What should I do? (long post)

[wvjules]

A month or so ago, I had a problem with a boy throwing snow/ice balls at Kendra and her friends (not in a nice way either). Since then, we hadn't really had any trouble with him until last weeky.

Kendra cames in the door and says that the boy who threw hard snowballs at her was throwing rocks at her. I asked if he was throwing it at her or if he was throwing it as she rode her bike past. She said he was throwing it at her. She went back out and I stood in the door watching. That little ****er threw a rock at her!!!! I went and *****ed him out like there was no tomorrow. Two of my neighbors came out to see what the hell was going on. We all gave him and his friends a piece of our mind.

BTW, I think I should mention that this little prick is 15!!! My DD is 7!!!

I called the park manager and said if they don't do something about him, I'm going to end up slapping the snot out of him. (They know he's a problem. They've had complaints before.)

Well tonight he rode his bike past the house and said some choice words to her. ( I confirmed with the other kids that were around.)

So I decided to pay his parents a visit. Well, that was a waste of time. His dad didn't believe me that all this happened. He's like "did you see with your own eyes him throw the rock at her?" "Did you actually hear him say that to her?"

Supposedly they had a talk with him after the rock incident and said he won't be a problem anymore. Well, that didn't last, now did it?

Anyway, I'm not letting kendra leave the yard until this is resloved. I'm punishing her for what this little !@#@!#@! does/did.

Now that I've visited his house and spoken with his "parents", I fear he will do something worse to her.

My question is, what recourse do I have? No one will do anything about him.

 

[jx3smom]

This seems to becoming a dangerous situation and maybe the police should be involved. Maybe they can convince the parents that something needs to be done or the kid will end up with a police record. Your poor little girl should not be afraid to leave the yard.

 

[kdibattista]

Just a thought....

Since he threw rocks at her, isnt that be a form of assault? I would contact the police department and although nothing would probably come of it, a visit to this $#@* from a cop may scare the you know what out of him.

 

[DonnaS]

I agree with jxsmom.

Poor Kendra-- give her a hug for me.

 

[jamsmom]

I would contact the police and be sure to have the other children's names so they can speak with them to confirm.

 

[worm761]

definitely call the police. when i was 11 yrs old a kid threw a rock. not at me but at my friend. it hit me in the head. 1/2 inch from my temple. it hit a major artery and i lost tons of blood. they had to stitch the vein and the skin. what this kid is doing is very dangerous. call the police and file a report.

 

[wvjules]

I don't think I can call the police over an incident that happened 4 days ago. Even if I can/do, I think that will make things so much worse. I feel like we're in a no-win situation. Either they get evicted or I move. Seems like the easier[/] way out.

I also thought about a restraining order, but then I decided against it.

 

[DonnaS]

I think you could call the police over a 4 day ago incident, especially since you just today(?) talked to the parents.

However, I do understand your concerns over things getting worse. It just seems wrong to have to live in fear like that though.

Plus, how would it make things worse? I know what you mean, but since Kendra isn't allowed outside without an adult-- if something else does happen maybe it would lead to eviction of his family... And it would show the park manager how serious you are.

 

[kejoda]

If talking with the parents doesn't help you will have to call the cops. This jerk knows his parents won't do anything so he feels free to do as he pleases. Calling the cops are your best resource. They will know thats its a problem and the parents know you mean business.

 

[nativetxn]

I vote for calling the police, too. Little kids can be witnesses too and it sounds like she has witnesses.

You know what? I would call the police <b>now</b> if I was you. You tried to do it the nice way by speaking with his parents and it did no good. Call the police.

 

[CynJ]

I would certainly call the police. At the very least they could pay the kid's house a visit and let them know it really is a serious incident.

Don't wait until it escalates any further.

 

[lil mermaid]

Your daughter was assaulted. And who knows what this creepy kid will do next? Please call the police.

I am so sorry that you have to be in this situation.

 

[TEENEE]

Call the police. If this kid gets away with throwing rocks, whats next. You could be doing him a favor by getting the police involved. It may be just what he needs to straighten him out.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

Four days or not, I would call the police. At the very least they will talk to this boy. His parents don't seem to care, maybe the police will scare him enough. Plus this will alert them to a future troublemaker.

 

[December99]

Jules....if you don't feel comfortable calling the police in regard to an incident for so many days ago definitely call them as soon as the next incident happens. And make sure there are witnesses, which it sounds like there are. You could call the police and at least talk to them and see if you can file a report from something that happened a few days ago. If he does something verbal you might not be able to but if he continues throwing things at her and her friends, definitely get the police involved.

 

[snoopy]

Your daughter was assaulted. And who knows what this creepy kid will do next? Please call the police.

I agree.

My niece was bullied by an older boy in the neighborhood, unfortunately, he then carried over his agression to sexual assault. In hindsight, obviously her parents wished they had called the police on their first instinct, when he was just physically bullying her.

Please do think about at least contacting the police to let them know what has occurred. Who knows, maybe Kendra isn't the only little girl getting bullied.

 

[doxdogy]

If you don't think the police will do anything since it has been four days, then try calling the District Attorney's office. Explain the situation to them and ask them their opinion. Also, here in our city we are divided into zones and each zone has a commander. Usually, the number is listed in the book for the zone commanders. You might want to go that route and see if the same is true for your town. Also, there should be a information number for the police too. If there are no zone commanders call the information number. The kid has definitely broken the law. I would also mention to the authorities that you have spoken to the parents and they are under the impression that their child would do no such thing to another child. In addition, mention that the park management has had complaints regarding this child.

 

[StampMom]

I vote for calling the police, too. The worst they can say is "sorry, we can't do anything since it happened 4 days ago." But I doubt they'll say that. Even if there's no "official" action (as in an arrest), maybe they can go and give the kid (and the parents, who IMO need it even more) a bit of a scare.

{{{HUGS}}} to you and Kendra.

 

[Keli]

Jules, I understand your hesitancy to call the police. I would be reacting in the same way. It's hard to escalate the situation when you aren't sure what the reprocussions to your dd might be. I just wanted to say that I'm sorry this is happening to Kendra and that I hope it all works out soon.