuff because it usually just turns into a big fight. The time I remember was when he broke up with his girl via text. I knew her and pretty much freaked out at him for doing so. It was AWEFUL!

 

[DISKATER69]

My friend had this same problem. Just breaking up with her would be very bad. My friend finally broke up with his girlfriend when I talked him into it. She was pissed off and started cutting herself. She even cut my friend's name into her leg. Then her parents found out and she is in a mental hospital right now. So just ending the relationship right away isn't the answer.

 

[MickeyisBeast]

This girl sounds Mental.

 

[Mrs. Chamberlain]

That was the first and only piece of advice I have, lol. This girl does sound like the overdramatic kind, but I wouldn't take any chances. It could be nothing, it could be something - better to be safe than sorry. I know if I were accused of anything and I had it written online somewhere, I'd delete it ASAP. I really don't know what to tell you besides printing it, other than the standard "tell someone". I hope everything turns alright in the end though! I'm not my sister's biggest fan, but if she was in any kind of danger I'd be all over it like white on rice.

You were so right about the deleting thing. She posted a whole bunch of stuff on Twitter today that really bugged me. I told my mom and my mom confronted my brother. The next thing I knew, all of those tweets were deleted.

 

[disneyworldluvr349]

I would go to your brother. He seems very young to even be dating at all, but that could just be the way I was raised. I don't know if he would understand what cutting is or what is the reason behind it, but again I could be naive in thinking that is a really young and innocent age.
I would talk to him, and be honest. Tell him that you think she has some issues that she needs to work through and if you think he'll understand tell him the issues you discovered on twitter.
I think it is ultimately his decision in who he chooses to go "out" with and remember that he is still very young, that that it probably won't last for very long.